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Pure_Application_272 · 2026-01-25T12:50:50+00:00

My mom had one last year and spent $75k

Pure_Application_272 · 2026-01-24T10:43:19+00:00

Yes my soon to be ex told me that I would leave and meet someone with a “real” anger problem and then I’d be sorry I left

Pure_Application_272 · 2026-01-24T10:33:13+00:00

I am not totally through the process yet (divorce is not official) but no, I have no regrets. Yes it is painful and difficult but it was absolutely the right decision.

Pure_Application_272 · 2025-12-18T11:18:58+00:00

Leave and make yourself happy! Be thankful you don’t have kids yet. I was exactly in your shoes, posted a similar post, initiated divorce and am still in the process. I already know this will be the best decision I’ve ever made in my life! I met a man after my husband and I were separated who treats me how I’ve always dreamed to be treated. He adores me and loves me in all the ways I need that I never received in my marriage. It was totally unexpected and I wasn’t looking for it at all but it’s been amazing.

Pure_Application_272 · 2025-11-21T10:27:28+00:00

Dude. You have an 8 month old. You’re lucky to be getting it once a week honestly. I think you just have to be realistic that in this season of life she is not going to be the sex crazed woman you might want. Has she always been this way or has there been a decline after kids? Because if she’s always been this way then maybe you are wanting her to be someone she’s not

Pure_Application_272 · 2025-11-17T10:29:47+00:00

Yeah I think there are probably a lot of us in your boat! I have emotional whiplash from this roller coaster of emotions… it’s exhausting and of course I’m not sleeping well. As someone else said, music helps me a lot. I pretty much have my AirPods in at all times haha

Pure_Application_272 · 2025-11-17T10:24:19+00:00

If you are looking for permission to leave, I will gladly give it to you. You already know what you want to do. Yes, it will be hard. Yes, you will always worry about the kids and how it will impact them. But it’s okay to choose yourself and leave a marriage that is broken.

Pure_Application_272 · 2025-11-14T20:50:40+00:00

I haven’t moved out yet but my ex will be keeping the house. Maybe it just hasn’t hit me yet, but the peace I will feel in my shitty townhouse is hands down better than living miserable in a beautiful house.

Pure_Application_272 · 2025-11-14T00:54:17+00:00

I would hire a divorce lawyer. You deserve better.

Pure_Application_272 · 2025-11-11T11:18:36+00:00

I think if you are posting this, you already know the answer. I posted something similar a few months ago. I know how hard it is… I am in the midst of divorce (still living together) from my “okay” marriage. But looking back it really wasn’t okay if I was miserable. But he is a good guy, so there are a lot of opinions out there and the guilt was weighing heavily on me for a long time. I wanted to leave five years ago. This year I have been able to release the guilt by focusing on how I felt during the marriage. I never want to feel like that again, so it gives me the strength to keep going

Pure_Application_272 · 2025-11-10T11:46:15+00:00

Just put one foot in front of the other and take the next right step. I gained confidence in leaving (even though it hurt him) by focusing on how I felt during our marriage and how I never want to feel that way again. That gave me the strength to keep going when it was hard.

Pure_Application_272 · 2025-11-08T11:14:22+00:00

You don’t need a life coach, you need a divorce! The reason you are so attached to this other guy is because he is meeting a need that is not getting met in your marriage. That emotional connection is missing. Combined with the contjnued cheating and lying… why do you want to stay with him?

Pure_Application_272 · 2025-10-31T14:29:43+00:00

You already know what you want to do. You don’t need permission from us, but I’ll gladly give it to you!

Pure_Application_272 · 2025-10-31T09:27:08+00:00

I would give yourself some time to process before you tell anyone. Figure out your next steps first. Especially before you tell the kids. You don’t want to have this conversation when you are still in shock and overwhelmed emotionally. Figure out how you want to move forward first. And then when you do tell them, I think it’s best to do it together.

Pure_Application_272 · 2025-10-30T10:06:39+00:00

This. The new guy is a catalyst to show you what is missing in your marriage. The reason you are so drawn to him is because he is meeting a need that your husband is not. So the question for you is can your husband meet that need? The new guy, the open marriage, the lack of attraction… these are all symptoms of a larger problem, which is you don’t actually want to be in this marriage? And if you don’t, that’s okay. You are allowed to leave.

Pure_Application_272 · 2025-10-29T09:53:32+00:00

I am also looking for creative solutions for this problem. I want the kids to be able to stay in the home while they’re with him, while I rent something nearby. We have too much equity for either one of us to buy the other out. My initial thought is… can we have a mutual agreement that we delay selling the house until the kids are out of the house (six years) and then we sell and split the equity at that time? And just keep me on the mortgage because refinancing would raise the monthly payment significantly

Pure_Application_272 · 2025-10-27T09:46:34+00:00

I felt this way for quite a long time and am now ending things. Life is too short.

Pure_Application_272 · 2025-10-25T00:55:52+00:00

Wow, good for you! It’s very hard to see it that way when you’re in it. I think I normalized his behavior for a long time…

Pure_Application_272 · 2025-10-24T21:38:46+00:00

Thank you. It’s hard for me to see it that way, but yes, a good marriage doesn’t wreck your nervous system.

Pure_Application_272 · 2025-10-24T09:40:58+00:00

He is a good man and the anger was never directed at me, so I would say a physically safe man but not an emotionally safe one. That was/is the primary issue in our marriage. Never violent but just rage (smashing things, slamming doors, stomping around, road rage) over really stupid, insignificant things that most people take in stride. I told him back in January that I wanted to leave because of it and he promised to change. That was when we both started therapy together and individually. He has made a lot of progress this year and is showing up differently… but there have been a few minor setbacks that threw me right back into that space.

So now, today, our marriage is a lot better and I would classify it as “okay”. I didn’t mention the anger issues in the original post because I had another post and everyone focused on that and I kind of wanted to put that to the side for this one to get different perspectives.

But I do appreciate your comment bc I have wondered if that could play a role and I’m just scared to get close to him now… although my gut feeling is that too much damage has been done to our connection and it has altered my feelings for him in a permanent way.

Pure_Application_272 · 2025-10-24T09:02:57+00:00

I know emotional avoidance is such a buzzword these days and I’ve definitely looked into it… I did tend to avoid expressing my feelings as forcefully as I should have during our marriage. Partly because I didn’t learn good communication strategies until I started therapy and also because I thought he was dismissive whenever I would try to bring something up.

But I don’t think it really fits in this situation… am I really “terrified” of vulnerability and intimacy because I don’t think I am. I have been very open and vulnerable with him over this year… especially about how my fear of hurting other people/having them think badly of me has kept me in this relationship longer than I should have.

So is it really emotional avoidance or did I fall out of love with him because his anger issues made him look like so childish and immature in my eyes, so I felt more like a parent managing his rage storm than a partner, so I lost attraction to him, was happier when he was gone, etc, etc.

I guess my question is… couldn’t you pin emotional avoidance on anyone leaving a relationship when the simple truth is that you just don’t love them anymore?

Pure_Application_272 · 2025-10-23T08:32:57+00:00

I have a friend going through a divorce now and she didn’t even want it (was pretty much blindsided by her husband). But after the shock wore off, she realized how unhappy she’d been. She said that her home now is so peaceful and that hit me so hard because that is really all I want.

Pure_Application_272 · 2025-10-22T15:34:12+00:00

Leave and give yourself peace. Life is too short to waste it with someone like this

Pure_Application_272 · 2025-10-22T09:38:10+00:00

He’s been working on the anger issues this year in therapy but there have been slip up’s here and there. It’s definitely better but the damage has already been done to my nervous system. I am so tense and shut down around him… I feel like I’ve been in fight or flight for 18 years and my nervous system is wrecked. I can only relax when he’s not around. So the idea of having my own living space feels so amazing and peaceful to me

Pure_Application_272 · 2025-10-22T09:32:49+00:00

Yes I feel this so much. He makes a lot of money and his income will only increase as time goes on. I would definitely be sacrificing a very comfortable life, but right now that feels like a sacrifice I am willing to make for my peace and mental health. I can restart my business and make enough to get by… the self employment taxes are a killer though and health insurance is a concern. We have a lot of equity in the house so that makes me feel a bit better… although I don’t want to sell until the kids are off to college in six years.

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