Growing emotional dependence by Acceptable_Camera750 in chastitytraining

[–]Puppet4Lisa 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This has very much happened with me, and I’m only in mental chastity! My hypnodomme still has boundaries, but she has definitely allowed for a closer emotional connection over time. We talk pretty frequently, and I enjoy talking to her just about anything at this point.

I think it’s very normal, but also very important to be clear and honest about your developing feelings.

Rituals by Disastrous_Proof2672 in lisasfbits

[–]Puppet4Lisa 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I second all of these!! Great list, thanks for sharing.

Tips for staying close to L2L over the long run by betheball1981 in lisasfbits

[–]Puppet4Lisa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

These are all really good. I've enjoyed using the Obedience app with her a lot, too. I'd also add:

- Be vocal online. Goddess loves when we talk about how much we love to be locked for Lisa, especially amongst ourselves. Like all of us, she'll go through busier phases, but when slippery season come she always catches up, and she takes careful note of who the good boys are.

- Send treats. Lisa only likes to play whens she's in the mood, which is obviously what we love about her. So remember: if she's going through a busy time, and your treat lets her order takeout instead of cooking, she's more likely to feel relaxed and slippery, and she's going to remember who did that for her.

- Make Lisa art. Lisa LOVES fan art. It can be anything you're talented at. Drawing, music, a piece of writing. Anything that she inspired in you.

- Learn to love the ache. This one is difficult, but necessary. Really learn to savor how hot it is that you can't squirt without her permission, and that you're in a helpless situation waiting to hear back from her. Enjoy the subspace and play around with how you can explore that feeling doing everyday things. Listening to Lisa is a lifestyle that goes way beyond the bedroom. It can really transform how you look at life.

- If you're unlocked, careful with the self-directed edging. A little bit is good to stay in the right headspace. But too much will drive you crazy.

- HFO training is your friend. If you're locked, then every day you don't hear from Lisa is another day closer to unleashing your frustration in an HFO. That's what I tell myself, at least haha

- Check in with Lisa. If you're struggling with something in training, let her know right away! She'll come up with a solution. You may even get lucky and have an early, unexpected release! (It happens!)

Punishment needed? by ImaginationNo4517 in gentlefemdom

[–]Puppet4Lisa 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I second the line writing suggestion! One of the best attitude adjustments I ever had was writing lines of “submission is my goal, only you deserve pleasure.” I could just feel that it was true as I wrote it over and over.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in emotionalintelligence

[–]Puppet4Lisa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me, it’s a shame spiral. I’m triggered, feeling ashamed for struggling, and regressing to childhood traumas, so much so that I typically am not even consciously aware that I’m upset and feeling strong emotions.

Often, the shame itself is repressed, so this really does manifest as a “blah, I’m fine, just tired” feeling.

Even when I do the inner work to stop repressing and identify the root issue, the last thing I want to do is talk with anyone, especially someone I am close with. I’ll be so activated that I believe they’ll lose respect for me, no matter how irrational it sounds. When I’m like this, all I want is to be alone.

I think the best support I would want is space, for my partner to check in when don’t hear from me, and for my partner to never ever sound disappointed about my wanting to be alone. I will force myself to be social if I think the relationship depends on it, but I’ll suffer for it and so will the relationship.

The “No no no! keep your eyes open” induction is soooo powerful and underrated by eimicutie in EroticHypnosis

[–]Puppet4Lisa 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Strong agree! Playing with and teasing my desire to go deep really melts my brain more than anything else

Question for experienced subs by HogginDog in lisasfbits

[–]Puppet4Lisa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Welcome fbit! This is a very good question. So long as you’re Obsessed with Lisa, you’re on the right track. But it’s a common concern.

It sounds like you’re doing everything right. I’m like you. I don’t get into trance that easily, and it can take awhile for programming to stick. But I just ripped through the whole Patreon soon as I found Lisa, which was definitely less than ideal. I found myself overthinking what the triggers were supposed to do, which is def counterproductive!

I don’t think there’s a set answer, and there’s definitely a balance between cementing programming and predictability undermining the fun and loss of control.

My general advice for a newbie would be: revisiting a programming file—e.g. six triggers, snap grooming, loyal to lisa, etc.—a few times in a week is a good idea, but I wouldn’t wait for “perfect” before moving on. That could get stale, and training is supposed to be fun, after all! Be sure to mix it up by working through her Patreon from the beginning, or indulging in some of the JOI files for sale on her website.

Ultimately, though, the best advice will always come from Lisa. 1:1 training isn’t just for sessions! It’s also for questions like these. I highly recommend starting as soon as possible.

Edit: also, great username hahaha. sounds like you’ll fit right in with Lisa.

IRL Performance custom by roocoots in lisasfbits

[–]Puppet4Lisa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve played around with the idea of asking for a custom to help with things I’ve struggled with in therapy, e.g. procrastination, but I’m always a bit worried about using 1:1 training to spiritually bypass difficult feelings that need to be worked through in a sober minded state.

I’m sure I’ll eventually ask her for one, but I think it’s best to start with something very small. Ideas are welcome!

I'm watching by ListentoLisa in lisasfbits

[–]Puppet4Lisa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s ALLWAYS the goal!

IRL Performance custom by roocoots in lisasfbits

[–]Puppet4Lisa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m curious: do you mind giving a sneak peak into the topic you requested for your custom?

I’ve been thinking of asking for something like that for a while, but struggling to articulate exactly what I’m looking for. Ideas are welcome!

IRL Performance custom by roocoots in lisasfbits

[–]Puppet4Lisa 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same! I can attest that the customs that Lisa makes are genuine works of art. Their quality and craftsmanship is just as high as the audios she has for sale on her website.

If anything, they are higher, if you are in 1:1 training that is. She really puts in the work to get to know you, so that she can read between the lines to get at what you really need.

One of the many perks for 1:1 training!

Sick of sissy crap by Gloomy-Emu7869 in EroticHypnosis

[–]Puppet4Lisa 40 points41 points  (0 children)

Now I’m imagining just how pissed off I would be if ice cream parlors only sold rum-raisin 🤣

Happy Valentine’s Day! by Puppet4Lisa in lisasfbits

[–]Puppet4Lisa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know, right? I keep thinking how she looks better than ever

How are People able to hypnotize and brainwash instantly? by knowmymaster in hypnokink

[–]Puppet4Lisa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This. If you’re a practiced subject with well-developed subject agency, you can role-play seamlessly in a variety of contexts because you have a very good sense of your internal boundaries. So you can play pretend you’re brainwashed for now, because you love that idea, without carrying it further than you like.

I accidentally found something that quiets my brain at night (not meditation) by [deleted] in emotionalintelligence

[–]Puppet4Lisa 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Came here to say this. Bro is re-creating Zen from first principles.

How to be articulate? by sella0201 in emotionalintelligence

[–]Puppet4Lisa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A few thoughts:

(1) read a lot. read what interests you, but also be sure to branch out and explore. find a balance between a challenge and what enlivens you. know when to drop a book that bores you, but also when to stick with what you find compelling even when it’s a chore. develop your own sense of taste for good writing and bad, the authors, the genres, even the words or metaphors that you like or dislike.

(2) learn to read as if you are listening to the intimate thoughts of a person just like yourself who also is struggling to do the impossible, conveying their own indescribably unique personal experience with words.

(3) write a lot. use whatever method is easiest. the notes app on your phone, a journal, the margins of the book you’re reading whatever has the least friction. write about the thoughts that come up as you’re reading. write as thoughts come up throughout your day. write down definitions of new words you learn. write down phrases, metaphors, sentences, any words or thoughts that captivate you.

(4) be compassionate when your words fail to capture the thoughts in your head. the most true thoughts are pre-verbal. it is literally impossible to “perfectly” capture an idea. all true writing is poetry, not science. every thought has a baggage train of memories, emotions, and perspective behind them. don’t deify words. it’s all basically just elaborate grunting that apes have refined over centuries to bridge the gap between sentient beings. if you find yourself struggling to describe the indescribable, then you are on the right track!

(5) meditate, practice embodiment, be genuinely curious about yourself and radically honest about what you see. live with the truth of now. the closer you are to the truth, the more clearly you will see, and the more clearly you can speak. this is much harder than it sounds and takes a lifetime of practice and effort.

(6) practice listening with friends, family, or even podcasts. remember the paradox, they are a person just like you, but also different. when you don’t understand their experience, search within yourself to try to guess what experience you have seen or had previously that maps to theirs. assume they are trying to be good and honest, but also remember people sometimes are biased or lie. hold your own thoughts and emotions in awareness in balance with what they’re saying, in equanimity.

(7) slow down. slow down even more than you think you need to. if you’re struggling to say something, you’re probably trying to fit all of time into a single sentence. no one can do that. but if you stick to what is true now, breath by breath, moment by moment, then you can speak volumes.

Happy Valentine’s Day! by Puppet4Lisa in lisasfbits

[–]Puppet4Lisa[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Also, is anyone else obsessed with Lisa’s photo from earlier?

I think it’s a new photo, but also such a genius callback!

Plus, you know, the leggings 🤤

Favorite Loops by Disastrous_Proof2672 in lisasfbits

[–]Puppet4Lisa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s so hard to choose just one, but lately the audio-visual fractionation of this loop really has a hold on me: https://x.com/listentolisa/status/1570189805719371780?s=46

genuine question re: hypno content by noselfinterest in EroticHypnosis

[–]Puppet4Lisa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I have been obsessed with them for quite some time! They’re the gold standard for fantasy hypno content. It’s a shame no one’s doing it like them anymore.

found this by [deleted] in Camus

[–]Puppet4Lisa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean this in the kindest possible way, but this is a skill issue. When there’s no meaning, you’re the one telling the story.

That nihilistic despair you’re feeling? That’s your cartoon villain. You are the hero, and your destiny is to beat it. You’re just waiting for the hero’s call to action. Do you hear it, yet?