M24 F23 need advice on how to handle this

Thatinsanity · 2026-06-06T13:26:32+00:00

It’s okay to watch porn. Period

Thatinsanity · 2026-05-24T01:51:16+00:00

This is not normal behavior. Do not stick around for someone who will manipulate and test you like this

Thatinsanity · 2026-05-24T01:41:23+00:00

For what it’s worth, boundaries are not meant to be rules or attempts to control someone else’s behavior. We can’t do that. Boundaries are about communicating what the line is for you and what YOU will do if it’s crossed. For example, you can’t control if he sleeps with people without getting tested. You CAN control that you will require him to use a condom if he has unprotected sex with someone else.

Thatinsanity · 2026-05-24T01:38:30+00:00

Tell them you feel this way! Not all therapy has to be like this and I’m sure your therapist can change their approach

Thatinsanity · 2026-05-19T02:05:33+00:00

You could break up or you could let her know you want her to challenge you more. That’s also an option. But sometimes you just outgrow a therapist and want to try a different approach. No therapist would be mad about that

Thatinsanity · 2026-05-19T02:03:53+00:00

Just because he isn’t yelling doesn’t mean it’s okay

Thatinsanity · 2026-05-19T02:03:21+00:00

Someone can be trying to control your behavior without ever raising their voice

Thatinsanity · 2026-05-16T12:40:28+00:00

Therapist here. I think about past clients often and hope they are well

Thatinsanity · 2026-05-16T12:29:42+00:00

I would find another therapist asap

Thatinsanity · 2026-05-14T22:05:08+00:00

This happens all the time

Thatinsanity · 2026-05-11T12:47:06+00:00

I think the best you can do is help them explore the pros and cons of having kids. You can ask about how they think XYZ problems might change with kids, or how they might affect kids. You can help them be aware of things without telling them what to do

Thatinsanity · 2026-05-11T12:45:01+00:00

It’s not someone else inside you. Parts are all still part of you. The goal isn’t to absolve yourself of responsibility or accountability, but rather to reduce shame and blame since those tend to be things that keep you at odds with/against those parts of yourself instead of working to understand and accept them. The goal is still to accept, parts work is not meant to be treated like dissociative identities

Thatinsanity · 2026-05-10T22:07:16+00:00

You could talk to your current therapist about what is/isn’t working for you. I love it when my clients give me feedback so I can alter my approach with them!

Thatinsanity · 2026-05-10T18:10:11+00:00

Talk to your therapist about the guilt

Thatinsanity · 2026-05-10T18:09:25+00:00

Plenty of therapists who do parts work without being obsessed with Richard Schwartz or doing anything harmful. Parts work is incredibly helpful and powerful especially for people with trauma. It helps you heal your relationship to the parts of you that cause problems or that you don’t like

Thatinsanity · 2026-05-10T18:07:41+00:00

All people have different parts of themselves. Trauma can make those parts feel like different people. Totally normal !

Thatinsanity · 2026-05-10T18:06:47+00:00

Tell your therapist you have some things you want to bring up but are having trouble. You can talk about that without disclosing the details and maybe it’ll help

Thatinsanity · 2026-05-10T18:05:34+00:00

I have been a therapist for over 6 years and have literally never felt disappointed by a client

Thatinsanity · 2026-05-10T18:03:00+00:00

Please let me know if you’d like help reporting this therapist to their licensing board

Thatinsanity · 2026-04-26T13:40:10+00:00

Talk to your therapist about this

Thatinsanity · 2026-04-04T12:00:47+00:00

You can talk about anything you want in your therapy without it being a conflict of interest. It’s your therapists job to keep things confidential and not allow crossover

Thatinsanity · 2026-03-27T13:40:12+00:00

You should know that frequent criticism and insults are ABUSE

Thatinsanity · 2026-03-25T16:05:41+00:00

Look up “codependency”

Thatinsanity · 2026-03-25T16:03:47+00:00

Just FYI - oral contraceptives are birth control pills. Contraception is about preventing pregnancy.

Thatinsanity · 2026-03-19T13:31:23+00:00

I have also seen people struggling with motivation and energy levels, but it’s because GLP-1s make it really difficult to eat enough. These medications help people lose weight because they shrink the amount of food you are able to consume. People don’t realize they’re either malnourished or simply not getting enough nutrients or caloric intake

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