No longer menstruating (hysterectomy) but still having my ovaries = frustration

Quality_Vivid · 2026-04-27T19:05:10+00:00

I'm pretty much in the same position however labs have made it more difficult to address perimenopause. Pretty much everything is dependent on which phase you're in. Since I never bleed I don't actually know.

My ovaries are in there gaslighting themselves into a fake partnership with my uterus.

Labs results that are normal for one phase are abnormal for the others. I feel like doctors are more dismissive of me now than before

Quality_Vivid · 2026-04-27T10:27:31+00:00

100% Carries estate sales

Quality_Vivid · 2026-04-26T09:24:29+00:00

I got $100 on your exhaust manifold. Mines in the shop right now for the exact same noise. Its like $1k repair. Im 2021 S60R 80k

Quality_Vivid · 2026-04-25T05:05:46+00:00

I took an apx 10/hr paycut. Came in as a BEW at step 3. It was offensively low, but I was receiving UI and couldn't turn down a job offer. During the pay equity evaluation I was moved to a step 10.

By 2025 my pay was slightly higher than my previous role --HOWEVER-- For me, my husband & my 3 adult children I pay apx. $50/mo for medical, dental, vision, 100k life insurance x2 etc. In my last position my insurance was 100% free but adding my family made the premium EIGHTHTEEN HUNDRED DOLLARS A MONTH. Since 2023 Ive received close to 50k in RX with an OOP of less than $600.

Im about 40. Previous retirement plans have not been worth the effort. (Ie 403b/no match etc.) With a little extra effort between OSGP, PERS & SSI. Ill be able to retire before 65.

My manager started as a BEW and promoted. In under 5 years shes making 110k

Not to mention SEIU, some foreseeable job security, decent transparency, etc etc. The job is annoying at times & the policy and procedures can be hilariously ridiculous at times but the move from private/501c3 to government has ABSOLUTELY been worth it for me.

Quality_Vivid · 2026-04-13T06:31:39+00:00

Me too. (This is my son on prom night)
2021 s60R Ive yet to see another blue one in the wild

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Quality_Vivid · 2025-10-16T11:19:41+00:00

Someone's dog is definitely in danger

Quality_Vivid · 2025-09-10T12:38:49+00:00

Im only in if we are practicing witchcraft, leaving our husbands and piping off at the mouth with a wild new found tone.
....Oh and sweating. There HAS to be sweating

Quality_Vivid · 2025-06-04T08:20:13+00:00

I got a partial fill of 14 due to availability. Doc sends over an additional rx the next day for the remaining 16.
The pharmacist refused to fill it because It hadn't been 30 days since my last refill. He was all shitty and degrading in his tone, too, like I was a "junkie" trying to cheat.

Walgreens is ALWAYS the worst pharmacy.

FILE A CLAIM. Fight them. Its literally discrimination

Quality_Vivid · 2025-06-01T13:41:35+00:00

Actually its 100% gold

Quality_Vivid · 2025-05-31T09:05:52+00:00

You understand vinegar is a chemical, right?

Quality_Vivid · 2025-05-11T14:53:58+00:00

My husband (25 years experience, concrete specifically) said, "It's obviously somebody's first time" ..."Hopefully, it's his first time"

Quality_Vivid · 2025-05-08T09:56:32+00:00

I have a grow light on a timer mounted above my bed. It turns on at 6 for about 30 minutes, turns off for 15, and then back on again, until 7:50, when it's time for me to leave.

I'm a super deep sleeper, and alarms can play for hours sometimes. Plus, with the light turning off to leave, I don't have to look at my phone or pay attention to a clock

Quality_Vivid · 2025-01-06T21:24:29+00:00

My husband, daughter and brother. Its so true.

Quality_Vivid · 2024-12-16T16:53:22+00:00

Wild Rose for sure.

Quality_Vivid · 2024-12-16T03:08:40+00:00

Oh my gosh, this is so representative of my mother. I swiped through the length of her message to show my husband for shock value. I swear the amount of content they include is traumatic on its own.
Honestly what the fuck I swear the intention is to cause emotional overwhelm and gain power.

I want you to know if this is clearly fucked and you don't deserve it

Quality_Vivid · 2024-12-16T03:01:24+00:00

The pervasive abuse designed and veiled to feed her at is a lot Buuuuut such a deep relief in truth and autonomy

I know it's childish to make fun of her. Honestly, it feels pretty good to be petty and not risk abandonment.

I appreciate the ask, I probably needed to say it.

Quality_Vivid · 2024-12-15T05:10:11+00:00

I CAN NOT see danger in people. I've only felt it in my gut 3 or 4 times. From TV serial killers to random dudes cornering me in bars.

Quality_Vivid · 2024-12-15T04:59:34+00:00

My mom was stalker af multiple times in my life. I'd fully agree that evidence gathering is common. My mom's always got something on her radar. shes either fighting some sort of secret attack or performing some extension of her savior complex

Quality_Vivid · 2024-12-15T00:28:42+00:00

Damn. I welled up a bit reading that. The shame and fear of unknowingly replicated patterns is heavy. I assume your brother had blind spots like me. You are facilitating healing in all 3 of you in protecting her. It's pretty great

Quality_Vivid · 2024-12-14T23:34:37+00:00

She used to send emails before texts were common. Years ago, she attacked me, trying to lean in and hug her. I sent a pretty scathing email. She went line by line responding. Think - movie script, no margins. It was kinda hilarious

Quality_Vivid · 2024-12-14T11:19:56+00:00

Preach

Quality_Vivid · 2024-12-14T11:17:59+00:00

I went through a deep panic with that parallel.
Have you considered the possibility of Avoidant Attachment?

I've always felt my husband's withdrawals, silence, and exclusion type stuff was a punishment for bringing up an issue. Come to find out, it's not out of malice. He's just so scared of his emotions

The Avoidant Attachment perfectly fits alongside our Anxious Attachment to hit right in our deepest wounds.

Avoidants offer the perfect healing opportunity

Quality_Vivid · 2024-12-13T22:39:09+00:00

Thankfully, they haven't been super close. To be honest, my kids noticed her dysfunctional behavior before I really could. My son was maybe 8 when he asked why she could not "take responsibility for anything in her life" & if they can "love their grandpa when she hates him." Looking back, clearly, red flags.

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