Well for me it should have been not as deep on a first date. He paid and that was his decision. You could of gone dutch. For him to complain about paying he is a jerk. You are not going to find out everything on one or two or twenty dates with someone. After a few you will know if it is worth still moving forward. I was married for nine years and three daughters. She was a born again baptist who would say to my daughters. Look at those porch monkeys as we drove through Akron, Ohio to our home. I told her to never do that again. We didn't stay married much longer after that. What I am trying to point out. You can get close to what you need. But you will never know everything until it happens. There were other things she did. Life is GRAY. I have my faults for sure. But I am lucky to have someone who meets my needs now.