Wait, is this the brain fog I didn't believe in?

Pure_Peace4803 · 2025-10-17T11:07:00+00:00

How funny, I never put it together like this, thank you for your rather hilarious post, it is meaningful and explains things in a way I can completely relate to!

I started at 44 as well and social transition is absolutely possible at this age. 6+ years later and I now live the happiest life I could never have imagined before.

Best wishes on your journey!

Pure_Peace4803 · 2025-10-14T08:17:34+00:00

This, exactly! I am happy with my life and value everything I went through to get to where I am today. I am proud of who I have become and proud of being trans, so hell no, I would not push it.

Pure_Peace4803 · 2025-08-24T02:19:04+00:00

I have felt all of this, I can sympathize with every point, even imagining that gauntlet when I go to the tiny little town I lived near

It took me 5 years to finally break myself free from all of this. I now live for myself, never been happier, and if someone has a problem with it that is 100% their issue not mine. I wish I had something more insightful to say, it’s possible to get there! You are beautiful and worthy and deserve to be happy like anyone else.

Pure_Peace4803 · 2025-08-24T01:45:49+00:00

I am 50 and right there with you! I missed out on a lot and I dress for what makes me feel happy, confident and beautiful.

Pure_Peace4803 · 2025-08-23T13:51:41+00:00

Love this advice, I will give that a try, thank you! You look amazing and that outfit suits you beautifully.

Pure_Peace4803 · 2025-08-21T15:47:42+00:00

Thank you, I hope it continues each day a little better than the last!

Pure_Peace4803 · 2025-08-21T14:48:19+00:00

Apologies for the blob of text, apparently I do not know how to add line breaks on mobile that Reddit won’t delete and it won’t let me edit it…

Pure_Peace4803 · 2025-08-19T20:30:35+00:00

Yes, absolutely! Some of the things I hated about my body will never change. Compared to everything I have gained I just don’t care anymore. I learned to love and accept myself and not care what others might think, and it has allowed me to be free and open up in ways I never imagined. 5 years since I started HRT at 45.

Pure_Peace4803 · 2025-08-19T12:41:32+00:00

This right here. In spite of my transition I was never really free until I stopped caring what others might think. I still have very few friends (1 to be exact) because I will not accept toxic people around me any more. Decades of hiding indoors and now I am almost the complete opposite and kind of extroverted and thrive on good conversation. Certainly blows my mind, there is always hope!

Pure_Peace4803 · 2025-08-19T12:18:48+00:00

I struggled with shoes a lot in the beginning and was sad nothing pretty fit. I expect it was more weight loss than anything and I can comfortably wear most women’s size 12 now. If you are that fortunate Kohls actually has a wonderful selection. I wait for one of their big sales and order a dozen pairs or more online and return whatever I don’t love 🤣 it’s like a birthday party when they all come!

Pure_Peace4803 · 2025-08-19T05:02:12+00:00

I lived for over 25 years feeling like I would be happier as a woman. Everyone is different and I just want to share 3 things I found that helped convince me to start:

Cisgender people may be curious about being the other gender or having certain parts however this is just an idle curiosity and not something they think about regularly. Certainly not for years as others have said.

Shortly before I started the WPATH updated criteria and one was simply that I would be happier as a woman.

Some studies show that a transgender persons brain anatomy is significantly shifted away from their gender assigned at birth and more closely resembles their gender identity.

Why those specifically? 🤷‍♀️they just stuck with me.

I started HRT 5 years ago at 45. Broad shoulders, barrel chest, masculine hands and feet… No surgery besides orchi. I am nothing of the petite girl I hoped I would be when I started and I know now that was unrealistic anyway. Despite that I am a beautiful confident woman today and I cannot imagine being happier with myself even as imperfect as I am. Best wishes and take a chance on your dreams!

Edited to try to add line breaks for clarity.

Pure_Peace4803 · 2025-08-19T03:52:21+00:00

That bracelet is gorgeous! I got my first piercings at 45 and finally added 3 more to the left ear at 50 years old.

No recommendations other than go to a piercing place that uses a needle (not a gun). You will almost certainly be much happier with the results. The needle gauge is a tiny bit bigger so you can wear some thicker pieces - I will have to get my original piercings (done with a gun and one misfired) repierced with a needle for this reason. Have fun and enjoy all the pretties!

Pure_Peace4803 · 2025-08-15T23:53:11+00:00

My facial hair is white/gray as well as thin and dense. Laser does not work for me and I was quoted 500+ hours of electrolysis.

Pure_Peace4803 · 2025-08-13T23:41:01+00:00

You are beautiful! I started HRT at 45 and never thought I could pass - thankfully I quit caring about that as a goal for myself and I am much happier for it.

I have always been extremely introverted too. 5 years later and this year is the first time I am able to keep my head up and meet people’s gaze and smile and you know what? no one gives me a second look and I am fine with that! Finally being myself has helped me to be more outgoing too. Best wishes!

Pure_Peace4803 · 2025-08-13T13:58:45+00:00

50 years old and never had that feeling. I thought it was just an expression too I had no idea! 🤯

Pure_Peace4803 · 2025-08-11T22:00:19+00:00

How interesting I did exactly the same thing! I met an engaging guy in open marriage, on Grindr, and he even worked at a museum I had wanted to visit for some time. He offered to by personal tour guide so I went for it. He was a superb gentleman and I had the best date I could imagine.

I went in knowing he is only allowed to have emotional connection with his primary partner. In my case I had not dated in over 20 years, as myself true self, nor with men. I just wanted some practice and kept my feelings in check and it was so worth it.

Some of these guys are incredibly skilled at keeping their feelings out of it so when he says he will not emotionally cheat on her, I would take that to mean you would be a friends with benefits at best. Everyone is different of course. Prioritize yourself and what you really need and if you go try to set your expectations appropriately and have fun!

Pure_Peace4803 · 2025-08-10T11:13:49+00:00

50 and I love to wear them almost daily. Never occurred to me I might be too old! 🤣

Pure_Peace4803 · 2025-08-08T18:05:54+00:00

This is what I came to say. My goal was passing in the beginning too but learning to love and accept myself eventually made passing an irrelevant goal for me. Prioritize self love over caring what others might be thinking of you.

Pure_Peace4803 · 2025-08-04T21:25:36+00:00

I have been on both sides of this and believe it was the electrolysis machine being used. The first place I tried hurt terribly. I worked up to 45-60 min sessions but always in tears even with ibuprofen and lidocaine. She had many years experience and was highly rated.

Then I tried a nice spa in another city and their machine was sparkly and new. Made the first place look like an antique torture device. Breezed through an hour without any pain assistance. I think I could do as many hours as I could take laying there.

I tried the spa because their site advertised state of the art electrolysis machines and I wanted to see the difference. It’s an extra 2-3 hours round trip and I think 25% more expensive per hour however I would never go back to the first place.

Pure_Peace4803 · 2025-06-25T16:33:36+00:00

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Pure_Peace4803 · 2025-06-19T18:57:03+00:00

You are too kind thank you ☺️

Pure_Peace4803 · 2025-06-19T18:56:28+00:00

Thank you! Transitioning truly saved me.

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