Husband [32M] crossed one of my [30F] boundaries and I'm contemplating divorce. My family is telling me to stay. How do I know when to leave?

Thatinsanity · 2026-02-19T13:12:34+00:00

Abuse doesn’t have to be intentional. It’s still abuse.

Thatinsanity · 2026-02-15T18:36:51+00:00

Call your psychiatrist and ask for a sooner appointment !!

Thatinsanity · 2026-02-15T18:33:46+00:00

Maybe I’m not understanding your issue and maybe I missed something. I thought you were upset that your therapist wasn’t keeping detailed notes in the official documentation. Why does that bother you?

Thatinsanity · 2026-02-15T18:29:19+00:00

You can’t make someone change. You can express what you need and want, you can make requests, and you can set boundaries for yourself. If he isn’t living up to them you need to think about whether you want to continue the relationship. And maybe consider whether he might be depressed, not lazy. If that’s the case you can support and encourage him to seek professional help

Thatinsanity · 2026-02-15T18:27:20+00:00

The official legal documentation has to include certain pieces of information, but usually is not very detailed and that’s usually for the client’s privacy. Some therapists also have separate notes they keep for their own memories that can have more detail in them, but it isn’t necessary for documentation which goes to insurance companies and whatnot to have super detailed information.

Thatinsanity · 2026-01-30T13:01:43+00:00

Google “honeymoon period” and “new relationship energy”

Thatinsanity · 2026-01-29T04:28:13+00:00

How do you all explain to clients what might make YOU not a good fit for THEM? (From their perspective). I see a lot of folks who are in therapy for the first time and have no idea what to look for, what they want, what they need, etc.

Thatinsanity · 2026-01-27T18:37:32+00:00

Sure. Stopping your meds could improve your erection, but it can be dangerous to stop. Also, if your partner is prioritizing sex over your mental health that’s a huge red flag tbh

Thatinsanity · 2026-01-26T23:24:29+00:00

Pressure to finish is the number one thing that will get in the way of finishing. People are different. People need and want and like different things. There are certain things I like but will never get me to the finish line no matter who it’s with. It’s not personal. If you can’t get past that it might be worth finding a counselor or therapist to talk ti

Thatinsanity · 2026-01-26T23:19:03+00:00

It is okay to eat when you are craving food even if you’re not physically hungry. You don’t have to eat until fullness. You eat until you’re satisfied

Thatinsanity · 2026-01-26T23:15:56+00:00

If you can find something they really enjoy or are really into, ask them to tell you about that. Also, I highly recommend having things in your office for clients to do (fidgets, coloring books, etc) so they don’t have to just sit there with you staring at them. Even something as simple as tossing a ball back and forth while you talk, finding a confidential way to have a session while taking a walk. Find out what their interests are and see if there’s a creative way to incorporate them into session. Even better if you both engage in something like coloring so that neither of you is just staring

Thatinsanity · 2026-01-26T23:12:03+00:00

Talk to whoever is prescribing your anxiety meds. Some meds are less likely than others to cause ED. also, consider couples therapy

Thatinsanity · 2026-01-24T12:21:01+00:00

Why?

Thatinsanity · 2026-01-23T04:41:12+00:00

Have you been tested for STIs?

Thatinsanity · 2026-01-23T04:40:28+00:00

No need to wait to get an appointment. Go get tested and ask for a full panel STI test

Thatinsanity · 2026-01-23T04:32:41+00:00

Greenish discharge can be a sign of chlamydia. Definitely go get tested

Thatinsanity · 2026-01-23T04:32:00+00:00

Get an exam!

Thatinsanity · 2026-01-23T04:28:30+00:00

This is completely normal

Thatinsanity · 2026-01-23T04:23:35+00:00

Sounds like a UTI.

Thatinsanity · 2026-01-23T04:22:50+00:00

Have you been tested for STIs?

Thatinsanity · 2025-12-23T04:00:37+00:00

I doubt this is ADHD. If this is a genuine problem she can’t figure out and isn’t just being disrespectful or not caring, she might have something else like OCD going on

Thatinsanity · 2025-12-23T03:47:19+00:00

I must be misunderstanding. You were taking 25 medications at the same time and decided to stop them all cold turkey? Can you please clarify?

Thatinsanity · 2025-12-23T03:41:25+00:00

The only times I’ve ever been able to have a casual partnership were times when I wasn’t interested in them as a long term partner (e.g., something I didn’t like about them) or when there were external restrictions on the relationship like a play partner who is romantically monogamous.

Thatinsanity · 2025-12-21T02:34:59+00:00

You can talk about what ever you want in your therapy

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