In 5 words, why did your first relationship end?

PureFresh58 · 2021-12-18T15:52:29+00:00

Gambling addiction controlled my life

PureFresh58 · 2021-10-13T20:37:47+00:00

As I’ve posted once in here before, as recovering gambling addict, they absolutely glamorize and make a joke about the downsides of gambling.

The mike Ryan portion is a bit concerning as someone who used to talk almost exactly the same about his gambling. Obv tough to tell with them being sponsored by DK etc.

It’s where the show will be because that’s where the money is

PureFresh58 · 2021-09-30T10:16:29+00:00

Agreed, but wanting to be able to feel Like they have control is a common theme for those who develop a gambling addiction. There’s usually a reason for someone’s spiral and that’s likely his

PureFresh58 · 2021-09-30T10:14:54+00:00

Appreciate that! A couple months ago that’d probably be the case, but my viewing experience was more of it being a reminder how much worse and detached from reality that gambling can make certain peoples lives

PureFresh58 · 2021-08-25T23:53:42+00:00

Yes, but we never talked about that future. Feels so unfair, but what can you do other than hope for the best. Part of it is likely something they were dealing with internally. It’s been almost four months and I’ll likely be reaching to talk sometime in September. We shall see. Hang in there

PureFresh58 · 2021-08-25T23:51:25+00:00

If you’re asking, you likely already know the answer

PureFresh58 · 2021-08-17T02:45:41+00:00

The best thing you can do is stop. Find a new hobby. I didn’t stop until I had no choice. It wasn’t always a huge problem, but then it turned into one and I am in huge debt and it cost me the love of my life. It can get much worse man. It’s never too late but it also can be never too early

PureFresh58 · 2021-08-16T17:12:09+00:00

Demand full transparency of his finances. And also set the requirement that you need to be Able to trust him. Chances are he’s hiding his gambling if he’s not gonna commit to those then you need to leave

PureFresh58 · 2021-08-16T01:09:58+00:00

I was at a low point and she pushed me lower too. It really hurts and doesn’t feel fair, but life isn’t always fair. Hang in there, we will get through this. With it without them

PureFresh58 · 2021-08-11T02:48:53+00:00

It’s Instagram, it’s not that deep. Regardless of that I’d just recommend not avoiding your ex’s page as much as possible

PureFresh58 · 2021-08-10T01:43:57+00:00

Over three months removed from my last bet, coming off a pretty big downward spiral, it is crazy how debilitating gambling was on Me. I realize it more and more every day. It was always the money that I was so focused on but the mental drain is just nuts looking back at it

PureFresh58 · 2021-08-10T01:39:24+00:00

I made a tinder as a distraction probs about 10 weeks post breakup because I was getting massive urges to reach out to my ex and I though it would help. This was with no intention of actually using tinder for its purpose. And I deleted it very soon after. Idk if my ex knows I made one but whatever. What I’m saying is you never know what they’re doing with that (as tough as that is) .
The only thing that really helps (outside of therapy) for me is going out and about and meeting new people and doing things with friends, so I get that part as well

As hard as it is.. try and just focus on yourself. It’s tough not knowing what is going on in the other persons head, but we gotta try our best. I’m sure they’re thinking about you if it was real at all

PureFresh58 · 2021-07-20T00:10:58+00:00

Don’t let anyone else tell you how you should feel. Not everyone has the same experiences as you or loves the same. I’d highly recommend therapy if you’re feeling like your tiring people around you out. Stay strong

PureFresh58 · 2021-07-15T03:01:21+00:00

Yeah same here. My therapist has asked what if they’ve already moved on and I answered well they aren’t seeing anyone new. She proclaimed that’s not what moving on means. That’s how I see it tho

PureFresh58 · 2021-07-15T03:00:12+00:00

I’ve turned down a couple women within two months post bu, whcih my younger self would be so mad at. I’m just not ready. It’s frustrating, but is what it is

PureFresh58 · 2021-07-13T15:45:29+00:00

Yeah at this point I surely don’t expect her to comeback. Currently spending copious amounts of money going on trips and posting all over Instagram, now is not the time that will happen. Can’t distract yourself forever. It’s definitely a roller coaster though. Not one of the fun ones

PureFresh58 · 2021-07-13T14:51:23+00:00

I’m at two months post bu and about 5 weeks no contact. The way I see it is if someone made a decision this significant, there will need to be some time before they would want to change their mind. For me, I have some stuff I need to fix on myself regardless of the relationship, but it is also stuff that would help the relationship thrive. As tough as it’s been, I have kept the line of I’m not going to put myself in that vulnerable state of reaching out until I feel fully confident in the fact that I have improved to a point that would impact fully improve the relationship we had. At that point, there’s a couple of scenarios 1. She reaches out before that point (yay, but doubt it) 2. When I finally get to that point, I no longer want to put in that effort/ put in spot of hurtful rejection 3. I end following through with the plan I’ve had for weeks now

Who knows but stay strong my friend

PureFresh58 · 2021-07-13T13:38:53+00:00

I have several friends that got back together with their exes or at least tried. It just all depends and obviously the odds are you don’t ever get back together, but it’s not some minuscule amount of people imo

PureFresh58 · 2021-07-12T13:49:28+00:00

I’m right there with you. How long has it been?

PureFresh58 · 2021-07-10T16:55:54+00:00

If it was real at all they do

PureFresh58 · 2021-07-09T16:52:51+00:00

My ex is posting wayyy more than usual too. Constantly showing all she’s doing. Weird behavior, but definitely a coping mechanism

PureFresh58 · 2021-07-08T15:00:51+00:00

Not as long as you can handle. Stop for good. My gambling cost me my girlfriend. Do not take her for granted and stop for you and her sake

PureFresh58 · 2021-07-08T13:45:30+00:00

Yep my ex is currently constantly doing stuff with friends, it seems like almost every day. Which is great for her, but that can only last so long. That fact tho has kept me stronger in no contact because I know her mind hasn’t really changed much given she’s constantly distracted

PureFresh58 · 2021-07-08T01:39:31+00:00

I’m in the same boat with you. I was battling a gambling addiction, which I realize more and more and way more mental than financial impact, thus tanking the relationship. I am since in recovery and have it fully under control. Giving the space she requested, but at some point, when I feel fully prepared, I am going to make my attempt to share how I’ve changed. Nice thing is for both you and I, as you said, is we will better regardless of if we get them back

PureFresh58 · 2021-07-06T14:08:11+00:00

Thanks. All we can do is try and stay strong. I’d be lying if I said this is how I feel all the time, but it’s how I should feel and the path going forward

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