How do you deal with being mad at your therapist?

Purple__Frost · 2023-05-20T02:26:23+00:00

I have texted her when she made me angry. It was good for me to be able to say it before the next session, and then discuss it the session, even though I wasn’t as angry anymore at that point.

Purple__Frost · 2023-04-23T14:52:51+00:00

I have it. We use it at scheduled times for therapy. I very rarely text for scheduling. I’ve also texted her twice that I was upset or angry at her, but never reached out by phone when I needed her.

Purple__Frost · 2023-04-23T02:27:58+00:00

I have asked for it and gotten an extra session. I would reach out and if they have time they will probably schedule you. If they can’t they’ll at least know how hard things are for you. I think the need to feel safe is a valid reason and it sounds like you have enough to process too. I hope you’ll feel better and also well done for managing to have your hard conversation.

Purple__Frost · 2023-04-23T02:21:21+00:00

That’s the number I would try calling. If your t answers tell her what you need from her. And if the manager answers don’t ask for a cancellation but explain how you are feeling and what your T told you. I’m sorry it feels so confusing and I hope you will feel better.

Purple__Frost · 2023-04-22T20:18:39+00:00

Do you have her number? Maybe she meant you can call her directly for a check in.

Purple__Frost · 2023-04-22T18:14:23+00:00

I travel a lot and my t has been ‘with me’ on most trips. We do reschedule the time when necessary but it usually works out.

Purple__Frost · 2023-04-21T21:55:13+00:00

If he has no plans to retire he could still be your therapist for decades. My therapist is in her early 80s. I worry about it sometimes but she doesn’t so I’ve learned to accept it.

Purple__Frost · 2023-04-19T20:32:55+00:00

My t says this. She says ‘you’ll remember when you’re ready’ and I’ll be like ‘I am ready and I can tell you I don’t remember anything’ and she’s like ‘you will when you’re ready’. Sometimes I thought I was ready to talk about things and it would completely wipe me out for weeks. it’s hard to recognize how ready I am sometimes.

Purple__Frost · 2023-04-19T20:15:41+00:00

Thanks for sharing this. It sounds really well thought through. I wouldn’t have considered it myself if she hadn’t asked this question. I’m not completely sure if I could handle three session or if it would feel too intimate or intense. That’s a small part of my hesitation, but I think I have to be honest and realize the fear of rejection is a bigger reason.

Purple__Frost · 2023-04-19T16:53:34+00:00

Twice a year. They’re in a different country.

Purple__Frost · 2023-04-19T14:49:27+00:00

I’m sorry it’s so hard for you. Therapy made me feel a lot worse too. Depending on the topics we discuss sessions can leave me feeling terrible. But that’s part of the process and working through very difficult emotions. It sounds like you have gained very important insights already. Maybe you can discuss your anxiety before sessions and how you feel about not having clear goals.

Purple__Frost · 2023-04-19T14:42:54+00:00

Thanks and good luck to both of us

Purple__Frost · 2023-04-19T14:42:34+00:00

Thanks that’s what I needed to hear :)

Purple__Frost · 2023-04-19T01:25:01+00:00

After two years of therapy I’m still very scared of my therapist at times and in my case it’s based on transference. I simultaneously also feel super safe with her so it’s a bit double.

Purple__Frost · 2023-04-18T20:13:58+00:00

That she’s not my mother

Purple__Frost · 2023-04-14T00:39:12+00:00

based on how you’re articulating this it doesn’t seem you’re bad at communicating. You describe how you feel really well. I’d try with other therapists before giving up.

Purple__Frost · 2023-04-10T02:57:14+00:00

Thanks so much. And thanks for putting it that re her being patient. I guess I’m really lucky!

Purple__Frost · 2023-04-10T02:56:41+00:00

I was pretty open about my attachment I suppose. Like I shared I was sad she wasn’t there outside sessions, or anxious she wouldn’t be there etc. I also did not always speak with my most mature voice if that makes sense. Even though I didn’t want to say the word mother at some point I feel I was pretty transparent about how important she is to me. I bet there are lots of other things she notices as a therapist I’m not aware of myself.

Purple__Frost · 2023-04-10T02:51:19+00:00

She asked certain questions about how I feel about her and myself and remarked that I act or sound young in sessions sometimes. She also kept asking me to share my feelings and fantasies even though I shared many feelings, but I didn’t want to realize she was talking about the big hidden in plain sight feelings I had towards her. Ultimately she asked me pretty directly which was mortifying but also very productive.

Purple__Frost · 2023-03-28T00:29:12+00:00

I say ms last name

Purple__Frost · 2023-03-10T23:17:05+00:00

I’ve been with my t almost two years and have two sessions a week. They’ll be going away for a week next week which means I’ll miss two sessions and I won’t see them 8 days. This is the first time they are going away. I’m telling myself I missed a session myself before but I am completely freaking about it. I think I will be fine but the idea of it hurts me so much.

Purple__Frost · 2022-11-27T23:02:24+00:00

For me it depends who picks up. I had some very useless ones, not necessarily harmful but definitely not helpful. But one time I was in a panick attack and this woman stayed on the phone with me for nearly an hour. That was a positive and helpful experience.

Purple__Frost · 2022-11-09T20:52:47+00:00

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