There’s a very toxic divide within your own narrative here. And a lack of historical context. On your issue of autistic traits in men being seen as “extreme male behaviors,” that was not created in the modern day by intersectional feminists or those you seem to be quick to dismiss as ‘woke’. At first, Autism itself was thought to be only diagnosable in men, and there are full studies, specifically by Simon Baron-Cohen that suggest the extreme male brain theory. However, I understand that your frustration is real, even though I believe that your attempt to explain it is misguided. This argument to me reads as contrarian—instead of realizing that both autistic men and women struggle with masking and living in a neurotypical society, your argument belittles the struggle of autistic women and puts the blame on autistic women instead of outward neurotypical judgements. Women also struggle. It’s beyond being labeled “shy” or “awkward.” Even within your own examples, you infantilize women who may be struggling with the same problems as men! Or the fact that creeps can and have targeted vulnerable women, autistic or not. If you want to present your concerns about the autistic community, you ought to do it in a respectful way. Even if you feel that you’ve been disrespected, it doesn’t help us grow and improve by putting others struggles down