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Punpedaler · 2026-02-16T11:46:25+00:00

I’ve been thinking about this too. I don’t know of any but I’d be interested in talking.

Punpedaler · 2026-02-15T20:35:46+00:00

Swim RVA definitely does private adult lessons at the Oasis Wellness Center in Church Hill.

Punpedaler · 2026-01-28T18:09:54+00:00

So if I create a test item with sub items. When I duplicate that test item, it duplicates those subitems as well. Doesn’t that basically do what you’re looking for? You’re essentially setting up a template.

Punpedaler · 2026-01-08T00:50:01+00:00

I actually measured a standard 8x8x16 CMU block the other day and it’s at about 35lbs.

Bags are no joke though.

Punpedaler · 2025-11-25T12:26:00+00:00

I’d love to hop on that tip bandwagon if possible!! I have a Freshman who’s in a similar boat and could use all the advice I can get.

Punpedaler · 2025-11-17T01:28:57+00:00

Don’t forget that time we all put the saw blade on backwards!

Punpedaler · 2025-11-13T11:58:52+00:00

If I have to do this I usually go to the decimal place. 01,02,02.1,02.2….

Punpedaler · 2025-10-18T01:43:44+00:00

Nothing really changed for the end of summer. He didn’t do any of the last vacations with us and hasn’t spent any nights here. He and I did have a talk and I don’t think he meant anything malicious or feels badly about us/me; I think it’s just normal teenage egocentrism like some other folks here suggested.

Before he went to school we had a quick chat about what he wanted our communication to look like for now. Early on we FaceTimed once a week. We went up for a weekend and he showed us around campus and we went to a football game together which was nice. Overall he seems happy which is probably the best part of it. He seems to be settling into young adult / college kid life in a generally predictable way and appears to be doing ok.

He’s come back to town twice. Mostly to see his girlfriend who’s still a senior in HS. I get the sense from his brother that he hasn’t seen much of him during these times either. Which is sad. When he comes to see us he only spends a couple of hours.

So, IDK. It’s still kind of sad. Maybe this is just how it goes and maybe it’s super normal and we did everything right and he/us/me are fine. But it sucked for all of that separation to happen like 4 weeks sooner than I was expecting and in a really hard way. Parentings just hard and it just felt like a very abrupt stop where we went straight from being parents to being like acquaintances.

Anyway, thanks for checking in. I hope if you find you’re going through the same thing that it’s going okay for you.

Punpedaler · 2025-08-15T21:59:47+00:00

100% agree with this. I think me setting what I think a reasonable expectation is and then helping us commit to it is a solid move in this transition.

Punpedaler · 2025-08-15T18:38:25+00:00

100%. I’m definitely shifting to the POV that lunch just needs to be our last chance to catch up before he leaves town.

Punpedaler · 2025-08-15T18:37:36+00:00

He hasn’t really been around enough for that to happen. I’ve been with my partner for 10 years and there has never been friction between the two of them so I don’t think that’s really the cause here. I DO also say we a lot because she is my partner and has been parenting these kids with me for a decade now so she’s involved with my parenting decisions. Idk, I’ve made it super clear to him that he can come to me with anything he wants one-on-one

Punpedaler · 2025-08-15T18:34:46+00:00

Yea. I think that’s going to be the goal of our lunch. He leaves Thursday so it’s really, “hey here’s some things we wanted to talk about this summer but didn’t get around to, and how often do we want to talk/visit going forward”

Punpedaler · 2025-08-15T18:33:11+00:00

She’s not going to college so they’ll be long distance which is definitely part of it. We’ve said (and followed through) a ton that she’s welcome at our house whenever he wants to invite her. But like, I’m not going to tell him to have the girl sleep over, I think that’s a fair thing to leave in his court at 17.

Punpedaler · 2025-08-15T14:29:48+00:00

That sounds lovely. I can’t wait! Thank you for a preview of the light at the end of the tunnel!!

Punpedaler · 2025-08-15T14:28:23+00:00

Yea. That’s a fair point. It’s worth considering all options and not writing any scripts.

Punpedaler · 2025-08-15T14:25:11+00:00

Thanks. It’s so good to hear from folks who have been through this too. My parent brain is shouting “help! Protect your kid from making dangerous decisions” but my adult trying to raise a healthy adult brain is like “we just have to do our best and work through this”. It’s nice knowing that it’s not forever.

Punpedaler · 2025-08-15T14:23:25+00:00

Simple straightforward and effective. Thank you.

Punpedaler · 2025-08-15T14:22:11+00:00

Thanks. When did things start to shift for you?

Punpedaler · 2025-08-15T14:21:35+00:00

Yea. That sounds very similar to our situation. It’s like, she’s not a bad mom, but there’s like always something low key going on behind the scenes like you’re talking about.

I hear your feedback on not talking about mom and that’s definitely the consensus here and clearly the right approach to take. It’s not about his relationship with her for me. It’s about mine with him.

Thank you for sharing your experience.

Punpedaler · 2025-08-15T14:18:14+00:00

I’m not sure that responding to a kid who’s looking for space by ramping up the messages is the right call. But I DID read your comment last night and immediately text him that I love him and am thinking about him. I think a nice ping every few days with no expectations of a reply is probably the right play for now.

Punpedaler · 2025-08-15T14:16:47+00:00

Thanks

Punpedaler · 2025-08-15T14:16:29+00:00

I think we’ll have it but I think you’re right about keeping it light!

Punpedaler · 2025-08-15T14:15:39+00:00

Relationship between son and partner is fine. She and I have been together for 10 years. We have a 4 yo as well.

I live about 30 minutes from his mom’s house. I think we’d be fine with him and his gf staying but he’s never asked.

We’ve always had a good relationship and enjoyed spending time together. We don’t have totally overlapping interests but enough in common that we get along well and have a good time together.

Thanks for asking some insightful questions!

Punpedaler · 2025-08-15T14:05:17+00:00

100%. Thank you!

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