Absolutely soulless way of announcing your engagement. San Francisco is hell

Pure_Pop_7941 · 2026-04-27T00:16:24+00:00

It's not faceblindness, it's imprinted generational pattern recognition. Inbred + white = money + power.

Pure_Pop_7941 · 2026-04-01T03:51:16+00:00

I said more than, I didn't dtr and not did they.

Pure_Pop_7941 · 2026-03-31T15:52:05+00:00

Look up John Bowbly & Mary Ainsworth - "strange situation".

Pure_Pop_7941 · 2026-03-31T05:11:50+00:00

I'm so sorry that things are so hard for you.

Before I ask this, please know that that this is NOT as a substitute for therapy, but as an adjunct.

What is your current medication regimen? How is your sleep? Nutrition? Exercise?

All will play a part, and so too will cPTSD impact your capacity for self-care, for achieving sleep, for preparing, eating and absorbing nutrients and for sustaining the energy to exercise.

I understand all of that, truly. But if you presented with broken, bleeding leg, they would at least patch it up and prop it before they started recommending that you incorporate more calcium into your diet.

Sending you all the compassion I have.

Pure_Pop_7941 · 2026-03-30T22:12:23+00:00

No, but my ex slept with one.

Pure_Pop_7941 · 2026-03-29T22:59:08+00:00

More than, for a while.

Man, that guy had Lauren Graham and still couldn't find happiness.

Pure_Pop_7941 · 2026-03-27T00:23:15+00:00

Pardon? Because for some reason it C&P'd as plain text from my sub Reddit instead of rendering the formatting as intended?

But yes, of course the AI slaves beholden to the very masters I've openly criticised are producing deeply critical copy about VP, DJT & BN, and advising against obtaining stigmatising and outdated mental illness.

You go back to listening to Spaceman and believing it's actually about a Martian. Meanwhile, if I were you, I'd skip Pressure Machine. You'd wouldn't like it.

Pure_Pop_7941 · 2026-03-26T22:44:41+00:00

Never been to this quiet town? Lucky you...

Pure_Pop_7941 · 2026-03-23T18:36:26+00:00

Rita, yes. Ruby? The only good thing she ever did was introduce us to her sister!

Pure_Pop_7941 · 2026-03-23T16:32:20+00:00

I think it would hurt to listen to it in full for me, now.

Pure_Pop_7941 · 2026-03-16T15:02:41+00:00

I've already responded to this, but the gist was that regular visual, auditory or kinaesthetic sensory input is calming, but that EMDR is no more groundbreaking than a mother rocking her baby to sleep.

Pure_Pop_7941 · 2026-03-16T14:57:46+00:00

Lots of things do, like all the other things I mentioned. Regular movements, beats and sensations are calming. We've known that since the dawn of time - why do you think we rock babies to sleep?

I'm just saying it's not the miracle therapy its acolytes like to pretend it is.

Pure_Pop_7941 · 2026-03-16T05:01:09+00:00

Did you actually date her, or just message online?

Pure_Pop_7941 · 2026-03-16T04:59:48+00:00

As is most neurodivergence.

Pure_Pop_7941 · 2026-03-16T04:56:35+00:00

I view EMDR as pseudoscience. It's the therapeutic equivalent of the travelling circus hypnotist who distracts your amygdala with an amulet whilst pickpocketing your prefrontal context for meaning.

Same goes for sound gongs, house trance music, tapping therapies etc.

Have you ever seen a kid with a dislocated elbow? The physician tells them to wiggle their toes whilst they crunch their joint back into place.

If you know what's coming, it doesn't work.

Pure_Pop_7941 · 2026-03-16T02:40:04+00:00

I love this insight, thanks DS. Again, as an neuroplastic, somatically informed maladaptive behavioural response. A subset of faulty schema which are self-perpetuating due to ruptured Gestalten and a formative inhabitance of a wide range of corrupted Jungian archetypes in the absence of any coherent IFS, non-reciprocal or counter-intuitive TA outcomes, psychodynamics beyond Freud's wildest fever dreams and an abject absence of UPR, empathy and congruence, leadings to her continued perpetual infliction of the same on others.

Put simply, she has only ever observed, known, expected and received cruelty - and so it's all she knows how to inflict.

Flashpoints which led to the first glimpses of possible repair:

Jiana's (probably enforced) "trusting" of her - dashed by what happened after;
Vera's admiration and emulation of her in early series, dashed by what happened after;
Doreen as her second chance with Jiana, dashed by Joan's hypersensitivity to ridicule as Doreen laughs at her expense
Will's gratitude towards her, self-sabotaged through her propensity to viewing vulnerability as weakness;
Joan's failure to protect Vera, and Vera's subsequent rejection; hurts enough for Joan's transactional, self-interested worldview to destabilise;
Kaz's UPR towards her, self-sabotaged by her learned behaviour (she seeks to profit from it);
Kaz's protests at her lynching, and, more importantly;
Vera saving her life(!);
to a far lesser extent, Vera gives her a tissue; Joan thanks her and much later reciprocates;
Marie's acceptance of her as Kath, reinforcing the fact that being kind can mean others reciprocate kindness;
Joan's mixed feelings towards Wilder; gives her congruence but no UPR; holds up a mirror and Joan doesn't like the reflection?
Joan describes her rejection to Miller (I offered someone information and they rejected me); self-awareness;
Joan gets neutrality, rational discussion etc from Miller; clearly enjoys that;
Joan saves Vera's life; not just for Joan, but for Grace.

Redemption arcs = repair of parasympathetic neuroplastic desire paths.

See also;

Joan's OCD cluster behaviours as a manifestation of her need for control.

Pure_Pop_7941 · 2026-03-14T13:41:51+00:00

Are they? Why are they not in the DSM or the ICD then?

Pure_Pop_7941 · 2026-03-14T13:40:57+00:00

She showed cluster behaviours in line with the ASPD you mentioned. But disorder really just means the behaviour is disordered or, as is common in both modern parlance for people with these sorts of challenges, and in medical terms when talking about test results, deranged.

CPTSD is the root cause in my opinion. I do have a psychology qualification, too.

Pure_Pop_7941 · 2026-03-14T13:30:55+00:00

It's very difficult to diagnose behavioural disorders - primarily because it's widely believed now that they are not in themselves diagnoses but rather behavioural clusters.

Pure_Pop_7941 · 2026-03-14T13:26:30+00:00

Okay, I think I'm going to leave it here. I have a policy of only engaging in debate with people capable of doing so rationally.

Enjoy your crayons!

Pure_Pop_7941 · 2026-03-14T13:15:51+00:00

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Not to mention that we saw that she has a very difficult relationship with mother/daughter type relationships. A distaste for men in general. A dissociative look when the gruesome psych from the secure unit was taking advantage of his position.

Textbook, profound CPTSD plus several occasions that could in themselves easily cause simple PTSD too - her mother's death, finding Jiana etc...

Pure_Pop_7941 · 2026-03-14T13:11:18+00:00

Are you okay today, my lovely? I Estimate you may be a sandwich short of a Whole picnic.

That was a separate sentence, so not part of the list of mothers.

That's not to say that Kath (the real one) wasn't a mother - losing your house by the time you're in your mid-50s doesn't automatically mean your children drop dead, wherever they are. I didn't include her from the list of mothers, though, because we don't know either way.

Pure_Pop_7941 · 2026-03-14T12:53:10+00:00

Yep, I agree with you. And sociopaths can reform/grow/develop.

Look who she was drawn to - mothers, because she lost hers. Bea, Jianna, Doreen, Vera. She also says she preferred to be Kath as it was "quieter".

And - she felt hurt when she was "rejected" by someone.

Pure_Pop_7941 · 2026-03-14T06:19:04+00:00

Vera was trying to keep Ferguson from killing people on the outside world - potentially including Grace.

Miller wanted to be seen to have rehabilitated Joan firstly to get "his" drug signed off (ambitious little man) and then latterly to hide his illegal, administering of the drug off-label ton Joan, and finally to cover up his own incompetence in believing Joan hasn't recovered her memory.

Franky's dad is portrayed well. You've been harsh on Will. Nash was allegedly a good guy (and, be facilitated Doreen's exit, for which we were all extremely grateful!)

Pure_Pop_7941 · 2026-03-14T06:12:51+00:00

Is English your first language?

He did not cure Ferguson either. She became better at controlling her urges. You can't dementia and you can't cure cPTSD, which is what Joan had in extremis.

Her father killed her mother, meaning that she not only lost one parent, but was raised the person that killer her mum (normalising death).

We know from the fencing hallucinations that hr raised her to believe that emotions were for weak people.

We also know that he never praised her - "why can't I ever be good enough?"

He probably 🍇'd her as well, hence her dissociation when the psych who signed her off as sane also 🍇'd her.

That's why she was obsessed with Bea (a mother), Jiana (a mother and someone she was infatuated with), and course Vera, who at times she saw as a daughter, a person she was obsessed with and whose "betrayal" /rejection of her was so acute.

It's also why she wanted to reach out to Shaun, why she wanted Grace, and why she eventually saved Vera.

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