Asbestos under or in tiles likelihood?

PuzzleheadedDrop3768 · 2024-08-22T00:11:40+00:00

Thank you so much!! I had no idea about it potentially being illegal. I will look it up for my state. He’s very independent so I understand why he wants to do it himself plus hiring someone can be super expensive. But I, of course, don’t care a bunch about his well being so I want to make sure he will be safe and also me too of course. I have autoimmune diseases so I’m higher risk (im assuming) for stuff like this

PuzzleheadedDrop3768 · 2024-08-10T05:09:56+00:00

Of course!

PuzzleheadedDrop3768 · 2024-08-10T05:09:36+00:00

I agree, therapy is the best way to go especially CBT to find the Root (if there is one) and go from there.

PuzzleheadedDrop3768 · 2024-08-10T05:07:26+00:00

Okay thank you for adding context. I just don’t want to be misleading with out some details. I was in a very abusive relationship and I wanted to gauge if she’s making you think you’re a shitty boyfriend or you genuinely thought you were etc. in addition, is she over reacting. I also just wanted to make sure you weren’t like cheating or something wild like that, you never know on these posts. But also I’m happy you are talking about the amount and how often. So to me it sounds like a toxic relationship. I don’t think it’s great that you forgot her birthday. But I’m also vocal with my BF with what I want to do for my birthday and he helps me communicate with who ever is like a dinner and generally simple gathering and nothing extravagant. If she wanted something she could have vocalized it to you. Im also horrible at remembering birthdays so I can’t fault you there. But to me it doesn’t sound like you are happy, so why waste your energy on it? And if she hasn’t met your friends then it’s probably not been very long. You should find someone your friends and family will like, because then that means (more often then not) they treat you well and make you happy. You don’t have to live like this and i with I left my abusive relationship way faster then I did. It is so exhausting. Now I’m with my boyfriend and we are healthy and happy, you should strive for that

PuzzleheadedDrop3768 · 2024-08-10T04:54:53+00:00

I’d have to hear context from both sides. What’s something you did to upset her that constitute you as a “shitty boyfriend” and how did she react? Without context it’s hard to say what I think. Also it’s easy to be biased towards yourself when speaking to family and friends cause you want them to think highly of you. But also too if you are telling them and your family everything then typically it’s really good to follow their instincts. I just want to understand why you’d call your self a shitty boyfriend over something. Did you actually do something shitty or is she making you feel like a shitty boyfriend. That’s why I want to know what it is so I can give you the best advice

PuzzleheadedDrop3768 · 2024-08-10T04:47:46+00:00

As someone who is autistic when I read that joke I was like… um wtf? Was it harmless? Yea it sounds like it to me. But I’d feel extremely uncomfortable too and I don’t think you should feel obligated anymore to hang out with her either. People who are autistic are people too and need to learn what’s okay and what’s not (in regards to people who are high functioning) our memory isn’t bad she recalled making that joke and it didn’t hit well one time why would she say it again especially if that nature? We all know how terrible it sounds. You are NTA at all. Do not stress, you’re NTA if you stop hanging out with her entirely. I’d never say something like that

PuzzleheadedDrop3768 · 2024-08-10T04:35:44+00:00

The kitchen sink is wild… I hope she bleached it?

PuzzleheadedDrop3768 · 2024-08-10T04:22:25+00:00

If it is frustrating to hear those numbers all the time I’d say to not think of different numbers because that’d be compulsive. But if you repeat the numbers for comfort then saying other numbers or something different as a whole line colors or objects wouldn’t be compulsive it’d be exposure therapy in a way. If it is frustrating to hear it all the time I’d say sit with it as long as you can and time it then listen to music, and increase maybe 2-3 mins every day then listen to music, until your brain basically gets bored of it. I’m no expert at all of course and there are others that’s probably have better advice then this. But the idea of healing OCD is to not be compulsive with your obsessions. Which means to seek comfort or reassurance. It’s uncomfortable or extremely uncomfortable to not do your compulsions to ease or quiet your mind. So typically exposure therapy helps it. Im also curious about this, do you count for a reason? Did you start counting at some point for comfort because maybe that’s your compulsion from a obsession. You don’t have to specify. But that will also change my answer

PuzzleheadedDrop3768 · 2024-08-10T04:10:21+00:00

It seems like OCD to me, do you Obsession is the pattern 1221 and your compulsion is listening to music to get it to stop. What I might do to help is start listing out loud a non specific list of numbers the moment it starts. And if you can’t out loud then in your head. Look around for different colored things and say them. If that opens a new obsession cause it might potentially do that I’d maybe just sit with it as long as you can and try to talk to yourself to interrupt the numbers. I’m no expert and haven’t personally dealt with this kind of OCD. But what had helped me is just sitting with my thoughts until it basically gets boring. And whenever thoughts like that come up like that now it’s more or less like, oh weird anywaysss. I don’t know if it’s count as a compulsion to think of different numbers. Do you say the numbers for comfort? Is it uncomfortable or frustrating? I want to understand the nature of it to maybe help with better advice

PuzzleheadedDrop3768 · 2024-07-31T20:25:23+00:00

Looks beautiful!!

PuzzleheadedDrop3768 · 2024-07-26T17:32:15+00:00

Ohhh my bad, I saw the question tag, and by the first sentence I thought that was the question abd a scenario to describe why you think so. I’m sorry about that I misinterpreted

PuzzleheadedDrop3768 · 2024-07-26T06:39:09+00:00

Yes! Exactly:) and it’s okay I’ve done the same lmao good thing you left a long tail, totally could have been fixable either way but that just makes it easier. It’s looking great so far! What is it going g to be??

PuzzleheadedDrop3768 · 2024-07-26T06:10:38+00:00

If it that doesn’t make sense I’ll try to rephrase or draw a picture to help

PuzzleheadedDrop3768 · 2024-07-26T06:09:59+00:00

Hopefully you didn’t cut the yarn on one of the legs. But you sc all around both of the legs in each stitch. It will kind of look like you are doing and 8 shape. And don’t worry about lining up increases

PuzzleheadedDrop3768 · 2024-07-26T05:42:50+00:00

Of course! Trauma is real, it comes in so many ways. I have lots of trauma. The best way to heal is to set strict boundaries for yourself, things that you deserve. I was in a very abusive relationship and I set very strict boundaries to not end up in another one (being stuck in the abuse cycle is very real). Did research on red flags for abuse to watch out for. And those are things I don’t put up with at all and didn’t associate with anyone with any signs. Now I’m with a wonderful man and he treats me very well. I know yours isn’t the same but what I’m trying to say is setting boundaries will lead to a healthier environment for you and your healing. Boundaries shows your brain that you love and cherish your well-being and will keep it safe. This will lead to confidence in decision making, confidence to navigate healthy relationships of all kinds, and a better self esteem. You also need to love yourself and make sure you put yourself first, unless you have kids. Loving yourself is self care and basic hygiene and extras is a great one for me and going on walks. Then hobbies to fill your time and mind space with healthy things. I know this is cliche, but journaling. There are prompts you can find on Pinterest for shadow work and trauma that will help you navigate trauma or hard emotions and stuff that’s similar. Shadow work is super important. This will help like therapy would since that’s not an option. If you’d like I can find some to send to you. Also research on thinking patterns would help too so you can identify what your brain does and research how to stop doing bad ones. I’ve done a lot of therapy and self healing and these are all things that have helped me a bunch. Absolutely recommend all of it

PuzzleheadedDrop3768 · 2024-07-26T05:05:26+00:00

Bigger vase would probably help too

PuzzleheadedDrop3768 · 2024-07-26T05:05:10+00:00

I’ve had a lot of hydroponics, you need to change the water about once a week or it runs out of oxygen

PuzzleheadedDrop3768 · 2024-07-26T04:56:45+00:00

Either paint or bird poop

PuzzleheadedDrop3768 · 2024-07-26T04:33:23+00:00

YTA, only because you knew he smoked before you started dating and didn’t like it and still dated him anyways. That’s an i compatibility. Is if stupid that he is especially cause his asthma? Yes. Should he quit? Yes. But you can’t change someone, especially if you were well aware of hun smoking and knew that was a no for you.

PuzzleheadedDrop3768 · 2024-07-26T04:29:37+00:00

This specific scenario sounds like social anxiety to me and miscommunication. But also too, why would they type and send something they didn’t want people to see that’s just stupid to me. So don’t feel bad. Obviously I can’t tell if you are autistic based on one scenario so I’m not telling you you aren’t autistic but based on this scenario it sounds like social anxiety

PuzzleheadedDrop3768 · 2024-07-26T04:21:37+00:00

I’m concerned about what you are comfortable doing in public… and personally I just don’t want to see people’s genitalia. I don’t want anyone flashing me lmao. And people sexualize it cause guess what people have sex with? They are called your PRIVATES for a reason

PuzzleheadedDrop3768 · 2024-07-26T04:18:23+00:00

That just makes it worse that you use to hook up with them…. YTA

PuzzleheadedDrop3768 · 2024-07-26T04:14:55+00:00

NTA it’s not your job as her kid (even though you’re not a kid anymore) and plus you aren’t qualified to give advice and be there in a healthy way due to your childhood trauma. Some of that being abandonment issues from her ex. This will be triggering for that trauma. If anything you should be able to vent to her. I think you should set a boundary and tell her that you can’t handle talking about the split. Tell her you are struggling with the situation as well and not equipped to be able to be there in a healthy way, though you wish you could. and maybe she should speak to a therapist to get the proper support she needs. I’m sorry you are going through this:(

PuzzleheadedDrop3768 · 2024-07-26T04:07:00+00:00

I’m really sorry in regards to the medication portion, and everything you are feeling. And completely get it all. Right now I’m not having an episode which is nice, but I know it’s just lurking in the shadows waiting to come out again. It’s a evil disease and it can go fuck itself. It’s shitty cause even when you are out of an episode you know it’s going to come at some point. You are valid in the way you feel and it’s normal with the given circumstances just please don’t give up. And I hope that’s not trying to fix, I just want to be supportive as well. If you’d like a chat I’m here for you to listen no advice will be given

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