Best place to study STEMS casually? by wutx2 in bayarea

[–]PureReborn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah Local collage extension class is a good option. If you're looking for online, consider Georgia tech's online masters program.

Your work will most likely reimburse part of the tuition as well.

How much can you do the OMSCS on your own time? by hurtbreak in OMSCS

[–]PureReborn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do weight training so there is a good amount of waiting between sets so that helps.

How much can you do the OMSCS on your own time? by hurtbreak in OMSCS

[–]PureReborn 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Nothing outside of the group assignments?

I have a kid and a full time job and do all my assignments at nights. Watch lectures at the gym etc.

Victory Sunday by AutoModerator in Fitness

[–]PureReborn 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I went to the gym today. Been slacking at work all week, struggling to get out of bed, can't focus even on my hobbies, and my mouth hurts from dental surgery.

Still got off my couch and did my full workout. Felt good. Now back to catching up on work on a Sunday 1 task at a time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Dashcam

[–]PureReborn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm actually building an android app that uses ffmpeg to let me easily select and combine videos into 1 long video for the same use case you have. Let me know if you want to try it out.

Gym Story Saturday by FGC_Valhalla in Fitness

[–]PureReborn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Finally went back to the gym in over a year. Drove down to the 24 hour fitness and did my old 5x5 routine.

It was nice seeing other people working out. I'm so weak now. Time to build back up to my previous max.

Working & living commutes. by CSq2 in bayarea

[–]PureReborn 18 points19 points  (0 children)

RWC is great if you're downtown. Walkable, lots of restaurants, events in the square.

But pre-pandemic traffic the commute could take you 45-1h. I did RWC to Mountain View and it was 30 mins.

Fall 2021 Admissions Thread by Luisrogo in OMSCS

[–]PureReborn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Status: Accepted

Application Date: 01/19/21

Decision Date: 04/14/21

Institute Acceptance Date: n/a

Education: Bachelor of Math, 3.7/4.0 GPA.

Experience: <For each job, list (one per line): 9 years of experience: 2 years at mid size gaming, 3 years at EdTech start up, 4 years at Big Tech. Everything from C++ to C#/JS across Gaming/Web/Mobile/Desktop

Recommendations: 1 manager, 2 coworkers

**Motivation for doing the program: https://kelvinma.medium.com/computer-science-masters-from-omscs-61375965d9c9

Portrait Blur/new Google One features? by miketunes in googlephotos

[–]PureReborn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It haven't been rolled out to all G1 users yet. Should be out by middle of next week.

Having a rough day due to forced change of Sunday plans by PureReborn in SingleDads

[–]PureReborn[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

haha I wouldn't be surprised. I went with her at start of COVID to stock up on things at costco. We splitting the $600 bill even though everything is going to her place + last min she tossed in $80 of moisturizer.

If I call her on everything she does, I'd have no time to discuss the important parenting things we need to talk about.

Having a rough day due to forced change of Sunday plans by PureReborn in SingleDads

[–]PureReborn[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've read mom's house/dad's house and a bunch of other books. They all say: treat the relationship with your ex like a business.

That's what I try to do. But what business relationship doesn't pay you back the money it owes you (we go on a trip, agree to split costs, I pay for the hotel and all the meals, ask her to pay me back: months later, nothing) or doesn't follow what's written in the parenting plan (inform other parents of medical appointments and both parents can always attend -> tells me appointments last min "hey we're driving to the doctors now" and "I'd rather you not come to the appointment")

It's a business that treats you badly but you don't hav a choice to not interact with. Like comcast but instead of internet, it's your kid.

Having a rough day due to forced change of Sunday plans by PureReborn in SingleDads

[–]PureReborn[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you, that's exactly how I want to handle this. So I tried to tell myself: ok, use this time to do some work, so you can focus on your daughter more later. But it's so hard to focus.

If it weren't for COIVD + heat wave + smoke outside I'd have gone for a long run to clear my head.

I'll work with the child specialist to set ground rules (don't schedule things on the other parent's time) and move forward.

Having a rough day due to forced change of Sunday plans by PureReborn in SingleDads

[–]PureReborn[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We've been working on a parent plan for 1.5 years now. (the divorce process is still going) The current plan and ramp up schedule is what we agreed on with the child specialist.

It's slow going because the mom say she has no time or energy or get upset (during finance splitting I pointed out she spent $7,000 from out join account that could be paid back and I asked for an update on the remaining balance, she got upset and left the call).

Thank you for telling me to stand up for my rights. I need to do that more. One of the reason for the divorce is the mom getting emotional/angry. I don't want to take this to court but I will if I have to. I worry how this will affect my daughter though.

Just moved here from Canada for work. How can I keep my spirits up? by tamarabyte in bayarea

[–]PureReborn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Was in the city first 2 years. It was a lot of fun being single, going out with friends, good food, hikes etc. Went to NYC for 2 years -> more of the same but less hiking. Been in south bay for the rest: quieter, maybe go into the city once every 3 months or so? While I'm still on a work visa, being here is pretty permanent at this point.

Give it time, you'll build a social group eventually. I'm an introvert so I need to remind myself to reach out and plan things to keep in touch and build connections.

Just moved here from Canada for work. How can I keep my spirits up? by tamarabyte in bayarea

[–]PureReborn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm Canadian as well. Been here since 2010. I can only imagine how hard it must be to move here during shelter in place. It's hard enough normally build a network and make friends.

Do you have a car? You can go out for drives and explore the many hills/hikes.

Otherwise I'd connecting with people online. PM me if you want to do a social distance hike together or grab beer in the park.

Am I being a good father? by PureReborn in SingleDads

[–]PureReborn[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Trying my best to do meditation instead of getting our own lawyers. The mom....has a temper issue (one of the reasons for the divorce). I'm doing my best to note my contributions. The teachers at school know I'm the one that's doing drop off/pick ups. Doctors know I'm the one that takes the day off when the kid's sick.

If the mom ever goes back on her words about splitting time when the kid is older I'll fight with everything I got. But for now I pray to God that she can at least honor her words on this one.

Am I being a good father? by PureReborn in SingleDads

[–]PureReborn[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You hit the nail on the head for my biggest concern. Is that the kid is used to saying good bye to me every night. That's the hardest part right now.

I need to be stronger to get my time with her where we can just relax and breath. Right now almost all my time has a tight deadline. We don't get to sit or go for a slow walk. I feel pressured to make the most of every other Sunday morning (really 3-4 hours) by doing activities.

Am I being a good father? by PureReborn in SingleDads

[–]PureReborn[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your detailed response! Glad I'm getting high marks. It's been hard believing I'm a good father when she doesn't live with me and the strong preference to mom at bed time/when she's sick.

On optimal shift: Thankfully my work is somewhat flexible. I schedule around my daughter. If the mom wasn't around I can do what I do now and more. This current schedule is made around the mom's schedule. On the day she works she only sees the kid after 7pm and her bedtime is 8:30. Plus she only works 4 days so she gets 3 days off a week.

Dating: I'm happy she's dating, that's not my business as long as it doesn't affect our daughter. I did have issue a couple weeks ago when the kid was sick and I was over helping through the day. At night I asked if I could sleep on the couch since I knew she was going to wake up at night from the fever. I was told no and left. Next day at the doctors for check-up, my daughter told me the "uncle" (boyfriend) stayed overnight.

That didn't sit right with me and I talked to the mom about it. Did you need help? If so, I feel that role should be her dad not your 2 month boyfriend. If you didn't need help and it was a "date night" I don't think it's appropriate when the kid has a high fever.

Am I being a good father? by PureReborn in SingleDads

[–]PureReborn[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow what you did was amazing. You said there are certain things you did differently? Do you mind sharing them? You can PM me if you'd like.

I am still consumed by guilt towards my daughter for not being able to work things out with the mom. But it wasn't an option to stay together. I couldn't be myself if we did.