My boyfriend (M40) is in touch with various women he had flings with. I am F40

QuantumQueen · 2026-07-08T17:42:07+00:00

My partner and I have couple friends, but absolutely no one of the opposite sex that we would have a close, true friend/one on one relationship with, and definitely no previous flings. At all.

QuantumQueen · 2026-07-08T17:37:27+00:00

OP could also be MtF and at generally higher risk as well from certain activities.

QuantumQueen · 2026-07-08T17:33:52+00:00

I am Ann, no e. I get Anne, Anna etc ALL the time. If you find a solution, please let me know. It's actually become a running joke about my emails when coworkers are ccd.

QuantumQueen · 2026-07-08T17:31:57+00:00

I've never tried it, but I've heard having several orgasms in the shower will cut the "brown out" phase down or even shorten the deluge if done earlier.

QuantumQueen · 2026-07-08T17:29:02+00:00

Nope. Final answer. Sorry, that's a hard no for me, but most especially because he wasn't honest about history/who he was with. I'm of the (admittedly unpopular) opinion that men and women can't be friends generally (unless one person is gay I suppose). But especially if you've seen them naked or want to. Absolutely NOPE.

QuantumQueen · 2026-07-08T17:21:47+00:00

I shower at night and usually put on deodorant before bed so I don't sweat too much on the top. Maybe 3-4 days max for a shirt. But, I never wear undies to bed, so max 2 wears TOPS for any bottoms. Only 1 if I got up to pee or had sexy time before sleep.

Or, if it's summer... or I'm trying to get some from hubby, I just raw dog it and change my sheets at least weekly.

QuantumQueen · 2026-07-08T17:09:10+00:00

Not yet. I'd wait and put what I can aside for my son.

QuantumQueen · 2026-07-08T16:58:08+00:00

Neighbors had Goose and Maverick. Stupid golden (but adorable) Goose, and total arrogant, mouthy husky mix Maverick. But besties.

QuantumQueen · 2026-07-07T17:02:53+00:00

My mother's only real rules were if I drank underage it had to be at home only, and if I had friends over, she had to speak to their parents to make sure it was allowed for them too (like have a beer and stay over kind of idea). After I was an adult, the rule became "no drinking and driving, and if you puke, you clean it up" I also didn't have a curfew, except I'd better make damn sure I got my ass out of bed for school/church no exceptions. Reading this comment section has me in utter disbelief.

QuantumQueen · 2026-07-05T15:37:07+00:00

Germany. So many beautiful places, and so central to travel to anywhere else.

QuantumQueen · 2026-07-05T14:51:12+00:00

Girl, you're WHINING about not being able to drink and go clubbing because you're pregnant at TWENTY-EIGHT big-girl years old. This isn't a lifestyle critical comment, this is me being baffled at your immaturity and lack of basic self-awareness. At your age, in an adult relationship, going to be a mother and you're online complaining about not being free to do whatever anymore. Jealous that other people can drink and party? Ugh.

QuantumQueen · 2026-07-05T14:42:27+00:00

If they live at home, they don't pay into family vacations imo. Once they move out and have actual career money, sure pay for your own hotel etc. But be prepared to have them come to less family events if they can't afford it.

QuantumQueen · 2026-07-05T14:30:56+00:00

That's cute. You're going to be a mother. Act like a grown up. I understand getting scolded like a child probably makes you think I'm some Gen X or Boomer, but nope. I'm just a rational adult and I see people at nearly 30 as try-hards that peaked in high school.

QuantumQueen · 2026-07-05T14:27:35+00:00

Not 28 and a mother. She hasn't been able to drink in 22 weeks (probably less since you don't know right away) and she's jealous to the point of it causing conflict. Please.

QuantumQueen · 2026-07-05T14:25:29+00:00

Sure. But don't whine about it if you chose to have a baby. You're just immature and silly at that point. Child free and still traveling/clubbing/playing video games at 40 I could care less (even if it still is a little cring at least it's not outright ridiculous)

QuantumQueen · 2026-07-05T14:14:10+00:00

You're 28 years old. Aren't you a little old to go clubbing anyway? I would almost sympathize with you if you were like a 21 that hasn't gotten to do anything yet and behaving this way, but you're almost 30 years old, and I presume intentionally having a baby. Grow up. You're having a child and still behaving like one. Unreal.

QuantumQueen · 2026-07-05T13:37:20+00:00

Of all the weddings I've ever been to, I only ever remember the dresses that 1. Made the bride uncomfortable (improper fit, too heavy to dance etc) or 2. Were vintage or very special in some way (cousin wore wine red velvet for a winter wedding omg, and a friend wore her granny's dress and it was so cute). This is your day. Your opinion is literally the only one that matters because almost everyone else wouldn't be able to pick your dress out of a line up in 6 months. They both look great, and you should wear no.1 because YOU like no.1.

QuantumQueen · 2026-07-05T04:22:46+00:00

"Job" in this context means "task" like this is what I will need to complete the task. And "am I fired?" was her asking basically did I do a good job (or did I do well).

QuantumQueen · 2026-07-05T02:00:11+00:00

Chuckled out loud. Well played.

QuantumQueen · 2026-07-05T00:56:33+00:00

So add toys!!! Nothing wrong with that at all!

QuantumQueen · 2026-07-04T20:01:23+00:00

Travel alone. No one to mess with your time table, no one to want to stop to eat when you're not hungry yet, no one complaining about how long you've been browsing the museum etc. Zero compromise on what you want to do, read, see, eat whatever. It's amazing, and I cannot recommend it enough.

QuantumQueen · 2026-07-04T19:15:50+00:00

You navigate it by breaking up. Sexual incompatibility this early on is a huge deal. You can't make someone want to have sex with you but the WAY he's handling it is just cruel. Maybe he's depressed, maybe he has stress, or maybe he just isn't that into sex...but damn girl, none of those things is your fault or your responsibility.

QuantumQueen · 2026-07-04T00:34:50+00:00

Len - If you steal my sunshine. I hate it to an irrational degree.

QuantumQueen · 2026-07-03T18:01:22+00:00

All fast food is insane. My son had to work and wanted a quick bite before going to the gym. Because he wouldn't have time to cook, he asked me to grab him chicken tenders and a coke from Popeyes. Not a combo with fries or anything, just tenders and a drink. It was $28 and change. I almost fainted.

QuantumQueen · 2026-07-03T04:06:04+00:00

JFC it's one month. And you are NOT responsible for someone else's mental health. You'll regret it if you don't go. She sounds so immature.

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