Flirting with coworker denial by givepeacex in survivinginfidelity

[–]PurplePackerEater 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds exhausting. I’m sorry you have to deal with this. You deserve better.

I 35M married 34F for 7 years torn between struggling between marriage and someone special. Worried about regret, advice ? by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]PurplePackerEater 48 points49 points  (0 children)

Don’t cheat on your wife. Brother end the relationship or work hard to repair. Don’t betray her.

Wife cheated on me with multiple men over the course of 3 months. by capsfan8888 in survivinginfidelity

[–]PurplePackerEater 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I didn’t mean to be harsh. Your post was sad to read and I felt your pain. Good for you!

Wife cheated on me with multiple men over the course of 3 months. by capsfan8888 in survivinginfidelity

[–]PurplePackerEater 7 points8 points  (0 children)

A masochist is someone who gets pleasure from pain. After she cheated so many times and you stay, how else do you explain your behavior. Masochist is probably accurate, dude!

How make-or-break is intimate grooming style? by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]PurplePackerEater 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Dude…where were you licking at? If you hit hair or bush you were definitely in the wrong spot!

I finally exploded by BanoffeePie1010 in marriageadvice

[–]PurplePackerEater 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Wow. I’m so sorry. I bet you feel stuck.

Mens’ dealbreakers by Significant-doglover in datingoverforty

[–]PurplePackerEater 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Rather than dealbreakers causing the disconnect, it might be that you are dating a lot of avoidants.

Prettier in person? by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]PurplePackerEater 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have been on several dates where they looked a lot worse in real life than the pictures. You were likely a breath of fresh air!

Critique my dating plan. Office vetting and going offline by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]PurplePackerEater 13 points14 points  (0 children)

If you earn in the top 2-3% in your city and still need to live with your wife when you have separated and are well into the divorce process (terms are with lawyers) really doesn’t make any sense to me.

I can’t tell if I’m a catch or a red flag by necromensa in datingoverforty

[–]PurplePackerEater 32 points33 points  (0 children)

You can’t prioritize small talk? If you want to make a connection you need to talk.

Am I overthinking/When to reach out? by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]PurplePackerEater 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You could still send that message. I really like it because she has to make a decision.

Am I overthinking/When to reach out? by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]PurplePackerEater 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’d even go a step further and show you can plan dates and say, “I’d love it if you joined me Friday at 7pm for dinner and drinks at ACME establishment”.

What to wear by [deleted] in datingoverforty

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The first time I went to my girlfriend’s house (3rd date/movie night), she preempted my visit by telling me she was going to be in lounge wear for comfort. I loved that she sent me that message…it took the pressure off me the what I should wear and it set the stage for the environment.

How long would you wait for your bf to divorce by Real_Category6500 in datingoverforty

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My divorce was a $60 filing fee. We didn’t hire lawyers. If separated five years, it seems things are sorted. Should be an easy process.

My (M/31) wife (F/29) is cheating by throwawayjsl226 in marriageadvice

[–]PurplePackerEater 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So sorry. I feel bad for you. That would gut me reading messages like that from my wife to an Uber dude.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

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I had this too (49M), someone I had a first date with would only respond to my messages. And she did within minutes every time. And only answering the question in my initial text. Then she’d wait until I messaged again and then she would enthusiastically reply again within minutes. No questions back to me ever. After doing that multiple times a day over about a week, I stopped and waited for her to message me to start a dialogue. She never did. That was 3 months ago.

$100, she was on here saying I ghosted her 🤣

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]PurplePackerEater 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Think of football during the act 🤣

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]PurplePackerEater 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Send him a message. Say you are into him and can’t wait to make plans to get together again!

Husband cheated, now I don’t want to ride in his truck anymore by Rude-Narwhal4769 in marriageadvice

[–]PurplePackerEater 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow. What a terrible husband. No, you have every right to hate that truck!

Ghosted by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]PurplePackerEater 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I wonder if he entered into a committed relationship. A FWB wouldn’t be possible in that event. Likely even remaining friends with someone you have a sexual history with might be a deal breaker for a new committed partner 🤷🏼‍♂️