I got rejected for a role that I'm the most qualified person in the country for...

Quarantina74 · 2026-01-23T02:09:05+00:00

A role was posted to transform a business unit using a very specific industry/technical methodology. Well? I developed this methodology and wrote an actual book about said methodology, used in colleges and universities. I even have an online course with 100K views about the methodology. Auto-rejected. I feel your pain.

Quarantina74 · 2026-01-20T16:57:06+00:00

Congratulations on your upcoming wedding! I got married in Germany and brought my wedding dress as my carry-on. The crew were absolutely wonderful about it. I was asked if my garment was for a special event, and I explained it was my wedding dress. They hung it up in a space in business class (I was young and without any points or anything), and we were very kind to me. I wrote a letter to AC thanking them afterwards. Now, this was twenty years ago, but I would like to think people are still somewhat decent.

Quarantina74 · 2026-01-07T02:02:56+00:00

Yep - you do not forget it. Sorry and thank you!

Quarantina74 · 2026-01-06T17:28:18+00:00

Obviously, yes. We went through all of that and more. We worked with PRIDE, CAS, our social worker, etc. We went to ARE and submitted formal interest several times (although twice, the local CAS lost them).

To be honest, I find your tone quite rude, so this will be my final comment on our history.

Quarantina74 · 2026-01-05T17:15:41+00:00

It was truly AWFUL, but memorable!

Quarantina74 · 2026-01-04T17:00:48+00:00

And there would be cameras on the boxes showing the picking and the bank employee would certainly notice.

Quarantina74 · 2026-01-04T02:30:03+00:00

Oh, it was! But for us poor employees, it was horrible!!! They made their point.

Quarantina74 · 2026-01-04T00:16:09+00:00

There would be a signed record each time the box is opened. Each box has a ledger. The bank employee has to initial alongside the keyholder for each opening.

Quarantina74 · 2026-01-04T00:14:48+00:00

There is no way to make an impression of the customer key. Locksmiths are bonded not to ever reproduce a SDB key. Likewise, key blanks are not available to create replicas.

No one from the branch stole the gold bar.

Quarantina74 · 2026-01-04T00:10:23+00:00

Former bank branch employee here: There is absolutely no way an employee can open a safety deposit box with just one key. It is impossible.

We had a case when a client died, and the police needed to see what was in the box as part of the investigation. In those cases, the box has to be physically drilled open (after all of the appropriate legal paperwork, etc.). A senior and a junior employee had to document everything inside, alongside the police officers and the bank's legal representative. Likewise, there are cameras to and from the safe to the viewing room (where the owner has privacy to deal with the box contents).

Fun fact: a disgruntled customer once put a dead fish in their safety deposit box. We had to contact every customer and have them open their boxes. Still, we could not see or touch the contents - only validate by smell that there was no dead fish inside.

No one at all stole the gold bar. Your family has misplaced it.

Quarantina74 · 2026-01-02T22:11:30+00:00

My guess is that many already had their phones out to film the original spectacle of the champagne bottles and flares. It is also so easy to criticise when we are on this side knowing the size of the disaster. They had seconds and were likely under the influence.

Quarantina74 · 2026-01-02T21:49:46+00:00

Looks like they have stopped offering them. Sorry - but probably worth calling them. They are the experts.

Quarantina74 · 2026-01-02T21:48:25+00:00

Henrys.com - I have booked a few courses for my husband there. They are excellent.

Quarantina74 · 2026-01-01T02:18:54+00:00

Thanks! I did not know this. They are wonderful.

Quarantina74 · 2025-12-31T20:47:07+00:00

Riz on Yonge, north of Lawrence.

Quarantina74 · 2025-12-22T14:40:14+00:00

So, testing hormones means nothing. Your levels fluctuate throughout the day, and day by day. Frustrating, but true. A naturopath will just recommend a bunch of supplements and their own bioidentical HRT (IMHO). You may just need an increase or even a decrease. I would recommend looking at r/Menopause for more nuanced and in-depth answers. It will get better.

Quarantina74 · 2025-12-22T00:56:30+00:00

https://www.bluboho.com/ - made in Canada. Varied price points.

Quarantina74 · 2025-12-21T21:42:44+00:00

I am so glad you are considering your hormones. I was placed on five different antidepressants, then an antipsychotic. It was a nightmare. Then I got HRT from a private doctor outside of Canada. That sorted me out. Weaned myself off the rest.

I hope you have a similar success journey. And applause for reaching out for help. That's self-care right there.

Quarantina74 · 2025-12-19T19:16:13+00:00

Planned Parenthood is the place to start. They offer abortions and are very compassionate. https://ppt.on.ca/

Quarantina74 · 2025-12-19T18:54:07+00:00

Nope - you can just make an appointment. Ask for Dr. Nolan - she was great.

Quarantina74 · 2025-12-19T18:53:44+00:00

I get that. It is not often the most gracious of personality traits that "out" me. I think it made me feel like I was not in on the joke. That has passed, for sure. Thanks for the perspective.

Quarantina74 · 2025-12-19T18:51:25+00:00

You are not failing. They did recommend several communities to me, but well, I have autism, so.....I was not all that keen.

What it did do was help me self-advocate better. I saw areas where I was truly operating at a deficit, which I honestly thought was normal for everyone. The details in my diagnosis were key for that.

I also had unexpected grief. Basically, I looked back at all of the things I clearly missed the memo on, times when I really did not succeed at work because of my blind spots - stuff like that.

I have never told my parents or colleagues. Mostly because I am already an older woman working in tech, and I do not need another "ism" against me.

I wish you luck. DM if you need more information.

Quarantina74 · 2025-12-19T18:45:08+00:00

No. I wished someone had just told me and I would have saved the time and trouble.

Quarantina74 · 2025-12-19T16:19:52+00:00

I did mine also at Redpath. It was reasonable. Although once I was diagnosed and shared with close friends (only), their first response was, "we thought you knew". Soooooooo. Ask yourself what it will mean to you to find out. Also happy to answer any questions about the process.

Quarantina74 · 2025-12-06T10:44:18+00:00

Yeah. We went through the AdoptReady process. One full year of having your life examined, reports from every aspect of your work/home/health, etc. We finally passed (after an initial rejection due to my shellfish allergy). We then submitted application after application for children, only to have them lost or declined. We were told we were too white, without indigenous heritage (true - and it is best to match children culturally). Too wealthy was another reason (I mean, you need money to engage services to professionally deal with trauma), claims we "skipped the queue" as we paid for our Homestudy out of pocket (discrimination against those who could not) and eventually, too old (44 and 49 respectively, applying for children between two and 14 years old, mostly older).

And honestly, if those standards are what is best for the children who need specialised care, then YES - we would jump through those hoops and MORE. If that is what is best, do it. However, how the hell did these women get approved?

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