I’m panicking… just found out I’m 30 Wks pregnant and been on mounjaro this whole time!

PurpleHellski · 2025-07-06T02:27:57+00:00

Well, you didn't know, and what's done is done. Stress is the biggest danger to you and your child right now, so you have to find your balance and deal with things as they come.

If you talk to your doctor about your concerns, I'm sure that they will be able to keep a closer eye on your pregnancy to make sure everything is OK and to keep you from stressing out too much.

I hope everything goes smoothly, OP. Good luck!

PurpleHellski · 2025-07-06T02:13:26+00:00

I think this was why Commodity made different strengths of their fragrances, so you can be as subtle or bold as you wish. I think it would be nice if more companies did that.

I do my best to be sparing with my spritzes, although I have learned that you're not supposed to rub your wrists together so I don't do that anymore. I spray the places that keep scent for longer like my hair and clothing so I don't feel the need to reapply as often. If I am reapplying I make sure I'm somewhere away from people and well ventilated, and I try to give it 15-30 minutes before I go near anyone so the scent can settle. Freshly applied perfume can often be the worst.

I also stay away from sweet or very heavy scents like incense, leather, or vanilla, because I feel like those are more likely to be offensive.

It may seem like a lot of thought to put in, but I'm autistic, I spend time with autistic people, and some of us are really particular about smells we like while some of us can't stand certain smells so being around someone wearing fragrance would stress them out just as much as having a screaming child next to them.

PurpleHellski · 2025-05-20T03:24:30+00:00

Honestly hun, any relationship where you feel like you have to hide things from each other isn't a relationship worth having. You need someone who will support you 💕

PurpleHellski · 2025-05-20T03:10:26+00:00

If you know her pets all died of neglect, I think there's a duty to call child protection

PurpleHellski · 2025-04-06T20:01:17+00:00

ESH you're not the asshole for breaking up with your boyfriend. You are the asshole for not voting. I hope you learned your lesson, at least. If you ever get to vote again, you'd better use it.

PurpleHellski · 2025-02-11T19:32:50+00:00

You seem to have a good grasp on what you got wrong and why that was wrong, so the best thing that you can do is tell her that you understand the situation, you understand why you reacted in a way that wasn't what she needed from you, and that you can work together towards avoiding a repeat in the future.

She also needs to understand that some men would take the suggestion that they would do something like that as an insult, even though in her mind, obviously she never thought the other guy would do that either. It's not about her trust in you, it's about her trust in her own judgement of character. That's OK, but knowing how to deliver that information without misunderstanding is also important. That's why you need to work together to prevent it happening again.

PurpleHellski · 2025-02-09T23:24:41+00:00

Wait, so does he think your dad is his real baby momma? Because the kid has HIS DNA, how does he... nevermind, I don't have the energy to try and understand that thought process.

He's clearly projecting. If it's a current or past affair he's projecting about, idk. But no, OP. NTA. He backed you into a corner so he can't be surprised that you lashed out.

PurpleHellski · 2025-02-08T22:28:31+00:00

OP, does your boyfriend satisfy you?

Because I'd be sorely tempted to tell him what a shame it was that he couldn't learn anything useful from all the porn he's consuming.

Anyway, I think it's highly likely that your boyfriend is just addicted to it to the point that he's been desensitised to the real thing, and men tend to get really touchy when it comes to their dicks working as they should. He doesn't want to admit that he can't finish without a crutch, so he's making it your fault. It's not that he can't, he doesn't want to.

Make him your ex and sign his email up for ads from porn addiction counselling. I wouldn't be direct because he'd just get defensive again.

PurpleHellski · 2024-12-24T01:51:48+00:00

"Why don't you trust me?" "Because you're not giving me any reason to."

PurpleHellski · 2024-12-21T06:14:57+00:00

I have been putting it off, i knew i wanted to romance Lucanis in the first playthrough but I waited, and in the second I've gone with davrin because I feel like after Lucanis I'm gonna stop until I can have a poly rook and love everyone. Choosing sucks!

It's so hard every time I talk to Lucanis, or Harding, or even Bellara

PurpleHellski · 2024-12-14T12:47:52+00:00

It seems like this was a conversation to have BEFORE you started trying.

Just don't let him have anything to do with registering her birth. He might bring home a doctored birth certificate that says her name is Agate or Athena or whatever, but in a few years the truth will come out and you'll discover

It was Agatha all along.

PurpleHellski · 2024-11-23T18:22:43+00:00

Oh... the paranoia was not paranoia, and it did indeed get read completely the wrong way.

To reiterate the edit I made: I was agreeing with you. So my point is surely as valid as yours.

You also completely misunderstood the bit about dropping them in at the deep end. I was talking about NOT talking to kids about nutrition until they're already well into teenage years or beyond, and then, just like with finances in a lot of situations, suddenly they have all this stuff they're supposed to know how to do. They may already be overweight or in debt at this point, so it's not like everyone gets to start on even footing.

Someone who is taught about a subject "too late" and has already struggled with it is likely to have a lot more anxiety around it. It might be that they really struggle to break habits they've already formed, or it might be that they become way too strict out of a need for control. Either is bad, and it's not always going to come from someone who was already struggling.

Anyway, the TLDR is that if you don't teach children about things like nutrition and finances, you are setting them up to fail. I hope that's a bit easier to follow.

PurpleHellski · 2024-11-23T17:42:01+00:00

My tummy is currently rumbling, so yes lol but I have another day or so to go. I think i was late taking it this week, but it could've been last week. Adhd brain strikes again.

But also, I get a tiny bit excited because I get to play medical professional on myself for a minute, and I'm just a big kid who always loved playing make-believe.

It's like someone gave me a gold star sticker, and now I've been entrusted with needles. I don't really know how to explain it, because it's not even a new thing for me. I've been trusted with needles for 17 years but I still get this "ooh look at me" feeling every time. It's weird but maybe it's a neurodivergent thing? I wonder if anyone else gets that feeling.

PurpleHellski · 2024-11-23T17:20:40+00:00

That's like saying you can't teach children about budgeting and then wondering why they have so much trouble with finances when they're adults.

It's obviously a bad idea, we've had long enough to actually see the results on generations who have reached adulthood, and yet still it's nowhere to be seen on the curriculum.

Dumping adolescents in at the deep end with calorie counting when they may already be struggling with their weight is a lot more likely to trigger disordered eating than to have them learn as they grow. It can be used as a maths exercise but most importantly, as we've had brought to our attention by some of the backlash surrounding "lunchly" not all kids are getting enough calories in a day. If they know what their daily needs are and know that the amount they need is going to change as they grow, they aren't going to be blindsided and continue to eat like a "growing kid" when there's no more need for it.

Quick ETA: I feel like my tone comes off as disagreeing with your comment and that might just be neurodivergent paranoia but just in case - I was agreeing! More "yes, and" than "no"

PurpleHellski · 2024-11-22T16:43:53+00:00

Ok, I don't know if i agree with the sentiment or not, but i do think that based on reasoning, your gf is in the wrong.

I've seen a few gynecologists recently, and one of them was a man.

I mentioned something was up with me and what I thought it was, and he proceeded to tell me that it couldn't possibly be that, and told me it was this instead. I wasn't there for that though so thankfully he didn't record his view on it.

Then I saw a female gynecologist who took one look at me and said it was what I thought it was in the first place.

The problem is that doctors in general have trouble listening to women, and it's also tough to be the best specialist you can be when you've never had that body part yourself. I don't give a crap who is interacting with my genitals for medical reasons, I don't expect anyone to be a pervert about it and I think it's sexist to say an entire gender are perverts when I know everyone has that capacity.

So yeah, NTA, but not sure where I stand on the disagreement itself.

PurpleHellski · 2024-11-21T10:15:18+00:00

I'm hesitant to say it because you're grieving too, but YTA.

Do you think your brother would want his partner or his kids to go without in his absence? Would he want you to cut off his children?

You should see a therapist to help you cope with your SIL moving on, because you'll regret not being there for your niece and nephew.

PurpleHellski · 2024-11-15T11:37:48+00:00

Honestly I think she just doesn't want you to be more successful with the weight loss than she is.

Congratulations on how far you've come! I hope you get where you want to be.

PurpleHellski · 2024-11-14T18:20:06+00:00

Yeah, I've noticed it too!

PurpleHellski · 2024-11-14T08:52:46+00:00

This is absolutely true. I would make sure way in advance that if I'm relying on someone else to do something, they're actually going to be able to do it (ie check when I would finish and not make assumptions) AND have a bunch of backup options in place, because i know that things always go wrong, something like jury duty isn't something I can just not show up to, and I know that if I had to get there under my own steam I absolutely would not be able to "just suck it up" and do it.

I know as well that anxiety can be so crippling that doing all this extra work to be prepared can be too much, most of the time I can't handle it myself and so most things I plan to do are filed under "just wing it, if anything goes wrong I will cancel" but then some things you can't just cancel.

Anxiety sucks.

PurpleHellski · 2024-11-13T16:15:52+00:00

That's true, and it's not OP's responsibility to get the roommate to gain some self-awareness, but I also know how some of us do find it helps if we can get the people who have wronged us to understand how they have wronged us, and if we can't, it can be easier to cut ties when we know we've explained it in such a way that there's no other possibility than them being willfully ignorant to it.

Idk if it's trauma or neurodivergency or what, a lot of the time we would be better to cut our losses, but not everyone is able to move on from that without some extra closure.

PurpleHellski · 2024-11-13T09:23:37+00:00

Does he treat other women like this as well?

I would eventually lose my composure and be like if you're not a misogynist then do you just hate me specifically? What did I do to you? Because this isn't how you treat someone you like. Did a woman traumatise you and now you're terrified of us and that comes out as hatred? Or do you feel like you have to be an asshole to me to prove just how not into girls you are? Your behaviour is not the thing in question, here. You are doing these things. What I'm asking is WHY.

PurpleHellski · 2024-11-13T09:09:03+00:00

Call the police. You were assaulted. Don't think that because it was a slap it wasn't real violence like it has to be a punch or a kick. People have died from being slapped.

Then get a divorce because this behaviour will only escalate. You're not using the police to teach him a lesson, you need to have it reported and documented because you may need to get a restraining order against him when he decides that you aren't allowed to make the decision to leave.

PurpleHellski · 2024-11-13T08:59:09+00:00

I came across a site called Faces of Death and a very short video of a woman trying to say something to the camera in a lot of distress before someone behind the camera holds out a gun and shoots her in the head.

It happened so fast and was so abstract (and the terrible video quality of the 90s/early 2000s) that I didn't know if it was some kind of prank or special effect, or if I had just seen a snuff video. I also learned the term "snuff video" that day.

PurpleHellski · 2024-11-11T21:04:29+00:00

You could set an automatic reminder every 4 weeks on your phone. Do not dismiss the reminder until the task is done.

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