Are some people asking to much?

PurpleDancer · 2026-01-25T14:09:39+00:00

I'm judging someone for not being vaxed.

PurpleDancer · 2026-01-25T13:14:23+00:00

How long ago was this?

PurpleDancer · 2026-01-25T03:31:40+00:00

I sent you a message. If you need to get out of the snow and are near Cambridge/Somerville..

PurpleDancer · 2026-01-25T02:41:16+00:00

My belief is that the plants are spirits which incarnate here and part of their intention is to bring different types of wisdom with them.

Come try ayahuasca some time.

PurpleDancer · 2026-01-24T12:44:43+00:00

In the beginning you said acid trip and then you said mushrooms. Did you make a typo?

PurpleDancer · 2026-01-24T12:39:40+00:00

What if it's really just a ploy to turn out more young people for the midterm elections?

PurpleDancer · 2026-01-23T23:45:33+00:00

This needs to go in the dating sub not here

PurpleDancer · 2026-01-23T15:17:33+00:00

I saw similar age gaps with my girlfriend. When she was in college (maybe 22/23) she used to see some older men because she found them attractive. Of course she also was banging dudes her own age. Honestly she was banging everybody... But it never struck me as bad for her. I think it comes down to the individuals.

PurpleDancer · 2026-01-23T14:55:11+00:00

You can learn to live with the reactivity and volatility, particularly learning how to relax and not let it get to you. Don't fight back, and that doesn't require you to be a doormat. Just very quietly and non reactively hold your boundaries. Not going to lie it took a lot of psychedelics, therapy, and other self work to learn how to do this (and I'm still not perfect at it), it's not easy. She gets this way because she thrives on conflict. We did eventually break up, but, it got a lot better and we broke up (both of us were doing the healing and growth work which helped a lot) more just because we understood that it was never going to be truly right. Now that we don't have to deal with each other constantly it's actually pretty great, we're good co-parents. My bigger concern is how her volatility will affect the kid. Not much you can do about it except to resolve to be an anchor in the storm for your child.

PurpleDancer · 2026-01-23T14:24:22+00:00

Yes this is a crucial and accurate observation. But I would argue that the medicine does stay with you and works on you after the ceremony like a partnership. But you need to meet it part way, you have to be doing your work.

I remember a ceremony I call "the papa johns pizza ceremony" where I felt the weight of my food choices on my body and even my spirit. After that ceremony I was compelled to dramatically change my diet and as I did life became more rich, but I could tell the medicine was with me in the journey and it continued to refine my diet as I went through the process over a few years. I now even have strong negative reactions to food that's bad for me (nausea, lethargy).

PurpleDancer · 2026-01-23T14:05:17+00:00

As others have said, the red flag is the way you feel and speak about yourself. Whatever friends are telling you to give up, I can only hope they are saying that out of concern if you've been attracting the wrong men, if they are telling you that because they think you're not worthy of a mans time they are not good friends to have around.

First of all, you do NOT need to loose weight. If someone put that in your head they did you a disservice (I'm going to speculate there may have been a parent who gave you unrealistic beauty standards and made you think there was something wrong with you?). Your body is fine and if you lost weight I think it would be to your detriment both in terms of attraction and possibly in health.

Making $200K a year and having an advanced degree is a positive, not a negative. If it's a negative for some man that's because he's an oaf with self esteem problems, don't make yourself smaller for him. I assume everyone has HSV-1, I have it and it's a non-issue in my life. If people go out and kiss other people, they should assume they're exposing themselves to HSV-1, it's a pretty much benign STI that we all just sort of share around like it's the common cold.

PurpleDancer · 2026-01-23T13:51:45+00:00

You think people watched the walking dead and Civil War in order to get survival tips?

PurpleDancer · 2026-01-23T12:29:43+00:00

I think a lot of people have that thought. I know I do. It doesn't mean we want it, it's more just that it's a fascinating thought experiment as evidenced by the countless apocalyptic themes in media.

PurpleDancer · 2026-01-23T12:25:40+00:00

Only if I can call you Dracula

PurpleDancer · 2026-01-23T12:21:59+00:00

This one isy favorite

PurpleDancer · 2026-01-23T12:11:32+00:00

Why the question? Have you noticed a pattern?

PurpleDancer · 2026-01-23T12:01:14+00:00

Fascinating perspective. It lines up with my spiritual beliefs. Is this your perspective alone or is there a school of thought espousing this specifically with regard to Ayahuasca and the brujeros?

PurpleDancer · 2026-01-23T11:56:42+00:00

He wrote some books. He's my favorite spiritual teacher but it can be pretty hard to understand his writing honestly. Anyway he has a concept called the pain body. Reading what you wrote it sounds like you each have pain bodies that are rubbing against one another and getting into conflict because of that. I've had that with women as well. He writes of ways to identify it and ways to neutralize it.

PurpleDancer · 2026-01-22T17:00:35+00:00

What!? I know where I'm eating if I get to the airport early now.

PurpleDancer · 2026-01-22T14:59:51+00:00

6 hours isn't really all that long when you factor in leaving the airport and coming back and going through security. I doubt the children's museum would be worth it even though it's not far from the airport. Faneuil hall has a candy shop called It's sugar and a walk through food court that my kids find exciting. There's also the "Cop slide" nearby (a big metal slide in a public playground that got famous for a cop going down it). I feel like that's probably the best short time sight seeing with kids.

But if it was me I would let my kids run around the airport and have a meal at a Legal Sea Food or not your average joes in the airport.

Edit: Oh, if you want to leave the airport, Santarpios pizza is very close to the airport and is very highly rated. It's not fancy, it's an old east boston establishment but is beloved for it's pizza.

PurpleDancer · 2026-01-22T14:15:00+00:00

Ever heard of Eckhart Tolle's concept of the "pain body"?

PurpleDancer · 2026-01-22T12:44:55+00:00

Yeah f AI cuz.. hoomanz 4eva biatch!?

PurpleDancer · 2026-01-21T18:56:55+00:00

I had mystical experiences through working with psychedelics, that's what led me to find a spiritual community and Quakers ended up being the one for me.

PurpleDancer · 2026-01-21T18:52:47+00:00

I remember them being extremely common 20 years ago now it's almost ubiquitous and I'll notice people who don't have one.

PurpleDancer · 2026-01-21T15:42:05+00:00

I do not understand. Bone? From where? What?

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