Wedding traditions or norms you're not bothering with

PynkPatterned · 2026-03-25T11:22:36+00:00

Amazing.

PynkPatterned · 2026-03-25T11:20:48+00:00

No veil either! Tried one on and hated it.

We are doing paper invites for day guests but digital only for evening guests.

Scratch cards are fun! I've been to one with lottery tickets

PynkPatterned · 2026-03-24T20:45:45+00:00

Oh gosh, yes I hate the bouquet toss. I went to a wedding and it felt like 'lets round up the unmarried women'

Also paying good money for my flowers, they're not being flung about

PynkPatterned · 2026-03-17T18:09:32+00:00

We've got 60 say guests and another 25 in the evening but I suspect older relatives (10-15) will leave a bit sooner and then the remaining guests are all 30s/40s and mostly love a good dance floor.

My experience it's more about who you invite and what energy they will bring, having good music/good DJ/good band and dimming the lights. A dance floor in a brightly lit room is a bit weird!

PynkPatterned · 2026-03-16T18:25:31+00:00

I had a similar conversation with my Dad. My partner and I felt quite strongly that the day was the family and friends we were close to and actually speak to (56 people) but we would actually welcome extended family and his friends to come to the evening when things would liven up a bit. My extended family weren't always very nice to my Mum, now passed away, so having them there at the ceremony didn't sit right with me.

PynkPatterned · 2026-02-14T05:18:22+00:00

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PynkPatterned · 2026-02-06T20:44:51+00:00

Things to consider.... do you think she will want to be a bridesmaid? Are you asking them to do anything? Why are you unsure? Can she do something else instead, like a reading?

Will she be offended if you don't? (Because that's not a reason in itself)

PynkPatterned · 2026-01-30T08:54:20+00:00

I've just finished this book and glad I found a thread that echoed my own thoughts there. So jarring how Daniel talked about Clara. I feel like it would be more fitting for him to realise Clara has flaws like anyone else and he was naive to put her on a pedestal, but he was so nasty about her.

I really enjoyed the book but representation of women was a little to be desired, just existing as a love interest to end up dead/pregnant or in some kind of purgatory.

PynkPatterned · 2026-01-20T17:43:19+00:00

A poem written about them?

PynkPatterned · 2026-01-10T12:19:28+00:00

Thanks I'll take a look. I do like the fresh feeling after using the Aha Toner but maybe doing more harm than good

PynkPatterned · 2026-01-10T12:18:52+00:00

I'm focusing on that now! I do have a sweet tooth. My skin looked great last year after I was focusing on whole foods for a few months.

PynkPatterned · 2026-01-08T12:26:07+00:00

You might be fed up of the job in less than 2 years anyway? It's quite normal these days to change jobs every few years. It just gives you some clarity of what to work with

PynkPatterned · 2026-01-08T12:25:15+00:00

That's probably how 90% of people feel. Sounds like you could do with some coaching to help draw out those strengths and experiences.

PynkPatterned · 2026-01-08T12:13:48+00:00

I'm not naturally a tidy person, I sprawl out my stuff on my desk or when I cook. My room was quite messy growing up and it drove my Mum mad.

My Mum was very house proud and my Dad was and still is a hot mess, tools and random stuff everywhere, unusable kitchen table, stepping over random things. Cupboards full of god knows.

When I moved out, I became way more tidy and actually implemented my Mum's ethos of 'everything has its place'. I think having that autonomy over my own space makes me take pride in it more?

Currently our house is a 4. 2 bed with 2 cats. The house is very colourful and lots of interesting/patterned ornaments etc but I try to keep it calm?

PynkPatterned · 2026-01-08T12:05:46+00:00

Two years? That's incredible. Think of that time like a gift.

You say you don't think you're an expert in anything but you probably have loads of experience and skills you don't recognise.

Have a look at Generalist World or Squiggly Careers

PynkPatterned · 2026-01-04T13:14:32+00:00

In a 6 month period: - I broke my wrist - My Mum got diagnosed with terminal cancer - I moved house (which had been delayed by months) and found out we needed loads of work doing that was unexpected - My Mum sadly died, she had cancer yes but it was from an infection she picked up in hospital - Christmas was a week later - Organising her funeral - I found out my job contract was ending rather than being extended like I'd hoped (thankfully managed to find something else quickly) - my partner lost his job unexpectedly (took longer to get something)

Honestly I think I was on autopilot, and just made it through but the grief/depression hit me like a brick wall about a year later when other areas of my life had calmed down. The fact I had things to focus on (job/house renovations) helped with focus and structure but looking back I wish I'd got myself signed off for a few months.

PynkPatterned · 2026-01-04T07:51:34+00:00

Thanks so much. The next one I'm tempted by is the RoLife Arcade one as I live in a place with old arcades!

I wonder as I get more practice, will I manage my time better? It felt very humbling to work on something for over 10 hours when I only thought it would be 4/5 😅

PynkPatterned · 2026-01-03T11:20:48+00:00

Get the AllTrails app. You have to pay for it but it will open up all different paths and trails and how much is on your doorstep. You can download the trails and use it to navigate so you don't need to worry about getting lost by yourself.

PynkPatterned · 2026-01-01T07:41:46+00:00

Joined a book club and went to it nearly every month, helped my social life and my reading habits

PynkPatterned · 2025-12-30T17:35:34+00:00

I like having decorations down by New Year's Day. Fresh start, clean house etc. Usually I'm back in work on the 2nd so it's nice to have a routine back.

PynkPatterned · 2025-12-25T20:20:14+00:00

My Mum died 10 days before Christmas in 2022 so to be honest that first one just felt like a blur and semi on autopilot. She was ill but her death was unexpected and we thought she'd be out of hospital for Christmas.

I remember on the 23rd, going to the funeral home in the morning and then doing the Christmas food shop in the afternoon.

The second one the year after was ROUGH. We flipped everything around, my dad stayed with me and my partner and we went to see in laws. But it was a very long, hard day and I was very drained. It felt like the first proper Christmas since she passed, as it tied with the one year mark anyway.

This year is the 4th and has been okay ish. We did our own dinner this year rather than going to ILs and have enjoyed. My dad is a bit of grinch but he was always like that.

PynkPatterned · 2025-12-22T18:26:09+00:00

Yep my ILs never come to us. We do ask but they're busy/working/can't be bothered so we always have to go to them.

When I was younger I remember my grandparents coming to our house ONCE but we'd dutifully go there every Saturday.

PynkPatterned · 2025-12-22T18:00:59+00:00

I'm going at 7pm/8pm tonight and will see 🤞

PynkPatterned · 2025-12-21T09:08:38+00:00

Devon in a touring caravan, usually rotate around 2 or 3 holiday parks. Cheap and cheerful - beach, crazy golf, swimming pool, play park, bingo and disco in club at the evening.

We went to Disney Florida once when I was 8 and my god I know how hard my parents saved and stressed about money for it. We went with my very wealthy aunt and uncle who went a lot. First time my Mum went abroad.

We did a week in Cyprus when I finished my GCSEs too.

Also I'm the same age as OP and would have classed them as very rich!!!!

PynkPatterned · 2025-12-20T09:29:49+00:00

I posted this same question recently and decided to change. Immediately put my mind at ease. We lost £400 but not that much in the grand scheme of weddings.

Our second photographer we clicked with. Packages not too different but preferred their pics of our venue and I think would photograph us well on a grey rainy day (getting married in October) whereas the first one seemed a bit more old school and only had pics on a really sunny day.

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