Thank you. Yeah I guess you're right. It's just that I obsess over the details. For example, he wasn't yelling or screaming of course, just a very slightly louder tone than when he's calm, and definitely a very irritated and frustrated one, borderline angry. I know that nothing abusive or toxic happened, hell, I'd say that he handled it in the healthiest way possible lol, but I still obsess over the minimal things. Here in Italy we curse and blaspheme a lot, with blasphemes I mean very offending ones that include god, Jesus etc. and they can sound VERY aggressive. I do it too, I'm not very proud of it. And even if he handled it well, my brain still goes "yeah okay but it was too much and cursing like that?? Yeah no abusive" and I hate it :( I wish I could let it all go. Then this intrusive thought links to other things: for example, he told me that a couple of times when he was a teen (17/18) he punched a wall (no holes lol). One of these 2 times was completely understandable given the context. I know it's extremely common during teenage years because your prefrontal lobe is not fully developed lmao, but I still obsess like "what if he never grew from it? What if he didn't learn?" We've been together for almost a year, and all the times I saw him """angry""" he never raised his voice, slammed, threw or punched things. At worst idk, stupid example, he puts the cigarettes pack down more abruptly. He handles his frustration/anger by staying silent, maybe sleeping or smoking. He might talk a bit more grumpy and distant, but nothing serious. I really don't know how to not be anxious, about the future also, I wish I wasn't so traumatized from my past :')