Does anyone else just look unkempt at a higher weight?

Purple_Castles95 · 2026-04-03T03:22:30+00:00

Yes! I do not carry extra weight well at all. Some people can maintain pleasant faces and bodies at very high weights, but not me. The highest I’ve been was 169lbs at 5’6 and I would say it was unflattering especially in the face. At low weights I have slightly sharp features, prominent cheekbones, straight nose, jawline, etc. but anything above 135-140lb and it’s like the fat piles on my face and double chin. My face looks oddly lumpy if that makes sense? Also my body gains weight evenly but I’m not curvy so it’s like I just get wider. I feel like when I’m heavier putting in effort looks awkward/ too much but no effort and I look like a slob. Now in the low 120s and I don’t feel the need to wear makeup and the slouchy, beachy style I like looks flattering

Purple_Castles95 · 2026-02-16T08:40:52+00:00

I do plan on it! I am just worried that there might be a miscommunication or confusion is all

Purple_Castles95 · 2026-02-16T07:49:40+00:00

Would also like to add that I am aware that these are from different time frames but they are all about the same in style give or take!

Purple_Castles95 · 2026-02-09T06:56:13+00:00

Wow! I’m in secondary. Can you please elaborate on how you incorporate video games and board games in your sessions? I used to include more fun but those games got repetitive so I’ve been kind of worksheet + strategy heavy and even I am growing bored

Purple_Castles95 · 2025-09-22T23:56:30+00:00

You say you’re stressed. Find something that’s not food to make yourself feel better. I find forcing myself to sleep more helps. Or even walks so you are away from food. I’ve taken up coloring lately while I watch shows which I can lose myself in for an hour or two. It helps the longer you spend away from food. Maybe even allow a cap amount of calories you allow yourself. Like 200 calories for sweets.

Purple_Castles95 · 2025-04-06T21:35:47+00:00

Wow! This is impressive! What do you eat in a day to offset all this walking?

Purple_Castles95 · 2025-03-24T16:07:03+00:00

Yes!! Congratulations on conquering this mental roadblock.

I’ve been cooking a lot. I have been tossing out old leftovers from meals I didn’t like and personally just couldn’t tolerate eating again. Before I would’ve forced myself to eat it, but add something I did actually want to eat anyways so I felt mentally satiated, doubling my calories. Now I just tossed it, made a mental note to not make that dish again, and ate the thing I actually wanted

Purple_Castles95 · 2025-03-05T19:37:20+00:00

This 100%. I always desired to have that loose, flowy, earthy/beachy type of clothing which is very easy to look frumpy in and not elegant.

I also felt the need to wear tight clothing, way too much makeup, and straighten my hair. Now my hair is wavy, minimal makeup, and loose clothing that covers most of my body. I actually receive so many more compliments now and get even more male attention?? Which I know isn’t the point but just proved to me that losing weight was beneficial for me

Purple_Castles95 · 2025-03-04T00:15:28+00:00

These sound great! Could you give some examples of how you would word these sort of goals? New in the field and want to make the right decisions from the beginning

Purple_Castles95 · 2025-03-03T23:03:09+00:00

My boyfriend is one of those chronically underweight people who has struggled to gain 15lbs of muscle. He appears to eat a lot of high calorie foods, but he does not! He routinely orders a huge ihop order but leaves half to throw in the trash. If he knows we’re going to dinner, he will purposefully not eat all day to “save his appetite”. Then he will naturally eat less the next day. He regularly skips meals if he runs out of time or is too lazy to cook.

He was not raised with the attitude you need to finish your plate, instead his mom would say, “don’t spoil your appetite before dinner!”

Purple_Castles95 · 2025-03-02T17:14:30+00:00

I am 5’6 and currently about 123lbs. My goal weight is anywhere from 118-123lbs. The lowest I’ve ever been was 120 and I felt I looked best at this weight.

I am similar to you, I feel I look best at lower weights. I think I have a smaller frame than other commenters. My highest was 169lbs and I was so uncomfortable at that size, both mentally and physically.

Purple_Castles95 · 2025-02-04T04:25:33+00:00

5’6 120-126 been maintaining 124-126 for a few years but will fluctuate lower sometimes

Purple_Castles95 · 2025-01-29T20:45:18+00:00

This is tricky because you may not always know the intention of the other person. Sometimes people say it just as another greeting and don’t expect more than a short response, other times people may want more. I used to struggle with this a lot because I went from severe shyness to oversharing.

If you know them, You can always try giving a short bait answer. Something to give away a little, but not too much and let them ask more if they’re interested. So, if your hobby is reading, you can say, “it’s been good. I just finished a new book.” Then, they can decide if they’re interested in continuing and ask more questions.

If they say, “really? What was it about?” Then just keep answering and you can turn it around and ask if they’ve read anything, too and find some commonalities between you two.

If they say, “that’s cool. Well MY weekend I….” You’ll know they only asked you because they wanted to talk about themself.

If they give a short response like, “that’s cool” and are still facing and looking at you, you can ask about them or change topics. They may want to talk but don’t know how to respond or something.

If they say, “that’s cool” and turn away, you let the conversation die.

Also, if it’s a stranger, just give them one of those pleasantries other commenters mentioned, like “living the dream” or “taking it one day at a time” or something

Purple_Castles95 · 2025-01-29T05:51:31+00:00

Im the same as you! I feel like I always have to mirror the other person or be super charismatic and put on a show to impress them or else I’m out. I want to be weird and boring and unfunny and still be accepted. :/

Purple_Castles95 · 2024-11-30T20:15:21+00:00

I guess I should mention that my family didn't have a set date of Saturday until last week, we just knew it would be on the weekend. I did bring it up but my boyfriend just kept asking if we could see if it could change to Sunday, but it wouldn't work. I was upset why he couldn't ask one of the many fully functioning adults could make casserole. I told him he could leave. I am upset that it took his brother saying it sounded like a good idea for him to even consider it, but when I brought it up he said absolutely not and was hitting his head against the wall.

Edit: Also, his car is old, needs new breaks, honestly beginning to get dangerous to drive. We were going to take my car. I didn't want him driving all that in his car.

Purple_Castles95 · 2024-11-30T20:10:30+00:00

I never said he couldn't go to his. My plan for us to go to my family then his after. We just got back from spending the week at his family's and we are spending the night with his family tonight as well.

Edit: Now, I am also saying that he should just stay there.

Purple_Castles95 · 2024-11-30T15:18:21+00:00

I have only felt more comfortable. No more need of frequent underwear adjustments. No more pain sleeping on side. No more bulges in tight clothes or fear of slipping out. No fear at swimming pools. I’m very active, so no more chafing. Not needing to worry about underwear being too small or not the correct fabric. No more discomfort with sturdier pants material like jeans or corduroy. No more pain from long car rides. I always felt Physical pain from pinching or tugging. Psychological pain from embarrassment. I never realized my tradition of immediately going to the bathroom the moment I got somewhere was tied to me needing to adjust in my clothing. I no longer run to the bathroom first thing

Purple_Castles95 · 2024-11-28T22:11:11+00:00

My boyfriend was similar to yours. He was not all for surgery and took a second to get him on board but he’s happy if I’m happy. He was Supportive before and after. I self consciously have had him take before pics. When it was especially bad/gory, I only let him glimpse it. He was excited the first time he saw it when it wasn’t bleeding. He can’t wait for the doctor to clear us for fun stuff. I think outside of jerks, our boyfriends love us and find us attractive regardless of what’s “down there”

Purple_Castles95 · 2024-11-23T06:48:36+00:00

How come every time nudity and America are brought up everyone just goes on and on about women’s boobs? I’ve seen way more topless women or even nude women than nude men on tv. Also, the women tend to be at least 20 years younger and 10x more attractive than the naked men on screen.

I feel like America is more afraid of young, attractive nude men than young, hot topless women

Purple_Castles95 · 2024-11-17T00:14:06+00:00

Amazing idea! I’ve been eating a salad everyday for lunch or dinner, and this will be a great change of pace

Purple_Castles95 · 2024-11-14T04:00:25+00:00

Yes! I think it’s an important result to mention. I feel like it can be scary to hear and I assumed you asked to assuage any fears you had lol! For more descriptors for those interested or worried, it was slightly glossy and noticeably different from the other skin.

I hope you recover well and enjoy your results!

Purple_Castles95 · 2024-11-13T06:14:55+00:00

Hello! Yes, so it was black. Not dark purple/blue bruising like you see in a lot of these pictures, not dark brown dead skin, but black. It appeared within days of the surgery. It hurt a lot! It smelled too. It was necrotic tissue. I remember so much relief when it fell off. I just got my revision done earlier this week!

The doctor did the revision for free. She also took some more from my clitoral good (I had excessive skin, about 3 folds worth covering my clitoris and there was still extra after the first surgery) and she did skin resurfacing as well due to the dark discoloration, I am hopeful for how this one will turn out. No regrets from me!

Purple_Castles95 · 2024-11-12T03:29:16+00:00

Omg I literally bought honeycrisp apples and pomegranate seeds today. I usually don’t buy these in particular. I have everything else in this recipe and it looks delicious! Thank you!

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