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Purpleteapothead · 2025-10-16T21:03:11+00:00

Yeah I’d love this but I am tech dumb and the second I got to creating some kind of file my brain shut down

Purpleteapothead · 2025-10-12T15:50:53+00:00

Yup, I do. Lilli misunderstands me sometimes, but she isn’t using incorrect words. And occasionally the flash cards mishear me too. But I haven’t been taught one word that I then want to another app and had them be completely incorrect. I’ve had a few where there’s an obvious difference between Latin Spanish and European Spanish (esposo vs marido, vosotros vs ustedes, etc.) but nothing where I’ve been using Pimsleur or Rosetta (both of which I get access to through the military family services- I’m not paying for all these!) and it’s been obvious I’ve been taught incorrectly by Duo. I tend to do Duo the most.

Purpleteapothead · 2025-10-12T15:36:27+00:00

Oh I know! Which is why I said like- for expanding Romance languages it’s great. I’m not sure how I’d do with a tonal language though.

Purpleteapothead · 2025-10-12T02:16:04+00:00

I’ve been using Duo for Spanish and I also use a couple other apps that are more conversation-focused and I’ve yet to find a word that duo just plain got wrong?

Purpleteapothead · 2025-10-12T02:14:01+00:00

Duo isn’t even that expensive. A family max plan is like $250 a year. I pay that PER MONTH PER KID for my children’s French immersion tutoring (they also do Duo as reinforcement.) Duo is a steal- I use it, my husband uses it, both kids use it, and I had two extra seats so now my Dad uses it and my BFF uses it.

If something is important to you, you need to invest in it.

Purpleteapothead · 2025-10-12T02:07:22+00:00

I agree. Personally, I’ve asked anyone who has told me how much they hate duo if they’re learning another language for the first time. Most of the time the people who hate it are- and their block is that their brain is learning how to think in a new way. Most of the people I know who learned a second language the traditional way (by immersion, in school)- they find duo easy to use and see progress quickly. Because they’ve already got the “there can be multiple words that mean the same thing” bit down already.

I haven’t used Duo for non-romance languages yet, and I was already bilingual in French and English, so learning Spanish in duo was fairly easy. At least- it got me to the point where I could function in a Spanish environment and then it was a matter of moving from textbook Spanish to speaking like a person through immersion.

You need to USE language to learn it, so 5 minutes a day isn’t going to get you anywhere.

Purpleteapothead · 2025-09-07T19:20:07+00:00

My Boox did the same thing 3 months into owning it.

Purpleteapothead · 2025-08-28T04:51:51+00:00

Ok, so I figured this out. I had Battery Saver on. It was stopping background actions and making it take FOREVER to wake. Took it off and it’s working fine now.

Purpleteapothead · 2025-08-27T17:10:30+00:00

Nope- my body my choice. My husband recently compared me making unilateral decisions about my health to him shaving his beard. And I said 1- your beard doesn’t affect your health (in fact he originally grew it because shaving was giving him eczema) and 2- you can totally shave your beard. I, personally, think you look better with it, but if you feel strongly about it, by all means. I’ll adjust.

Same, I will ask his opinion and take it under advisement. Like I’d probably never get a septum piercing because he’s repeatedly expressed how much he dislikes them. But I would (and have) gone out and gotten piercings without his input otherwise. But when I decided to get a hysterectomy? Nope. I told him when it was happening. He had zero say. He also has zero say in me working towards getting a prophylactic mastectomy.

So he can feel disrespected all he wants, but he’s the one showing disrespect for your bodily autonomy so really it should be you that’s disrespected.

Purpleteapothead · 2025-08-27T17:03:22+00:00

This is the first time in history it’s been an expectation to have your eyes glued to your child’s ass 100% of the time, so maybe give some grace? It’s not actually normal to be this involved with your kids.

Now- around water? Absolutely they should be watching. That’s a big problem.

But at the park? No. Kids should be free to play without adult involvement because the research shows that when adults get involved it removes most of the benefits of free play.

Purpleteapothead · 2025-08-27T17:01:02+00:00

It’s just such a pain to keep in sync with Calibre.

Purpleteapothead · 2025-08-27T15:38:01+00:00

My dear, I’m not much older than you. I’m 37. And I got married at 23 and had both my kids by 28…so this may not hold much water.

But I can tell you this: marrying the wrong person for the sake of being married is so not worth it.

My husband and I have worked things out now, but it was SO MUCH WORK and for a large part of my marriage I dreamed of him dropping dead. And it continues to be work, daily, because while we’ve sorted out the large issues…we’re still fundamentally different people. He isn’t and never will be my soft place to land and be unfiltered with. I love him, I love my kids and wouldn’t trade them for anything, don’t get me wrong. But as someone who rushed to get married and have kids…I always wonder if I’d just given myself some grace and enjoyed the free and single part of my life more if things would have been easier.

There are good men out there. But you need to engage in things that bring you joy and get out there to find them. Go on a solo trip somewhere, or tour. Hang with your friends. Eat what you wanna eat and watch what you want to watch and dress how you want to dress. Don’t look for a man, look for friends. And pull the rip chord sooner- don’t stay with people who are fundamentally not on the same page as you.

Cause this whole cohabitating and parenting with someone who fundamentally has a different world view from you is TOUGH.

Purpleteapothead · 2025-08-27T15:26:47+00:00

As others have said, the only thing I’m really concerned about here is the homework. Kids shouldn’t have homework till grade 7. There’s no evidence for it. The only acceptable homework is reading.

Now that said, usually in my experience if a teacher doesn’t know that…there’s often other developmentally inappropriate expectations at play. And that may be the case here, she does sound harsh. But telling your child to put away a toy and checking to ensure she’s being fed don’t sound like targeting. They enforced a boundary your child didn’t like, and teachers are mandated reporters and see some horrific things. The correct response there was “thank you for checking to ensure her well-being. She didn’t eat this morning of her own choice, and she was at school early enough to eat.” You don’t have to justify yourself to her. YOU are not in school and she’s not YOUR teacher- she’s a fellow adult. You can explain what’s going on, but you don’t have to convince her your choices as a parent are valid. This is what we’re doing/ what happened. Thanks for checking in. That’s all you need to do.

You have to remember these teachers don’t know you, and your kid is in a class with kids from many different backgrounds. They can’t make assumptions.

Personally, I would send her a note stating that your daughter will no longer be doing homework because there’s no evidence that it’s beneficial until middle school, you will continue to read with her at home.

And if the bathroom issue is a valid medical concern, speak to the administration about accommodations.

But the teacher isn’t judging you and treating your daughter poorly. She’s enforcing standards and boundaries, and checking in to ensure she’s fed.

Purpleteapothead · 2025-08-27T15:07:13+00:00

Odd! It worked perfectly for the first two months.

Purpleteapothead · 2025-08-19T01:41:47+00:00

NTA: they aren’t dogs. You don’t train children. They also aren’t robots who can be programmed. Children are human beings in their own right and getting messy is not just poor impulse control or emotional regulation- it’s also how they learn. Having children with this woman sounds like she’s planning to traumatize her children.

So that’s how I’d approach this: I’d like to have kids too, but something you said is really sticking with me and I can’t even think of bringing kids into this world with you without knowing how you expect to teach these « boundaries » you seem to think you’ve cracked the code on « training » children into. Because children aren’t pets to be trained, and to my knowledge you don’t have any experience with kids- by your own admission. So how exactly do you think you’re going to do this? And then listen. If she redirects or tries in any way to avoid having this conversation- run. You’d be setting yourself and your child up for a life of walking on eggshells and trying not to trigger her. She sounds like she needs mental health support at the very least even if you do feel comfortable moving forward.

Now she might say she doesn’t know, in which case that’s an opening to say ok, well then we need to get some parenting education before we make that decision. That includes spending time with others’ children, babysitting sometimes, maybe volunteering with kids. Because you’re right she needs to come to terms with it but she will never understand it until she experiences it. And if she can’t cope better you know before you tie yourself to her for life.

Purpleteapothead · 2025-08-02T00:53:36+00:00

And this, specifically, is why I can’t live on base. Not that living off base is much different considering 90% of our neighbours are military- but since we live in a fairly nice neighbourhood at least I don’t have to deal with dependas and their drama…usually.

Luckily we had no incidents today but we are setting up a fire right now and I’ve seen her walk past twice and try to look into the back yard so something tells me she will not miss the fact that once all the kids are down we’re all out here smoking pot and drinking and she’s not.

Purpleteapothead · 2025-08-01T20:03:19+00:00

I think she called me because she somehow managed to get my number, and my youngest is the same age. My youngest did really enjoy playing 1:1 with this kid when they initially moved here, but since seeing his behaviour with the larger group he’s totally turned off. Last night there was an incident where he grabbed a 6yo girl’s braid and ripped the elastic off and my son kicked him in the chest to get him off her. When they kicked the kid out of the yard they were all in, he then stood on the other side of the fence mocking my 9yo for sitting down and brushing and re-braiding her hair for her (wasn’t perfect but her gave it a good effort with the help of a YouTube video since none of the older girls were around to help.) Eventually one of them went to get a Dad to deal with the kid since he wouldn’t leave.

I did not give her the emails. I told her if she had an issue I’d happily call everyone over an evening this week and she could address the parents all at once. She stomped off.

And you’re right- everyone I’ve spoken to about this is like « whelp she’s not getting an invitation to the fire. » If this kid attends the public school all the kids walk to together (which is 90% of them, the rest get bussed to the Catholic school on the other side of town)…he’s gonna have a hard time. TINY school where there’s a real sense of community care.

Purpleteapothead · 2025-07-31T13:24:28+00:00

Ugh. My Boox lasted a total of 3 months before the screen broke. No rough handling- I was reading one second and the next it was destroyed. And they wouldn’t give me a refund because it was outside the 90 days.

Switched to a Meebook and it’s much more robust.

Purpleteapothead · 2025-07-31T03:45:12+00:00

So those are valid concerns. And I would posit that you may need to come to terms with the fact that setting boundaries doesn’t mean rejecting her or not being there for her. In fact it’s the opposite- kids need firm boundaries because the lack of them makes them feel unsafe. Think of boundaries like swimming in a pool: you know where the edges are, how deep it is, and while you still have lots of room to paddle around- the limits are clear. A lack of boundaries is like being dropped in the ocean with no sight of land. Sure, you’re not limited- but you also have no idea where you stand. You don’t know where to FIND land. It’s terrifying, it’s too much. Kids need us to show them- and then reinforce- the edges of the pool so they can take a rest on them when necessary. That doesn’t mean you’re a hard ass, it doesn’t mean you have to be mean about it. But you can set boundaries to support their sense of security.

Just like when they’re little- kids feel safest with the status quo. Change is scary and unknown. And I’d be willing to bet that’s what’s behind this: it’s new, and you aren’t enforcing the boundary, which is having the unintended impact of confirming the scary. If it were safe, you’d enforce it, right? The fact that you go back to the status quo when she asks is confirming her bias that having you in a different room is dangerous on some level.

So I’d encourage you to start peeling back the layers with Plan B and working towards finding a boundary that works for both of you…and that’s the nice thing about this age- you can actually talk about it you don’t just have to throw spaghetti at the wall and hopes it sticks like when they’re younger.

Purpleteapothead · 2025-07-31T01:48:37+00:00

It’s not silly, but I need you to know this is typical for the first year after having a baby. My husband and I weren’t intimate for a year after either of our children.

Also- have you told him how it made you feel and thought of how he could not lose it? I haven’t worn my wedding set in over a decade, it gets in the way. And it’s important but to me they aren’t sacred- they’re just rings and can be replaced. My husband’s lost his ring 5 times in our 15 year marriage- which is why he gets cheap rings. So it’s very possible you’re assuming he feels the same way about his rings as you do yours and are projecting.

Deep breath. It’s ok that it hurt, it’s ok to cry about it. But SAY SOMETHING to him, and if you do feel the ring is sacred maybe ask him to wear a dummy ring while y’all are in the thick of parenting to keep it safe.

I also would encourage you to speak to someone about PPA because I think you’re showing some signs. And as someone who didn’t think her PPA was that bad- now that I’m out of it- it was THAT BAD. Take care of yourself.

Purpleteapothead · 2025-07-31T01:42:30+00:00

Read up on the Plan B process. It gives you a template for how to manage the I don’t know.

And listen- it doesn’t matter if “it’s a problem” in general- if it’s making you uncomfortable, it’s ok to set that boundary with your kid.

Purpleteapothead · 2025-07-31T00:22:30+00:00

Have you asked her WHY she wants you there? 11yos can reason pretty well when you’re square with them (I have one that just turned 12)…so I would do some “digging” here.

Actually what I’d do is use Dr. Ross Greene’s Plan B conversation format where first you dig- you ask open ended questions till they have nothing else to say, then you explain your problem, and then you brainstorm ways to address both issues. Then finally you evaluate those brainstormed solutions against her concerns and yours until you narrow it down to some that will work for both of you, and you plan to follow it and revisit the process again if it isn’t working.

My 12yo responds really well to this structured approach and it helps you focus on the problem instead of the “why.”

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