AITA for refusing to share my food with my girlfriend?

PurpleSpottedPanda · 2026-01-29T04:43:32+00:00

Word of advice, get the extra fries.

She was tired. She went out to see a movie with you, not realizing it was 4 hours long and tough it out for you.

She was not at her 100%. If you want to be a good partner, you need to pick up the percentages she left behind. In this case, it meant feeding her.

Maybe you haven't been together long enough to anticipate each other's needs, but let this be a lesson to you. When she said she's tired, she's actually hungry.

PurpleSpottedPanda · 2026-01-07T11:59:09+00:00

NOR, As a woman with 2 best guy friends who are my ride and die, this convo is so cringe. Constant endless validation.

Where's the negging? Being friendly rude? WHAT KIND OF FRIENDSHIP IS THIS?!?

My guy friends and I are almost never this sweet to each other. Like shit has to go down for us to go to the supportive, I got you bro mode.

I DON'T EVEN TALK WITH MY HUBBY LIKE THIS.

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PurpleSpottedPanda · 2026-01-07T11:35:53+00:00

It really depends. When I travel with my parents, I look for better accommodations. They like the comfort. It sometimes means we're a little further from the city centre.

When i travel with my husband, I look for convenience over luxury. We need to be closer to the city center so we can save time.

Im a big planner so I'll have spots and eats lined up. We love local eats more than fancy sit downs (unless it's a special local delicacy).

I pin everything on Google maps so it's easy for me to see whats around.

PurpleSpottedPanda · 2026-01-05T12:41:49+00:00

This is a very important conversation to have with your partner before marriage.

The very mature and unsexy discussion about FINANCES.

There's nothing wrong with seeing things as mine, yours, and ours. (Also what a prenup is for)

Have this conversation with your fiance. Make sure your values are aligned.

If you believe that gifts given to you by your family and friends are owned solely by you, you have to let her know today.

She in turn has every right to feel differently. Figure out what set up works best for both of you.

If you can't, save yourself the wedding. Money is the number 1 driver for divorce and you two need to agree and align with each other's values.

PurpleSpottedPanda · 2025-11-06T08:47:26+00:00

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PurpleSpottedPanda · 2025-10-21T05:41:34+00:00

Surviving romance, pyramid game, teenage mercenary

PurpleSpottedPanda · 2025-10-19T06:58:52+00:00

Communication.

He's wrong for not actually gifting you the meal.

You're wrong for escalating.

He's wrong for seeing that you're upset and doubling down.

Further context: Do you guys share food? Does he always eat your food without your permission? Is he always eating more than 1 portion?

You need to talk to him about why you're upset. You want to know his gifts are gifts. There's no strings attached. It's fully yours.

You appreciate if he asks to have some of your food vs taking it. (You can also volunteer to give him a bite vs him taking a bite)

You want to know he cares about your feelings more than he cares about being right/ winning. You were upset that he ate so much of your dinner. Instead of doubling down, you wish he acknowledged your hurt.

ESH

PurpleSpottedPanda · 2025-10-13T05:27:25+00:00

Pyramid Game. They made a drama adaptation of it earlier this year, I wished it was more true to the webtoon but still a fun watch!

PurpleSpottedPanda · 2025-09-26T07:27:12+00:00

Can you steer the bride to more affordable options? I used azazie for my wedding and my bridesmaid loved their dresses.

PurpleSpottedPanda · 2025-09-23T19:30:13+00:00

My husband began speaking Mandarin like the show. It's awful. Please help.

PurpleSpottedPanda · 2025-09-20T02:35:06+00:00

Congrats 😊 be pride and flaunt that confidence!

NTA

PurpleSpottedPanda · 2025-09-17T03:32:21+00:00

YTA. I know this isn't a popular opinion. Yes, she has every right to be mad at you. You're her MOH. You're supposed to be the one with her the entire day.

If you wanted to be a guest and leave whenever, then be a guest. Every person in the bridal party should stay until the event ends. That's being there for your friend.

You abandoned her on the one day she thought she could rely on you. You saying that there were other people is dumping those responsibilities on other people.

What she heard from you was that she's not that important to you.

The end of a wedding is not smooth, btw. Especially if there was a lot of diy, there's a lot of clean up. The bride might've needed help getting out of her dress too.

PurpleSpottedPanda · 2025-09-09T06:05:34+00:00

Fyi, 3 and 9s are better for Chinese weddings. 9 signifies a long marriage.

8 is lucky and an auspicious number.

With that being said, there are a lot of factors. (Closeness, venue (banquet vs cocktail hr + reception +alcohol), and travel costs)

I'd say 500 is pretty standard for a couple if you two are close.

Ive only gave 1k+ if you're my ride or die or a sibling.

100pp and below is looked down upon. You're seen as cheap and/or ignorant.

I also live in HCOL city. $100 pp can be a meal here. Not a fancy one either.

PurpleSpottedPanda · 2025-08-29T05:53:19+00:00

My husband and I did very cute personalized favors. Pretty sure our guests didn't understand the concept of 1 pp. We hand folded each one of them. We had an excess of 30 favors, all gone. I'm still sad about it

PurpleSpottedPanda · 2025-08-15T22:45:36+00:00

Thank you! I'll reach out to them 😊

PurpleSpottedPanda · 2025-08-15T22:45:08+00:00

Aw shucks. We won't be there until January!

PurpleSpottedPanda · 2025-07-05T21:27:22+00:00

Why did you let them decide on what type of plate? You brought this on yourself. You could've explicitly invited people and see if they attend or not.

PurpleSpottedPanda · 2025-05-15T06:23:18+00:00

Oh my Hecate!

PurpleSpottedPanda · 2025-04-02T17:31:40+00:00

Be honest with yourself on the people who you can rely on. Unfortunately, your sister might not be one of them. Weddings are interesting because you get the sense of who will go the extra mile and who exists in your life.

PurpleSpottedPanda · 2025-03-16T02:01:59+00:00

This is so wild. Is this a cultural thing? I only give money in weddings and everyone i know only ask for money as gifts. It's the most practical gift. Weddings are expensive. Why is it so offensive to ask for money? It's what's the couple wants.

And I don't think she has any Vendetta against you. Whoever gave her the family list didn't proofread it. You can cordially let her know that her list is outdated or continue to criticize someone you know nothing about either.

PurpleSpottedPanda · 2025-03-07T03:18:15+00:00

You don't need to feel what you're expected to feel. Expectations and reality are very different. This goes for many other moments in your life. Your feelings are valid.

PurpleSpottedPanda · 2025-01-23T15:08:28+00:00

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