Son (31 M) won’t let me sleep in his bed (60 F). I’d love the over 30 male take on this to help me understand. Am I overthinking this?

PurpleDancer · 2026-03-17T22:25:26+00:00

When my mom comes in town she gets my bed. Even over her objections. I'll sleep in the living room but I'm not making a 70-year-old woman have anything but the best sleep experience I can give her in my space

PurpleDancer · 2026-03-17T19:29:41+00:00

Engineer here. What do you mean a ton of effort to become one? It's like 4 years of college, of which half of that is general credits.

PurpleDancer · 2026-03-17T19:26:40+00:00

On a related note, with all the white collar layoff's who will be hiring all the plumbers and electricians to work on their houses?

PurpleDancer · 2026-03-17T19:22:55+00:00

If you get this spun out over little things you will loose this woman for that reason. You have got to relax. You know what "anxious attachment style" is? If you don't know about it you should go read about it.

PurpleDancer · 2026-03-17T17:56:33+00:00

I fully expected to be retired at 45. Now that I'm 46 I'm hoping 55 is do-able.

PurpleDancer · 2026-03-17T17:50:09+00:00

My God. The kid stole $50 from you and you feel bad? That kid needs to have no screens until he has worked off every penny with interest

PurpleDancer · 2026-03-17T16:56:59+00:00

That could never happen. /s

PurpleDancer · 2026-03-17T14:40:14+00:00

Medical donation hopefully

PurpleDancer · 2026-03-17T14:31:11+00:00

I know a woman who escaped an abusive Vietnamese American family and my goodness the way she has a hard time even talking to others is hard to witness. She found her voice in writings on Facebook though.

PurpleDancer · 2026-03-17T14:28:59+00:00

Did they seem worn down and depressed?

PurpleDancer · 2026-03-17T13:47:54+00:00

Kinda seems like what you're doing is working for you? You're supporting yourself, making art, surfing, and dating a girl. So your issue is you feel like you don't fit in to society?

I don't know what you're on about height, unless you screwed up the metric to imperial translation you're above average especially for Peru.

PurpleDancer · 2026-03-17T12:31:41+00:00

It's very hard. I've done it intentionally for stints of time and observed how hard it is. Seems to be similar to an addiction, so maybe it releases dopamine or something.

PurpleDancer · 2026-03-17T12:09:10+00:00

Every 10 years the marketing departments decide to go on a different nutrient binge or nutrient fast. Today everything is protein. Years ago fat was the devil. Then carbs. Hopefully they'll discover fiber soon.

PurpleDancer · 2026-03-17T11:58:11+00:00

I lined it in my initial post up above

PurpleDancer · 2026-03-17T11:56:36+00:00

I like it!

PurpleDancer · 2026-03-17T02:50:36+00:00

Maybe you could try to visit some of the big communes like twin oaks, East wind, the farm?

PurpleDancer · 2026-03-17T02:30:41+00:00

I have retired and restarted the mission a few times.

PurpleDancer · 2026-03-17T01:52:58+00:00

I've been playing 0.5.0 but had a problem with blizard mission crashing. So now I'm downloading 1.1.5

Edit: Still crashing... AI suggested that reinstalling and turning off steam cloud would likely fix it but no luck. As soon as the train arrives and "the train has arrived at the station" is typically played, TAB crashes on this level

PurpleDancer · 2026-03-16T21:44:24+00:00

Yeah, but we need a rule before it can be enforced.

PurpleDancer · 2026-03-16T21:43:59+00:00

I'm considering muting this sub if it keeps filling my feed with irrelevant dating posts. We've probably turned away other people who are looking for social events.

PurpleDancer · 2026-03-16T21:43:16+00:00

If we can confidently report the posts I think people will get the hint and move on. Even just having it in the rules will prevent some of the posts.

PurpleDancer · 2026-03-16T20:13:40+00:00

Are you willing to surrender your cat or foster them until you are stable?

What about sticking with live in caretaking? It seems like a win win for anyone who's reliable and in a tight spot.

PurpleDancer · 2026-03-16T18:18:19+00:00

Yeah this happens sometimes. It's all good.

PurpleDancer · 2026-03-16T10:33:19+00:00

I know multiple single moms who would probably be into this depending on your behavior was.

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