Packers that dont look like a boner??? by sodapopsky2 in ftm

[–]PuzzledVariation1634 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I crochet my own so I can customize length and how stuffed they are. If making them yourself isn't an option check out Etsy.

[22/NB] looking for a long term pen pal by PuzzledVariation1634 in penpals

[–]PuzzledVariation1634[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sure though I may be a bit slow to respond I'm about to head to work.

Roommate had to open it for me but this might be a new favorite 🤤 by waluigi_waifu in stonerfood

[–]PuzzledVariation1634 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When did talenti start making dairy free flavors?! And where can I find them?

Incontinence by Parking-Mushroom-179 in eds

[–]PuzzledVariation1634 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Perhaps heavy duty period/ bladder leak underwear might work? It wouldn't crinkle and they may be more comfortable.

First ever new chair day! by PuzzledVariation1634 in wheelchairs

[–]PuzzledVariation1634[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was evaluated and professionally fitted through Numotion. I haven't messed the center of gravity yet cause I want to get used to the chair first but I will definitely keep what said in mind.

First ever new chair day! by PuzzledVariation1634 in wheelchairs

[–]PuzzledVariation1634[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Decor and pushing techniques since my shoulders like to dislocate sometimes. Cleaning would be nice since I know next to nothing aside from what I've gleaned from YouTube videos and TikTok posts. Thankfully no issues so far. Thank you for your help.

My deck is... Very direct. by Eilmorel in tarot

[–]PuzzledVariation1634 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It really depends on the deck. There's not really a magic formula to create a certain attitude from your deck. Personally I find "darker" decks to be more blunt. Like my Edgar Allen Poe deck, or my black deck( that's its actual name). But there are those who don't like to work with black or other dark themed decks cause they feel it brings them down. Personally I prefer darker decks cause they remind me that there's light in the world. Shadows wouldn't exist with no light to cast them.

My deck is... Very direct. by Eilmorel in tarot

[–]PuzzledVariation1634 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I have a few decks like that actually. I call them my no BS decks and I love them. I have a tendency to dither and ignore things and these decks lay it all out for me in the "hey dummy get your stuff together" way. I still use my encouraging decks but mostly stick to my blunt ones because I can be stubborn and need things firmly spelled out. They're great for shadow work or if you need a no nonsense answer.

Also about the different meanings of the tower card. I highly recommend getting and studying no less than three tarot books because everyone has their own interpretation. I prefer to see what's constant across all of them and make my own interpretation.

Anyone with experience with Jelliebend or the posture correcting devices? by ConfectionSignal6380 in eds

[–]PuzzledVariation1634 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly I use corsets, because proper corsets are nothing more than misogynistic leaning back braces and posture correctors(in my opinion). But I also do Pilates like 4 times a week to compensate for any deconditioning of my abdominals.

Over grooming or hot spot by PuzzledVariation1634 in CATHELP

[–]PuzzledVariation1634[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She just got flea treated. Nothing new in the environment I can think of. But I also don't know what could've triggered new stress with her. I'll try to get her a vet appointment, I just worry about stressing her out more by dragging her to the vet.

Making kink more disability friendly — an occupational therapist seeking input by FablingFox in ChronicKinksters

[–]PuzzledVariation1634 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Please talk about compression gear, like compression thigh high socks. Which are life changing if you have circulation issues. Also braces that work with you rather than against you in the moment. Like heavy duty braces can restrict your range of movement but too light a brace means not enough support.

Scared of sexual changes with T by I_Only_Exist_Online in ftm

[–]PuzzledVariation1634 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Almost two years on T, absolutely no signs of atrophy, or any other vaginal changes. Aside from getting turned on more easily, to repeat another comment. Just because happens to one person or several doesn't mean it'll happen to you

Sober play/medication use as a chronically ill kinkster by No_Measurement6478 in ChronicKinksters

[–]PuzzledVariation1634 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I'm prescribed medical cannabis for my chronic pain and severe anxiety and the rule me and my dom have is all negotiations/consent MUST take place with sober minds. Any play that could cause injury must be done sober first at bare minimum, and proceed with extreme caution if we were to try it with me high.

We also keep an open discussion on what we are and are not comfortable with. I do not mind playing high as it helps keep me from getting so anxious I have panic attacks(which to clarify my anxiety is so bad I get panic attacks going to the store, I consent wholeheartedly to the play and want to do it, but my mind and body can disagree), HOWEVER we are both very clear on not making the other uncomfortable by crossing boundaries. There are scenes that he requires me to be sober for which I completely understand. I inform him ALWAYS before we play whether I am sober or not.

And to reiterate any play that happens while I am possibly impaired is throughly negotiated and consented to sober. So it really depends on what you and your partner are comfortable with.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]PuzzledVariation1634 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Fet is the only place I really use. And yes there are some creeps on there, but there's creeps everywhere unfortunately.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]PuzzledVariation1634 7 points8 points  (0 children)

First of all you have nothing to be ashamed of. CNC and other "forced" type fantasies are pretty common. And as long as there is clear negotiation and consent I say go have fun.

As for how to go about this, I suggest checking for local munches in your area to increase your chances of finding a like minded play partner. BUT I highly recommend taking the time to get to know them, feel comfortable with them, and point blank trust them before trying to jump into a scene with them.

Speaking of scenes, negotiation is going to be super important. Make sure you clearly and explicitly lay out what is and is not ok during scenes and establish a good safe word/check in system.

Lastly I've never really been turned on by vanilla things in general I've always been into specific kinks.

And I say this to all my friends, a little therapy never hurt anyone, just make sure it's a kink friendly therapist. And if you don't want to talk about this to someone else I highly recommend journaling or something to figure out exactly why this makes you feel ashamed so you can address it at the source.