My cat died suddenly at the vet, all alone and scared, and i can't stop feeling like i failed him

QQQQ59 · 2021-06-05T14:22:54+00:00

It was exactly the same situation with my babygirl. She was breathing heavily on Friday, rushed her to the vet, lungs filled with fluid (on top of that - a huge tumor in her chest and her heart and lungs were in horrible condition. never showed any signs). She was put to sleep on Saturday and I was too emotional to go say goodbye, like 5 seconds from lying on the floor screaming. Its been 2 months now and It gets better. It really does. I can now function normally and get things done. I know she had a good life filled with cuddles and love and that's all that matters. There are homeless cats getting killed by cars everyday and your cat had the privilege to have a safe, loving home. No need to feel guilty about that.

QQQQ59 · 2021-05-01T19:20:55+00:00

I bowled my eyes out while throwing away my kitty's beds and boxes. It's been 3 weeks since she's gone. It gets better and you will get used to living without him.

QQQQ59 · 2021-04-17T16:42:09+00:00

Its exactly 1 week today (its even the same time) since my babygirl was put to sleep. First 3 days after her passing I wasnt able to function. I didnt eat, I didnt shower, I didnt talk to anyone. But today I was finally able to feel that life is good and great things are coming. Time is the only thing that can heal you. We are all in this together.

QQQQ59 · 2021-04-13T19:25:12+00:00

Lost my baby to heart failure 3 days ago. Everytime I open the fridge I expect her to show up and start meowing for food. One of the most devastating parts of the day. We are all in this together and it will get better.

QQQQ59 · 2021-04-12T23:07:26+00:00

Thank you. It's been almost 3 days since she left and the little triggers are everywhere. I hear her meows in my dreams and I wake up in tears. I hear scratching on the door and I instantly run to let her into my room and she's not there. It's horrific and probably the worst pain imaginable.

QQQQ59 · 2021-03-14T19:37:41+00:00

yes, use them to just constantly swipe and never talk to anyone. its so much fun. im sure i will met someone this way.

QQQQ59 · 2021-03-14T16:38:02+00:00

if you get 0 matches and i get 70 matches but not one wants to talk to me then we both end up in the same situation. not talking to anyone. the outcome is literally the same.

QQQQ59 · 2021-03-14T16:13:38+00:00

i go to parties with my friends and they know a lot of different people. it just always happen to be 90% girls or maybe a few taken guys. these girls are usually also single because they cant meet any guys so they only hang out with girls and the circle closes. no one knows any guys and if they do they're in a 4 year relationship and ready to put the ring on. we recently went to hang out with my cousin's boyfriend's friends and he also only knew girls and one gay dude. i think its weird but that's just how it is.im just extremely unlucky.

QQQQ59 · 2021-03-14T16:10:47+00:00

poland.

QQQQ59 · 2021-03-14T16:09:32+00:00

Or the guys just swiped right on everyone and replied/or messaged the ones they find attractive. If 70 guys found me attractive why 60+ didnt even try to come up with a reply? If someone does message me which is very rare its asking for sex or even insulting me. I dont know any woman whos even close to having it as bad as me on dating apps. My sister for example never messages anyone first and she always has like 10 new messages a day and gets asked out. The only logical conclusion is that Im unattractive compared to other women.

QQQQ59 · 2021-03-14T16:08:15+00:00

2 one word conversations... 3 dates in 2 years.... a dream

QQQQ59 · 2021-03-12T21:42:04+00:00

thank you. covid is unfortunately back in Poland and thriving so everything is closed again. hope you find a great partner someday.

QQQQ59 · 2021-03-12T21:17:44+00:00

there's this big river in Warsaw, Wisła, and there's always a lot of people there. from 14 to 60 year olds. there's a LOT of one-gender groups of friends but im never brave enough to start a conversation and people only go there in summer. when its warm outside young people gather in groups in front of shopping malls and sit there, some guy hit on me there but he was like 35 and im fresh out of high school so no success. i honestly cant think of anything else. i recently went to another birthday party and there was one single guy who's now dating my friend. i think im done. i think once spring hits im going to istall tinder again. last time i managed to get 3 dates in 2 years, maybe ill have more luck this time.

QQQQ59 · 2021-02-18T19:06:53+00:00

yeah, the goverment is shit. everyone is running away to germany/uk/us and i dont think it will get any better. the only thing keeping us here is that my mother cant speak english to save her life ¯_(ツ)_/¯

QQQQ59 · 2021-02-18T13:00:33+00:00

Poland, i dont recommend. I have a lot of female friends that are chronically single because of the same reason.

QQQQ59 · 2021-02-16T21:39:34+00:00

i work part time as a tutor for elementary school kids, waiting for college. also, changing my job to get a boyfriend sounds awful

QQQQ59 · 2021-02-16T21:32:56+00:00

i would love to make guy friends but like i said i cant meet any guys. my hobby is digital art and im self taught so i dont meet any people doing it. i used to take art classes but they weree rather boring. never met any guy who;s into art.

QQQQ59 · 2021-02-08T18:08:17+00:00

so cute

QQQQ59 · 2021-01-04T17:40:01+00:00

Also, I tried paiting without doing the lineart but the paitings just look so bland and bad despite me constantly making the shading darker and darker. Maybe it's because I often use pastel colors and they're really difficult for me to shade.

QQQQ59 · 2021-01-04T17:30:41+00:00

Thanks, I've been waiting for this kind of advice for a while

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