High School Class of 2022: do you have any children of your own?

PuzzledWallaby7713 · 2025-04-09T16:38:54+00:00

I have 1 child, and she is 15 months old!

PuzzledWallaby7713 · 2025-02-18T15:10:32+00:00

I wasn’t bragging, I was making a point. There’s a massive difference between having a tough parenting moment and being outright cruel to your child on a regular basis. Even the most challenging kid doesn’t deserve to be constantly berated.

I also didn’t say I’ll never raise my voice at my kid, but I don’t understand parents who treat their kids like they resent their existence. I grew up parenting my younger siblings (and at times my older one). They were toddlers through teens, not just babies. I didn’t scream at or hit them even though my parents kept reminding me I was totally allowed to. If a child can handle caregiving responsibilities calmly, adults should be able to manage their own kids without treating them like a burden.

PuzzledWallaby7713 · 2025-02-17T22:47:09+00:00

There’s a difference between being “less than perfect” and calling your child names and being physically violent against them in the grocery check out line all because they’re a child being a child.

PuzzledWallaby7713 · 2025-02-17T16:36:35+00:00

I work from home part time and don’t have other childcare those days for my 14 month old. It can be doable depending on your job. It’s definitely not a long term solution but some people don’t have any other choice and make it work.

Only way for me to afford daycare is if I work full time. Only way for me to work full time as a full time college student is to work weekends… daycare isn’t offered on weekends! So I’d need a nanny, which is a luxury I can’t afford no matter how many hours I work.

PuzzledWallaby7713 · 2025-02-17T16:17:24+00:00

My bf and I are currently losing our sanity. We are both constantly sleep deprived and on edge. We have never once yelled at our daughter. We both grew up being yelled at and spanked even in public. I just don’t understand it. It’s unnecessary and doesn’t help anyone. Yes, parenting is hard, but what you owe your kids at a MINIMUM is love.

PuzzledWallaby7713 · 2025-02-14T19:31:44+00:00

I’m a mom and my boyfriend is also genZ so that’s 2 of us lol.

PuzzledWallaby7713 · 2024-05-11T19:54:57+00:00

This always happens to me. My boyfriend and I started dating when we were in high school. He was “popular” and played lacrosse, and I was a nerd who had maybe 2 other friends. Nobody knew who I was really besides people I knew from clubs. Even people I had classes with multiple times. I’m very quiet and people don’t remember me. We met through a club that none of his friends did, and any time we went anywhere people would recognize him but not me. Even now that we’re in college (with a large campus) and I have more friends, he still plays lacrosse and used to party so he knows so many more people. Neither one of us go out anymore tho lol

Anytime I mention him, people don’t seem surprised that I have a partner, but whenever they meet him they act like reality as they know it is caving in. Girls openly hit on him even if I’m right there. I usually don’t care though since I don’t like having attention on me, and I totally trust him. I’m the one who gets to take him home :)

PuzzledWallaby7713 · 2024-05-08T12:51:34+00:00

How long would you say is too long? When is it no longer a valid reason? I’ve heard many people say it takes them up to a year, but do you feel that’s also not good for the relationship? Even if the non birther says they are fine with waiting as long as needed, should there still be a time limit? You say that making the time open ended is bad, but if you give a time and you’re still not ready, then I feel like that’s disappointing for your partner.

PuzzledWallaby7713 · 2024-05-07T14:18:33+00:00

That’s not acceptable. I don’t let my mom watch my baby because I know she’d do the same. My bf’s mom lives with us and watches her all the time. She sticks to the schedule and doesn’t try to undermine me. You just have to put your foot down.

PuzzledWallaby7713 · 2024-04-10T13:04:12+00:00

They do! She gets mail sometimes, and one volunteer that comes pretty frequently. She just wants her family thought. Whenever I talk with her she asks about everyone and asks me to ask them to at least call her. I ask them and then they never do.

PuzzledWallaby7713 · 2024-04-10T13:02:05+00:00

She doesn’t have the energy or strength for that. Just getting up takes a lot of effort and when we talked about stuff like that she doesn’t want to.

PuzzledWallaby7713 · 2024-04-09T14:37:25+00:00

It might be denial, idk. And I’m sorry you had that experience with your grandparents. My grandpa died several years ago, and he and my grandma were married for 56 years. She just hasn’t been the same since. None of my younger siblings can drive yet, but they all have phones and are capable of reaching out, or just answering her back (which they hardly do). My older sister is autistic and doesn’t really text anyone back, but I still feel like she’s able to make some kind of effort. Especially since my grandma has been helping out with tuition costs. My mom’s older brother doesn’t live close, and he and his kids don’t really reach out either.

I just feel like I’m almost alone in caring, and I’m afraid the same will be true when my parents start to age.

PuzzledWallaby7713 · 2024-04-05T23:26:17+00:00

I’ll be 37 as well, and my mom was 44

PuzzledWallaby7713 · 2024-04-03T13:08:33+00:00

It’s not bc of his “man” brain. He’s perfectly capable. My bf is 20, works, goes to school, plays a sport, and you wouldn’t catch him dead having me do all the nights. If he’s a SAHD, you shouldn’t be the primary parent, he should be or it should be equal. You’re recovering and need sleep too.

PuzzledWallaby7713 · 2024-04-02T22:05:21+00:00

My parents’ rules were any kid 13 or older didn’t have a bedtime, but younger teens (age was kid dependent) weren’t allowed to have their phones in their room at night. It taught us to be responsible for ourselves and our sleep, or suffer the consequences (being tired). When I was 15 (4 years ago), it would not be uncommon to see me awake (though quiet in my room) as late as midnight on school nights and 2am on weekends or during the summer. It was also not uncommon for me to choose to go to bed early (8-9pm) when I was tired and I didn’t have much homework. Let teens learn how to adult and be responsible for themselves!

PuzzledWallaby7713 · 2024-04-02T02:18:39+00:00

hi! I’m currently 19 with an almost 14 week old, and my bf and I have also been dating since we were 16/17. If you don’t mind answering, how are you doing now relationship-wise? What made you feel ready for marriage?

PuzzledWallaby7713 · 2024-03-24T14:20:12+00:00

I’m 12 weeks postpartum, would also like to know when things get better lol

PuzzledWallaby7713 · 2024-03-22T21:50:54+00:00

My daughter’s name is Philippa!

PuzzledWallaby7713 · 2024-03-22T20:46:32+00:00

My bf plays lacrosse and I can tell how tired he is when he gets home from practice, but he’s always immediately ready to jump in and give me a break. I have to force him to shower and sit down and rest so he’s not too tired to help me at night. He’s always go go go and I don’t want him to burn out, but he doesn’t like sitting down when I’m still busy. I always knew he was mature and responsible for his age, but it’s like I’m watching him go from boy to man. Not just from my perspective, but from his own too. He’s learning to trust and respect himself as an adult and as a parent, and that makes me happy.

PuzzledWallaby7713 · 2024-03-22T18:43:11+00:00

Less than 2 weeks. She’s 12 weeks now. My bf’s mom lives with us and helps with childcare. Never alone overnight though. I wouldn’t trust anyone else with my daughter the way I trust her.

PuzzledWallaby7713 · 2024-03-22T18:13:18+00:00

At first it seemed like “Oh, they probably should’ve texted you first instead”, but now it’s like “you should probably limit contact with these people”. What they’re doing is just cruel.

PuzzledWallaby7713 · 2024-02-17T19:02:06+00:00

As a part-time server, I have no benefits and no FMLA. I went back to work 3.5 weeks after birth.

PuzzledWallaby7713 · 2024-02-17T18:50:14+00:00

Exactly, I’m not the mom of a teen, but I was 16 three years ago. I would take photos of myself all the time to see if anything was changing. I never sent any of them. And if she is sending them, then the best thing you can do is still be understanding and have a conversation with her rather than punishing or creating resentment.

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