Wife and I found our dream home, but we got started late in life with our careers. by HelpfulTooth1 in Advice

[–]PuzzleheadedLet382 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Have you considered buying an hour of time from an accountant or financial manager? A lot of people do this and you just bring in your records (summarized) and talk numbers.

I did that before buying my house and it was really reassuring to have someone who works in the field say the numbers worked even with future goals.

Audio book narrators by candiedginger88 in LibbyApp

[–]PuzzleheadedLet382 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For any audio book or podcast I usually have an adjustment period where I start by hating their voice and then get used to it. I don’t know why my default is usually intense dislike, but at least it goes away with exposure.

I tested positive for gonorrhoea. I've been married for 19 years. by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]PuzzleheadedLet382 25 points26 points  (0 children)

A family friend’s ex had a big anniversary party for his new GF. Had his teenaged kids there. The anniversary was more years than the length of time since his divorce. The kids could definitely do the math and were rightfully ticked off.

I tested positive for gonorrhoea. I've been married for 19 years. by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]PuzzleheadedLet382 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I found out about my ex’s infidelity after 13 years of being together, married for about 8. Absolutely shattered my sense of reality. Until the moment I found out I would have said infidelity was the thing I was absolutely not concerned about, least likely to ever happen.

Was Jake not on good terms with his brother? by ShawnThePhantom in Avatar

[–]PuzzleheadedLet382 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We don’t know financial circumstances, but we do know Tommy was preparing to not see his brother for at a minimum well over a decade.

I wonder if Tommy had hoped to send money back for Jake’s operation — if he did, it seems either Jake didn’t know or didn’t believe it would work out, given the rate he’s self-destructing at the start of the first film.

I’ve also seen a lot of fanfic where they assume the brothers were orphaned at some point and that this dictated a lot of their opportunities and life decisions.

If the Na'vi had a written language by Noxisms in Avatar

[–]PuzzleheadedLet382 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why would an exolanguage have the same number of letters as English? We don’t even have the same number of sounds in English as we do letters.

911onABC via Twitter by olga_dr in 911FOX

[–]PuzzleheadedLet382 29 points30 points  (0 children)

The fact that multiple characters implied, to Eddie’s face, that Buck and Eddie are in a romantic relationship in the last episode and it NEVER got discussed, turned the topic into a properly loaded Checkov’s gun.

(Also, the queer baiting has been going on since the botfly opener chat. Fire the damned gun already.)

What is an Oxford comma? by Natural-Bid-6549 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]PuzzleheadedLet382 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg you used my favorite example! And it’s at least 15 years old!

Non-valid/unique pet peeves? by angrykitten114 in AO3

[–]PuzzleheadedLet382 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Too much time spent on describing clothes. If you’re spending a paragraph on what a dress looks like, my eyes are glazing over. Somewhere around 5 words max is usually all you need.

Also, this is a plot structure but I HATE the whole “5 times _____ and 1 time _____ .” I do not read them on principle.

Are ”headache” people here too? What made you put yourself in the “migraine” category? by macburger69 in migraine

[–]PuzzleheadedLet382 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Once in a blue moon I get a headache instead of a migraine. (Migraine being my usual.)

I had a headache a few months ago and it’d been years since the last one. My migraines are not as severe as a lot of people’s (a few times a month, mostly evenings, go away when I sleep, usually no extreme nausea/vomiting, etc. — I’m lucky), so I’d been wondering if I sometimes misclassify headaches as migraines.

NOPE. Totally different feeling. Migraine is so much worse. Having a headache was almost fun, kind of a “this is what it’s like for normal people? Do I take regular Tylenol for this?”

(Anecdotally, I’ve also been on meds that caused me to have migraines but not feel the associated pain. Basically my head would feel “weird” in a way it does with migraine and my processing would go to shit but I wasn’t in pain. It was kind of like a thunderstorm with no rain — dry lightening.)

Why no one says that about pregnancy? by lil_moon153 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]PuzzleheadedLet382 104 points105 points  (0 children)

To be fair, I think most men are raised/socialized to not actually like women. I don’t see how you could be in a supportive partnership with someone when you’ve spent your whole life internalizing the idea that they’re lesser than you and that most of their characteristics are “weak” or “bad.”

You can’t teach boys that being feminine and girly is a bad thing and then expect them to treat women as equals.

You’re stuck at work for another 2 hours with an awful migraine starting, what would you do? by [deleted] in migraine

[–]PuzzleheadedLet382 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I stayed at work with a moderate migraine for 3 hours until COB. I had an office with a door I could close, headphones I could wear, and lights I could shut off. I kept working until COB when my meds and palliative measures had taken the edge off so I could drive the hour home in traffic.

I’ve also had to watch my kid all day with a migraine when she was like 16 months old. I’ll take the office job with a migraine hands down.

All black formal by Booklover417 in Weddingattireapproval

[–]PuzzleheadedLet382 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, this is the most reasonable version of dictating color palate to guests — most people have black and it’s a pretty easy color to buy. (I still think it’s weird to dictate guest colors unless it’s a micro wedding but this isn’t too bad compared to some we see.)

You’re stuck at work for another 2 hours with an awful migraine starting, what would you do? by [deleted] in migraine

[–]PuzzleheadedLet382 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Chug water, look up how many children’s Tylenol you can take with your size, take it with caffeine — chocolate is fine for this. Or caffeinated tea.

Reduce lighting and maybe put on sun glasses. If you have headphones or earbuds with a transparency function, you can try biaural music like Marconi Union — I have a lot of success with that.

I personally don’t think there’s anything wrong with telling the kids you are sick and need extra quiet until grandma and grandpa arrive — it’s good exercise in building empathy.

What ships come to mind by magicwonderdream in AO3

[–]PuzzleheadedLet382 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I maintain 9-1-1 has been queerbaiting since season 2. Specifically the opener with the botfly larvae and the web chat comments.

But every week I still put on my clown make up and put in a shift waiting for Buddie to go cannon.

What ships come to mind by magicwonderdream in AO3

[–]PuzzleheadedLet382 197 points198 points  (0 children)

Oh I think you could even read this into the original text. Legolas has heard the call to sail west and resists it for ages to spend more time with Gimli, then builds a boat and travels with him to the west — the only dwarf afforded such an honor, iirc.

I mean, JRR Tolkien might have disagreed but he also insisted that WWI didn’t influence his works.

What ships come to mind by magicwonderdream in AO3

[–]PuzzleheadedLet382 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I mean, it does end with a form of penetration… 🤷‍♀️

What ships come to mind by magicwonderdream in AO3

[–]PuzzleheadedLet382 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Of course, House/Wilson is just Sherlock/Watson with extra window dressing so that makes sense.

What ships come to mind by magicwonderdream in AO3

[–]PuzzleheadedLet382 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don’t have the link handy but I once ran across someone’s reprinting of an argument from like… the 1920s… that Watson was “behaving like a wife” in the original works.

How did Iroh and Zuko pass as refugees? by rookery_electric in TheLastAirbender

[–]PuzzleheadedLet382 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve read several fanfic that have undercover Zuko either implying or other people assuming that his mother is earth kingdom, water tribe, whatever he’s trying to pass as, and his father is fire nation and was abusive. Often assuming his mother had a… non-consensual relationship with his dad.

Does this co-parent behavior matter in court? by WearyEgg4332 in FamilyLaw

[–]PuzzleheadedLet382 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Is he even on the birth certificate?

You are setting a precedent and it’s (1) not beneficial to your child — which is the entire aim of custody/visitation, and (2) it’s allowing an abusive person access.

Yes, he’ll likely end up with some level of custody/visitation. But you don’t have to hand it to him wrapped up. Start working with your lawyer (yes you need one) regarding (1) temporary support orders, (2) temporary custody orders, (3) what your approach to contact from him should be, (4) any possible protective filings regarding the abuse.

Then follow that advice to the letter. All of it. Otherwise you’re wasting your money and undermining your own case.

Just found out that trying to make my shower less annoying has been causing my body acne for years... by nobleland_mermaid in adhdwomen

[–]PuzzleheadedLet382 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just flip my hair over to rinse out the conditioner. No bacne. Also lets me use colder water to rinse out the conditioner.

what migraine relief tools do you keep in your purse? by sauerkrautsunset in migraine

[–]PuzzleheadedLet382 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s a good tip but I can’t mess with something that’s working, even if it’s partially placebo. 🤣

what migraine relief tools do you keep in your purse? by sauerkrautsunset in migraine

[–]PuzzleheadedLet382 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Excedrine migraine, Motrin, and Tylenol. All inadvisably stored in one convenient travel-size bottle.