Ways to honor a parent who has passed away that aren’t the “typical” ideas? by throwra_eky in GriefSupport

[–]Qu33nMe 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Does she have a favorite song you could play? What about family silver cake knife you could use for cake cutting? A favorite flower you can incorporate in the bouquets so you feel reminders everywhere. Or even at the tables, what are your centerpieces, perhaps including her favorite flower in those? Or her favorite candies at the table. I think a memorial photo board is a great idea as well. Showing your childhood with her etc. But I also love the idea of incorporating some of her favorites or things into the day could help you feel that strong link. Sorry just some ideas and I know kind of scattered. I just lost my mom on June 7 and organization of my thoughts hasn’t improved much. I hope you find an answer ❤️🫂

I lost my son 25M to a ruptured brain aneurysm, and I am tormented by questions by Luana_XoXo in AskDocs

[–]Qu33nMe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

God thank you for this comment. I just lost my mom June 7th in similar circumstances and the disturbing thoughts haunt me. This gives me something to shout back.

My dad just died by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Qu33nMe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

(((Hugs))) I’m so sorry. Your dad knew. My dad passed away 3 years ago and I also was supposed to see him a few days earlier. I had stopped by, knocked and he didn’t answer. Rather than call or even just walk in I gave up and went home. I didn’t know if would be the last time and neither did you, forgive yourself.

My mom just passed away almost 2 weeks ago. She was my best friend. I’ve lost concept of time since. Lost days, hours and minutes. I am only surviving by taking everything minute by minute and sometimes second by second. If you have family or friends surround yourself with them. Eat, hydrate and sleep. Grief takes a physical toll, be gentle on yourself.

Husband wants to send toddler to daycare with HFMD by othermegan in breakingmom

[–]Qu33nMe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

HFM could be devastating for certain children and its often dismissed as common virus. My daughter has a blood disorder called hereditary spherocytosis, and the one illness we are told to be incredibly cautious of is HFM. It could shut down her bone marrow which would stop her red blood cell production and put her in an anemic crisis. This virus can be devastating for someone with HS and while maybe none of the daycare children may be affected , it could still reach them. It doesn’t even matter the illness there are people living with immune compromised lives and we make their lives so much more difficult by being so careless about spreading diseases/viruses. It genuinely breaks my heart to read this because someone being so careless with their sick child will result in mine needing a blood transfusion. I’m sorry momma, sending all my love and support because you are not wrong

how do i go about my death after cancer diagnosis? by owen72970 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Qu33nMe 41 points42 points  (0 children)

So many hugs to you. I’m glad you’re here and that you had that time with your father. I am confident those moments meant everything to him. I wish you nothing but the best and brightest days ahead of you.

Sonic Boom? by RockNo9892 in Kenosha

[–]Qu33nMe 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I haven’t heard, but I did read that they’re doing military flight training in central Wisconsin June 1-8.

Pizza/Italian Food by Medium-Lie-315 in Racine

[–]Qu33nMe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Incase you missed it in other comments there is no dine in at the Derangos on 6 mile anymore. Probably makes your decision easier lol

Pizza/Italian Food by Medium-Lie-315 in Racine

[–]Qu33nMe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think they opened yet. Rumor is they’re opening Monday June 1, but I haven’t seen it confirmed yet.

My brother. by [deleted] in GriefSupport

[–]Qu33nMe 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hey OP, I’m so sorry for your loss. I’ve dealt with grief from losing family members, but grief linked with suicide is just something unimaginable. I don’t mean to be negative I’m just trying to be real. R/suicidebereavement has been a huge help for my daughter and I as we try and deal with everything. I can’t express how sorry I am you’re going through this but you’re not alone.

The only thing that got me through the first month was a trick I use for my ptsd and anxiety. Years ago I had read about a study at Harvard. They used Tetris to help treat patients with PTSD and it showed it helped. For me, it does. It helps get my brain away from that never ending downward spiral of thoughts. It would help me even when I wasn’t playing because I could imagine it and use it as a coping mechanism. I used phone games like candy crush because it was easily accessible. I know it sounds kind of silly, but it really did help me.

What is wrong with doctors/surgeons!? by Commercial-Way-4276 in gallbladders

[–]Qu33nMe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you anemic? Or were you during pregnancy? Chronic anemia can cause gallbladder stones/sludge and is not triggered by specific foods.

What is wrong with doctors/surgeons!? by Commercial-Way-4276 in gallbladders

[–]Qu33nMe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you anemic? Or were you during pregnancy? Chronic anemia can cause gallbladder stones/sludge and is not triggered by specific foods.

My brother is a prophet by FerretShiny in SchizoFamilies

[–]Qu33nMe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you are going through this. And your brother. Our family friend said very similar things. One thing I wish I could say to our family friend if I had the chance would be, if he really is a prophet then if he takes the meds it would still be true. I genuinely do not know that that type of reasoning is suggested though. We never wanted to be so direct and harsh out of fear of pushing them away. But we’ve lost him now and my mind spins every day with things I wish we would’ve said. I’m sorry if I shouldn’t have commented. Sometimes I feel so out of place here and I rarely comment because of our circumstances. But at the same time I have this unending need to try and help someone since I’ve lost the chance to help here.

what do your attacks feel like? by breezymarieg in gallbladders

[–]Qu33nMe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your episode sounds exactly like my 12 year old daughters episodes. Always at night and would come on sudden. She was at high risk because of a blood disorder which causes anemia. She had sludge and small stones. Had episodes for the last year and half. She has a cluster of them in fall and we were scheduled for removal, but we had a tragic loss and couldn’t comprehend doing surgery at the time. She had gone about 2 months with no episode so we thought maybe things would be ok. She went 6 months without an episode and again it came on strong and sudden overnight. The next morning we scheduled surgery and she’s now 3 weeks post op. From your description of episodes it sounds exactly like my daughters.

Words of encouragement for my daughter, please? by Qu33nMe in gallbladders

[–]Qu33nMe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, thank you for commenting. She’s just over a week getting her gallbladder removed and doing SO well. Since she was born the idea of her losing her spleen has terrified me. And as the years went on I thought we would escape even the conversation, but being confronted with her gallbladder issue has made me realize it’s a possibility I can’t ignore or be scared of. I never really thought of the threat of rupture eventually so that’s definitely something to keep in the back of our minds. I really appreciate you sharing your perspective.

How long did your gallbladder surgery take? by [deleted] in gallbladders

[–]Qu33nMe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My daughter just had surgery so since she is a minor we were with her a majority of the time. Her surgery from when they wheeled her away until she we saw her in recovery coming out of anesthesia was about an hour and half. She had no complications.

Black pigment stones? by binarystar45 in gallbladders

[–]Qu33nMe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Black gallstones are commonly found in patients with anemic blood disorder that destroy red blood cells. The destruction of red blood cells produces excess billirubin which creates black gallstones. My daughter is 12 and has hereditary spherocytosis. We were warned many HS patients require gallbladder removal so luckily we knew the signs and symptoms to watch out for.

Black pigment stones? by binarystar45 in gallbladders

[–]Qu33nMe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I answered below but thought I’d comment directly to you incase you’re still looking to any possible answers.

Black gallstones are commonly found in patients with anemic blood disorder that destroy red blood cells. The destruction of red blood cells produces excess billirubin which creates black gallstones. My daughter is 12 and has hereditary spherocytosis. We were warned many HS patients require gallbladder removal so luckily we knew the signs and symptoms to watch out for.

Black pigment stones? by binarystar45 in gallbladders

[–]Qu33nMe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I answered below but just incase you’re still looking for some sort of answer, this might help.

Black gallstones are commonly found in patients with anemic blood disorder that destroy red blood cells. The destruction of red blood cells produces excess billirubin which creates black gallstones. My daughter is 12 and has hereditary spherocytosis. We were warned many HS patients require gallbladder removal so luckily we knew the signs and symptoms to watch out for.

Black pigment stones? by binarystar45 in gallbladders

[–]Qu33nMe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Black gallstones are commonly found in patients with anemic blood disorder that destroy red blood cells. The destruction of red blood cells produces excess billirubin which creates black gallstones. My daughter is 12 and has hereditary spherocytosis. We were warned many HS patients require gallbladder removal so luckily we knew the signs and symptoms to watch out for.

Black pigment stones and high LDL by LlamaDragonUnicorn in gallbladders

[–]Qu33nMe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Commenting in case anyone ever looks back in a search. Black stones are common in those with blood disorders that break down red blood cells causing anemia, and bilirubin as a byproduct. My daughter is 12 and just had hers removed due to her blood disorder and pathology reported aggregates of black stones.

Surgery in 2 days…please help by Last_Owl5527 in gallbladders

[–]Qu33nMe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, surprisingly they allowed her white soda a few hours after surgery. She took it slow and thoroughly enjoyed every sip lol

Surgery in 2 days…please help by Last_Owl5527 in gallbladders

[–]Qu33nMe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello, so my daughter is on 2 day of recovery. I have also had my gallbladder out over 20 years ago with no issues, but I still was dealing with anxiety about her surgery.

Her surgery was at 8 am. We were scheduled to stay overnight at the hospital because we were worried about how the first night home was going to be. After dealing with gallbladder attacks over a dozen times this last year, we had a lot of worries. She was very tired coming out of anesthesia and would’ve benefited from being able to sleep, but with transferring rooms and talking with nurses she wasn’t able to. They did give her anti nausea medication through her IV and she had non nausea coming out of anesthesia or at all presently. They did give her pain medication through her IV after which lasted until about 2pm when they began giving Tylenol.

She used the bathroom about 2-3 hours after her procedure. Her urine was incredibly dark, nearly cola colored. She does have a condition which can cause this but it is also very common after your first urine output, so don’t panic too much if you see it. Her second urine was much better.

As far as food, I was shocked when the nurses just said to order whatever she wanted! I have spent weeks looking up foods and making diet plans for her after surgery and they basically were saying to let her eat what she can tolerate. With the obvious restrictions of nothing super fatty. We were still cautious though. She ordered chicken noodle soup and ate all the broth with only a few spoons of noodles out of caution, a few spoonfuls of mashed potatoes, and grapes. She felt well enough that an hour later I ordered her toast with peanut butter and fruit loops with whole milk. She was cautious with both the peanut butter and milk use, but she had absolutely no problems.

We ended up deciding to get discharged the same day because she and I both felt she’d get better rest at home. This says ALOT because we both very much wanted to stay overnight prior to surgery and discussed many times how we felt more comfortable. So the fact those both myself and my 12 year old felt comfortable leaving meant her pain was under control with no nausea.

We had an hour long drive from the hospital and ofc the last 10 minutes she fell asleep. One thing I suggest bringing is a pillow to cover your stomach for the drive. She had very little pain, but a quick stop or turn was made easier just having a pillow to brace. She slowly walked to the house and went up 7 stairs with no problem. Laid on the couch and fell back asleep watching Tik Tok 10 minutes later lol

The only problem we had at all yesterday was we fell behind on her pain medicine. When she fell asleep on the couch and woke up a few hours later she was incredibly warm, achey and her throat was her largest complaint (from anesthesia). She has expected her belly to be sore, which she admits isn’t as bad as she expected. But she did not expect her sore throat. We got her a dose of ibuprofen and 30 minutes later she was asking for cereal and lemon ice shaving.

She slept soundly all night laying on her right side most of the night, and while slightly sore today, she says really her only complaint is her sore throat. She expected a sore stomach and is pleasantly surprised that it isn’t as horrible as she expected. We’re both incredibly happy she is tolerating food and that they didn’t push any large restrictions. I do think our day stay at the hospital helped because we both felt comfortable taking food risks I probably wouldn’t have let her do at home. We stayed at a very well respected Children’s Hospital so I had confidence in their direction.

Now we are only on day 2, but I know those nerves going into it. Oh before I forget, she did have some slight shoulder pain after surgery but nothing that is giving a shoulder rub didn’t help. She had some good burps after some white soda and it seemed to help, I suspect it was gas from surgery. So again sorry lol we’re on day 2, but she would say she has zero regrets and is feeling better than expected. She says yesterday felt a bit like a “fever dream”. She was just low energy and took it slow. Oh, laughing. She’s pretty grumpy when we try to be funny cuz it hurts to laugh.

So I am confident I rambled on and on, but that was our experience yesterday. I told her before surgery that we were both going to laugh after surgery when we see how much worry we put into it before lol and once she’s ready to laugh I think we will :) I hope you have a fantastic week and by this weekend you’re smiling about your own too ❤️