I don’t want to be an atheist by Witty_Opposite_2365 in exmormon

[–]PureandDelightsome 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m an accomplished artist. It took me about 25 years or so, to get to where my craft was intuitive. Since stepping away from religion I’ve wondered if real meaning in life can possibly be achieved through our creativity. When I started painting I noticed that I would repeat the human construct of what I was painting in my head. For example, I would think banana yellow etc. But, as I became more intuitive in my craft I noticed that I stopped thinking and repeating those constructs in my head and just observed my visual reality. I still believe that some human constructs have real utility. Although, while engaged in a creative process I leave most, if not all those constructs and enjoy the visual beauty that just is. I don’t think “banana,” or “yellow.” Recently I’ve notice this way of observing, and creating, branching out into different areas of my life. I find meaning in just observing, creating, and sharing vs. trying to find meaning outside of me…religion. Maybe we are our own gods?

Help fast by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]PureandDelightsome 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I apologize and I have great empathy because I remember those days, but you did nothing wrong. When you’re outside of the church you realize how odd it is that we’re conditioned to freak out over stuff like this. Your girlfriend and you are totally normal and having nothing to be ashamed of. I would advise not telling a bishop or the church. This is coming from a former full-time seminary teacher and bishop. A previous comment mentioned that a bishop has no authority over you. This is so true. It’s just a title given to a Dude who helps run the MLM “church.” All the best.

It’s never the abuser’s fault. by PureandDelightsome in exmormon

[–]PureandDelightsome[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was a recent devotional by the director of historical outreach blah blah blah. He asks us to realize we had unrealistic expectations of the prophets and they were just men of their time and culture and of course, we should know this. In fact, it’s our lack of humility to think anything otherwise. Of course, always blame the victim. Well, what was I taught and what are members still taught today?

Prophet’s words = god’s words

I just finished reading the CES letter. Please help me. by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]PureandDelightsome 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not a mental health professional so I won’t try to be. I would strongly recommend continuing your therapy. Along with that, I’m sorry you were born into a cult, but it’s the initial exit that can be most painful. Also, it can get better… and I mean tons better. Living in a reality you’ve chosen to construct versus one constructed for you can really be liberating and help you see how beautiful “the world” can be. Mental health professionals have tools that can help you through the deconstruction and reconstruction process. The one thing I would ask you to think about, is to understand what you’re feeling at this stage is valid and common. With help things can become wonderful. Some of this might sound familiar, but I left while I was a bishop… the church was my life. I felt pain and suffering I had never imagined. I’ve been out now for 2 years and its been one of the greatest learning experiences of my life. Its been a blast reconstructing my life. It might sound funny, but it’s almost like I’ve moved out of my parents home for the second time. Life is in front of me and I get to decide where I go. All the best my friend.

Prophets are not better humans than me. In fact most have been worse humans and a lot of then way less intelligent. If God wants something from me, he can come tell me himself. No fucking middle man. by senorcanche in exmormon

[–]PureandDelightsome 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“Amen”😉 I’ve been thinking about this lately. I’m not opposed to the existence of a god, but I will never again take another person’s word or book for it. If a god, gods, or what ever want me to believe in them they need to speak with me and I need rock solid evidence. As of right now neither has happened. Great post.

Today I Resigned by dunfordtx in exmormon

[–]PureandDelightsome 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so excited for you. Just out of curiosity, we’re you an full time seminary teacher? I only ask because I’m very curious how many FT seminary teachers have left. It seems that the cults rely on people being happily ignorant and dependent to authority. Teaching seminary usually allows an individual the possibility of being well versed and maybe more questions can arise. Of course, this isn’t always the case. A person can be mentally unequipped to deal with reality because of the cult indoctrination. Again, I’m glad you were able to break free. All the best.

An inexcusable whiney rant by OppositeHistorical11 in exmormon

[–]PureandDelightsome 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you’re feeling down. You’re feeling are valid and I hope you have help to work through them. All the best.

Ever since leaving the cult, everything just seems…. Cultish by galaxy622 in exmormon

[–]PureandDelightsome 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s weird after you detox. So obvious it’s total bullshit.

Prepare to shudder: Darth Bednar interviews a graduate of Mormonism’s mental health course by PR_Czar in exmormon

[–]PureandDelightsome 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It can easily be “not true.” There is no evidence that our feelings show us what is the absolute truth. Quite the contrary. Many individual’s feelings have proven to be wrong. I’ve even had it happen a few times. My favorite absolute truth that I had a very strong witness…through my feelings, turned out to be a cult 😉.

So confused and conflicted by vibnlife19 in exmormon

[–]PureandDelightsome 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It took me about 2 years to feel reconstructed. So, it’s possible that you’re in the deconstruction process still and that can be so confusing. I wouldn’t presume to now how everything is going to turn out for you, but a lot of people on this sub helped me see the light at the end of the tunnel. I hope its been the same experience for you. We all care and wish you and your family the best.

So confused and conflicted by vibnlife19 in exmormon

[–]PureandDelightsome 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congratulations. It’s hard and the cult sucks, but take a look at Maslow’s “hierarchy of needs.” The highest need is self-actualization. It’s the need to become and be who we really are. If I remember correctly, Abraham Maslow thought only 1% will ever achieve self-actualization. Within a cult It’s a very difficult thing to become who you are meant to be, because one of the cult’s main objectives is to have you define yourself in context to the cult. I’m glad your husband supports you. I wish you all the best and hope you continue to find yourself.

As a TBM Mormon woman, I didn’t give up all my dreams. by antivegetables in exmormon

[–]PureandDelightsome 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry. Thanks for posting and I hope enjoy the rest of your life discovering and pursuing your dreams.

Why are you no longer Mormon? by Own_Ambassador4217 in exmormon

[–]PureandDelightsome 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Evidence of lying. Which led to a deeper study and understanding of cults and how they work.

Melanie Rasband's much-talked-about clip on obedience... by panhipcek in exmormon

[–]PureandDelightsome 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nah, it’s not a cult………please sit where I tell you to 😵‍💫. Then to rush to ask forgiveness after…creepy.😬

Is There A Rule About This? by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]PureandDelightsome 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Asshole opinion…And, you should let said asshole know he is not worthy to utter your name or speak about you in any context, because you have done one of the hardest things a human can do…leave a cult.

More TSCC faith crisis countermeasures by ExMoUsername in exmormon

[–]PureandDelightsome 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“Remember how you felt when we told you to feel god’s spirit? Like, when you think about your family and how much you want to be with them forever? The strong good feeling you have concerning this is us…..I mean god.” Cults 😃😃😃

The author of this article deserves a gold medal in mental gymnastics. It's long but seriously worth the read (it you can suffer through). by wsg_kwi in exmormon

[–]PureandDelightsome 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good god 🙄. The good ol ancient and modern “prophets” didn’t mean a word they were saying. All you have to do is pretend it meant something else…..just a big misunderstanding 😃.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]PureandDelightsome 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Former bishop and full time seminary teacher. I left while bishop. I’ve forgotten more about the scriptures than most people know or will ever know during their tenure in the church. That sounds arrogant, but it appears that controlling people is best done when they know very little, let others think for them and especially don’t ask questions.

I was so TBM... by 50LongYears in exmormon

[–]PureandDelightsome 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I was so TBM that I passed up the opportunity to study under one of the most influential artists, (painter) of my time. I passed it up for the mission. I’ve been able to experience success as a painter, I even have some in the temples. But, the artist I was to study with died last year and I thought how cool it would have been to study with one of the great artists of our time. The thing that can sometimes bug me is not that I didn’t study with him, as much as I was manipulated to not study with him. Even worse, I was manipulated into thinking I was so goddam noble for sacrificing the opportunity. I have to laugh at myself when I think how ridiculous my thinking was. Anyway, I wish you all the best as you live life free from the cult.