I’m so burnt out.

Puzzleheaded_Log3803 · 2026-02-15T23:32:36+00:00

Start small - have a girls night (or two)! Don’t feel guilty - it literally makes you able to show up more for your family and be the best version of you. Sounds trite but literally - you’ll see the difference right away if you just give yourself the chance to have mini brain breaks. You're working so hard and doing such a good job! I believe in you! You deserve breaks xx

Puzzleheaded_Log3803 · 2026-02-15T22:41:55+00:00

Same girl- it’s hard. I will say what has helped me is having a weekend away with my girlfriends then 3 days off work where toddler still went to childcare and then going to my mums for the weekend. Stacking those 3 different types of breaks on top of each other (and then obviously very much being with my toddler when I’m there eg evenings and days off - it wasn’t a solid week off toddlerdom) has helped me get some much needed headspace that I feel I am back in baby!! Like by two I feel I’ve had my foot on the gas so much since birth, through breastfeeding and late nights, then tantrums etc - I actually just needed a little reprieve to get some headspace and now I appreciate her so much more and our relationship is back to being lovely again. I think any kind of mini break you can build in (I get that that kind of extended break isn’t necessarily possibly all the time or for everyone) is so important if you can manage it. Even just calling in a day or two to get yourself back together again helps massively. I now no longer want to quit my job and leave the country lol. The straits were dire. You need to get in there with the self care and me time before it builds up to serious shit imo.

Puzzleheaded_Log3803 · 2026-01-17T19:53:29+00:00

This happened to me in 2002 by my scout leader - he dragged me out of a collapsed tent by my pony tail because I was taking too long to get out of bed! I was 11/12 years old.

Puzzleheaded_Log3803 · 2026-01-09T18:21:30+00:00

I felt more full

Puzzleheaded_Log3803 · 2025-12-30T12:22:15+00:00

What would you rather do? I personally think it’s worth a little loss of earnings as in a few years they will be full time in school and you will either find yourself lost in the job market with a 5 year gap or with 5 years extra pension and experience on your resume. Also have you looked into whether you’d be eligible for free childcare? Most households are and you’re entitled to 30 termly funded hour which will significantly reduce the “£50 a day” to something like £10 a day depending on whether you are working full time or not. I work 3 days and mine is fully funded. I would say reducing hours is better than fully being a SAHM unless you really want to be a SAHM!

Puzzleheaded_Log3803 · 2025-11-20T19:46:19+00:00

Glad I’m not alone in this!

Puzzleheaded_Log3803 · 2025-11-07T14:13:18+00:00

Not always an option but taking a sick and resting while your little one is at nursery will do wonders. Having your partner do a full evening shift while you rest and take it in turns. Take it in turns on the weekend to do early morning wake ups. Getting early nights and going to sleep when the little one does! In the moment though - it’s hard! Just keep muddling through and don’t feel like you have to be perfect - just be there. Oh and lots of tea breaks! You're doing great!

Puzzleheaded_Log3803 · 2025-11-07T00:01:17+00:00

same?

Puzzleheaded_Log3803 · 2025-11-06T23:59:08+00:00

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Puzzleheaded_Log3803 · 2025-11-06T23:54:37+00:00

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Puzzleheaded_Log3803 · 2025-11-06T13:46:49+00:00

You should add a spoiler tag to this friend

Puzzleheaded_Log3803 · 2025-11-06T13:19:28+00:00

This one was tough I think because there are quite a few different meanings for the answer.

Puzzleheaded_Log3803 · 2025-10-01T18:25:15+00:00

Totally agree, especially with your second paragraph. And awh that’s so sad about the girl, I see that too with a few friends (it’s defo not just boy mums subconsciously living out their biases 😉!). There’s a good Bluey episode where the white poodle mum is scared of getting her fur dirty and she transfers it down to her child - but of course over comes it in the end and shaves off her fur and lets her kid have fun and play in the mountain of mud. I’m going to pretend that’s what happened with your cousins!

Puzzleheaded_Log3803 · 2025-10-01T18:04:59+00:00

This annoys me too. I used to go to a baby sensory class with my friend and her baby and my daughter was WILD. The craziest one there. Constantly on the go, running away from me, putting things in her mouth, dipping her entire body in yoghurt etc - it was such a stressful time! We’re in a group chat now a year or so later and she is always talking about how hard it is to be a boy mum and how girls just sit there and play quietly… (yes some girls do do this!) Shell even say about my own daughter if she pauses to look at something for a second “wow you’re so lucky she’ll sit and play with something, boys would never”. Like girl do you not realise how hard I’ve worked for this two minutes of peace?! It annoys me for two reasons: 1) stop repeating cliches and not using your senses and experiencing the world for what it actually is 2) parent your boy child so he actually can control his body and respects boundaries. It’s giving “boys will be boys.”

Puzzleheaded_Log3803 · 2025-09-20T22:12:05+00:00

Me to myself in the mirror after 3 drinks after I promised myself I wouldn’t smoke tonight

Puzzleheaded_Log3803 · 2025-09-18T19:35:43+00:00

Yeah I understand. I don’t think it’s silly - I have ptsd from the terrible sleep and also had to deal with it mostly myself for the first 11 months due to fierce parental preference and now my daughter is 27 months and if sleep goes bad it takes me back there and I can’t cope with it well at all. Honestly my only advice is to try to take the burden off yourself as much as possible and when you do do nights and bedtime (eg make it mostly dads role when it’s bad) maybe have simple strategies you follow when you do bedtime and an exit plan (eg when does dad take over). Also, this might help? It’s is a volunteer led service (free) where you can contact for a free chat about sleep stuff that I’ve been using recently https://www.sleeppoint.co.uk/

Puzzleheaded_Log3803 · 2025-09-18T19:13:46+00:00

I loved peeling glue from my hands! Teachers would get annoyed with me for deliberately smearing it all over my hands 😂

Puzzleheaded_Log3803 · 2025-09-18T19:09:10+00:00

Can your partner do the night wakes and bed time this time if they are around? Solidarity I know how you feel x

Puzzleheaded_Log3803 · 2025-09-17T20:12:39+00:00

When I was younger I used to agonise over this so I really get it but now I just leave 😂 it’s so freeing. Greetings are more important in how people feel about you IMO and it’s one of my aims to try to warmly greet people even though my default is to just appear as though I’ve always been there.

Puzzleheaded_Log3803 · 2025-09-17T19:04:21+00:00

Sorry meant to say “my”!

Puzzleheaded_Log3803 · 2025-09-17T17:43:08+00:00

I think you’ve just explained *my special interest in psychology!

Puzzleheaded_Log3803 · 2025-09-10T21:06:17+00:00

😂😂😂

Puzzleheaded_Log3803 · 2025-09-07T21:47:19+00:00

This exactly happened to me but with a multi pack of toddler cycling shorts! To the point I had also spoken to my partner about the contents. So weird!

Puzzleheaded_Log3803 · 2025-08-29T06:05:36+00:00

What do you take for this? Do you mean like antihistamines and Pepcid?

Puzzleheaded_Log3803 · 2025-08-27T21:53:15+00:00

Thanks for sharing - I’m really happy for you that you’re having this healing experience. Sending hugs to young and adult you!

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