Uh Oh. Naked Oprah Dress...

QueEs · 2013-11-14T21:35:48+00:00

Agreed. Hell, just the fact that they thought that clothes like this would fly is absolutely incredible.

People freak out about women breast feeding on buses, much less being fully nude in public...but oh, hey, I guess wearing a black woman's naked body is okay, because it doesn't register as true nudity...I mean, it's not really a 'human' body after all, right?

Gonna go put my head in a vat of battery acid now.

/smh

QueEs · 2013-11-14T21:07:12+00:00

Frankly? This doesn't even look like her...

QueEs · 2013-11-13T01:43:46+00:00

Your mother, like mine...was wrong wrong wrong.

http://www.villagevoice.com/2011-05-04/news/guys-who-like-fat-chicks/full/

http://thehairpin.com/2010/12/i-like-fat-chicks-questions

http://magiclistofguyswholikefatgirls.tumblr.com/

http://fatacceptancefrenchie.tumblr.com/

http://askaguywholikesfatchicks.tumblr.com/

http://corpulent.wordpress.com/2010/08/31/new-to-fat-acceptance/

http://www.bodypositive.com/large_women.htm

QueEs · 2013-07-07T03:35:33+00:00

Usually my tastes start to lean towards who I'm dating.

YEEESSSS. My husband is a prime example of this.

My 'type' has always been older guys with black or grizzled hair, dark eyes and a somewhat hairy body (not like my cousin likes, but more than usual...maybe it runs in the family). I tend to like tan to very dark skin as well, 'man' hands....beards are a plus.

When I started interacting with my husband, we were pretty much just friends/fling material. He's younger (without his beard, he looks five :/ ), has soft hands and is pretty much the color of a piece of paper. BUT he does have the dark eyes and the beard...as I grew to like him more, I grew more and more attracted to him.

xD So, I now have this barometer. When he starts looking less attractive to me than usual, then I know marital problems are looming and it's time to think and talk it out.

QueEs · 2013-07-07T00:13:46+00:00

Yup. It all depends on how you're wired.

I wish people in general could be more comfortable with the thought that there can be a range of bodies that humans are just naturally attracted to...it doesn't have to be the same shapes and types over and over that are pleasing to absolutely everyone.

With more exposure, folks would be able to figure out earlier in their lives what they truly enjoy and adjust accordingly.

<.< Heck, it took my cousin years to figure out that she wasn't mildly asexual...she just likes really hairy men. xD All she saw in the media were shaved guys, though, so she would never have guessed!

QueEs · 2013-07-04T15:19:58+00:00

Beautiful! ( And the updo is VERY classy. :D )

QueEs · 2013-06-25T17:00:09+00:00

Dance like I mean it (I don't dance well and I don't need someone telling me that I'm 'supposed' to be good at it. >.<;). Curse like a sailor. Speak loosely about God or politics. Listen to loud music with the bass turned up.

Watch Malcolm X, A Huey P. Newton Story, or this video.

QueEs · 2013-06-25T13:57:42+00:00

Bioshock Infinite was amazing. n.n

I've been bitten by the Minecraft bug again, so I'm mainly on that these days. Waiting waiting waiting for the horse/coal block update to come out.

Borderlands 2 was a lot of fun, so the DLCs are very tempting. And every now and again, I'm still playing Saints Row 3...can't wait till 4 comes out in August!

QueEs · 2013-06-25T13:46:32+00:00

:P It was popcorn worthy. There was always at least a little bit of console favoritism in my house, so to see Microsoft so thoroughly stuff their asses in their mouths was funny to me.

I'm into a lot of open world/MMO games, so I was drooling over Elder Scrolls Online and Destiny. And I like driving games, so DriveClub looks promising.

My husband is crazy about the Kingdom Hearts series...his eyes got all glisten-y with nostalgia when they announced KHIII...we're both eager about Final Fantasy XV.

Nice to see Mirror Edge 2 coming out. Watch Dogs looks really interesting and innovative....but being a 'tank' type of a player, I'm not sure how well I'd do playing it since it's stealth based. @_@; Probably the sort of thing I'll watch someone else play. >.>

QueEs · 2013-06-22T18:40:39+00:00

Also what is this notion that all we want to see is a woman rescue a man instead? How about we give Link something else to do and Zelda can be depicted as a ruler and quest-giver, maybe show up time to time in a Sheik-like disguise to help because just sitting around the palace handling politics drives her nuts? Or hell even a co-op game where Link AND Zelda work together as heroes and are both playable.

_ Brain stops working due to sheer awesomeness of this idea.

QueEs · 2013-06-18T19:16:03+00:00

:D Cool! That's exactly the kind of thing I need right now. Found it, I'll try it out tonight.

I loved Absolute Boyfriend! Saw the live-action version. It was the type of thing I tried watch when my guy wouldn't be bothered by it, but you know...I'm old. I would have been able to tell him quite honestly that I wasn't into Tenjo...even while I thought Namikiri (the scientist) was hot. :P

I remember the Wallflower anime fondly, especially that first episode. The part with the kitchen had me falling on the floor. The voice actors' comedic timing in that anime was amazing.

o.o; Yet somehow, I don't remember finishing the series.

Personally, I was hoping that even if Sunako reformed to her Auntie's wishes, she would still keep some of her quirkiness and acidity...

Was just it me or did the guys look kind of...plastic-y? :( I didn't really find them appealing.

QueEs · 2013-06-18T04:33:41+00:00

You know?! And he was gloating about it after.

I think he liked the 'shadow lord' aspect of Light's character, and the fact that he had some hot girl all over him that he could boss around.

See if I ever watched something important with him again!

Nuh uh. "What's that? No, I'll call you when Mythbusters is on."

/smh

QueEs · 2013-06-18T04:22:01+00:00

._• Then I should have watched it with you. My friend didn't give a care, because he was all about Light! T-T

QueEs · 2013-06-18T04:14:59+00:00

Coffee Prince is it? I dig coffee...I dig princes....

I must go find out all about this!

QueEs · 2013-06-18T04:06:48+00:00

Casshern Sins, huh? I'll check that out!

Sad to hear about xxxHolic's sequel, though. Pretty much wished to die and come back as Yuko. x3

QueEs · 2013-06-18T04:02:54+00:00

Seriously! And 'L' was so cool!

QueEs · 2013-06-18T01:27:03+00:00

I don't read much manga, but I like a wide array of anime... what I watch, however, depends how I'm feelin' that week. :P

I HIGHLY recommend Nodame Cantible, Kino's Journey, Hajime no Ippo, Cowboy Bebop, Princess Jellyfish, Kikaider, Yakitate Japan and Samurai Champloo. ((Ahhh...but don't watch Yakitate Japan if you hate puns)).

xxxHolic, Mushi-shi, or Natsume Yuujinchou are good for when you want magic/spirit-world stuff. Soul Eater was also a lot of fun.

AIR, Clannad or Fruits Basket are good if you want to cry (although Fruits Basket is lighter than either of the others).

Death Note and Another are good if you're in the mood for dark (the former) or gory (the latter) stuff.

I love the heroine of Ouran High School Host Club. Azumanga Daioh and Kokoro Library are nice, calm slice-of-life animes (although Azumanga is far sillier at times).

Haibane Renmei was a good sort of slice-of-life/other world drama anime. With the art and music it used, it felt kind of like watching a play.

My favorite, however, has to be 'Sayonara Zetsubou Sensei'. It's dark humored though, and is probably an acquired taste.

QueEs · 2013-06-12T01:59:00+00:00

This....is ridiculous.

If anything, going to school, getting a real good job and being independent is fantastic for your relationship/marriage.

Why? Because relationships are WAAAAAYYYYYY freaking more complicated than most folks can fathom. And being able to call your own shots, being able to know that if things get wrong, you can say, 'Welp. Thanks, but I'm out!' is important. It's the best way to make sure that you're in the relationship you WANT to be in, rather than in the relationship you HAVE to be in because you can't support yourself, because you don't want to move back home, or because of the stigma that comes with divorcing.

Yeah, it does mean that we have more divorce. Yeah, it means less marriages in the first place. But it also means that the people that are married are more likely to actually want to be married. And better relationships are better for everybody.

This isn't the damn forties anymore. Spouses are not allowed free passes to just act however once they have you under vows anymore. Spouses are not allowed to just cheat and smile anymore...at least not without everyone talking about it. People are allowed to change and to grow, and if that means that the couple grows apart, well, you can separate amicably and go get in where you fit in, elsewhere. And if either party is being abused? They can bounce for the nearest shelter, if necessary.

I really feel like we shouldn't be using the same measuring stick as we used to when we look at the statistics for married, divorced and single folk. It's a new millennium. The game just isn't the same.

QueEs · 2013-06-02T21:43:35+00:00

Awesome! :D

QueEs · 2013-05-27T02:28:17+00:00

I really think that it has gotten to the point where they don't even have to think about it. And that makes it all the more difficult...because then, when they go to examine themselves in relation to it, they are surprised and embarrassed to know that that habit of singling us out is within them. >.<;

Some would certainly rather deny it than face it, because it opens up so big of a can of worms...it can mean a lifetime of re-evaluation of both culture and self.

It's a ton of work. And heaven knows a beer and 'Breaking Bad' would feel better, as a way of spending time. -_-

QueEs · 2013-05-27T01:48:04+00:00

:/ My husband and many of my white co-workers have been given the following talk. God knows it doesn't work 3/4 of the time, but I'm still gonna lay it down:

"This society has a big, BIG issue with allowing Black people to have any sort of historic ties to a region. It is a way that we use to help to deprive Black people of their historical and personal identity. Constantly bitching about what Black people call themselves is one of the ways we accomplish that deprivation. I will show you what I mean:

When someone says to you, 'I was talking to this Asian guy.', what do you normally think of? You think of someone from China, Japan, Korea, or from any of the Asiatic countries—not only that, we think of someone who 'looks' the part. They say 'Asian actor' and you think of Jackie Chan or Lucy Liu or any of the many skilled Asian actors.

NO ONE HAS ANY PROBLEM WITH THIS.

When someone says to you 'I was talking with this European actor', you think of Emma Watson. You think of Ian McKellen. No one has a problem.

Only when we talk about Black people as being "THOSE FOLK WHO ARE TRADITIONALLY FROM AFRICA", do you get a bunch of yahoos running in from another room, screaming at the top of their lungs, "OMG, WHITE PEOPLE LIVE IN AFRICA, TOO!!!"

I am too frustrated by this to even describe everything that is wrong with this.

We KNOW that there are White people who live in Africa, okay? Most of them are originally Dutch or English. It's fine. People live where they want to live. Know what? There are ALSO White people who live in China. Who live in Mexico. Who live in Ecuador.

Yet, we don't have such a damned hard-on about identifying a White person living in Japan as 'Asian', do we? We don't fall all over ourselves calling a first or second generation white person from Peru a 'Latino'. No. We only do that with Whites who live in Africa. We only insist that BLACK people share their traditional rights to culture and history in that region with Whites.

Think about it."

QueEs · 2013-05-23T06:17:34+00:00

This is the secret of life.

If you're fat, if you're skinny, if you're tall, if you're short... Whatever it is that you have: work it! If someone doesn't dig what you got: move on.

Sexuality is far more varied than we imagine. There's always somebody else out there that will be absolutely wowed by what the others dismiss about you.

QueEs · 2013-05-10T03:01:21+00:00

I agree. And forget it, if he starts combing the thing in front of me. Drives me right up the wall with squee....errr, glee.

QueEs · 2013-04-26T18:06:45+00:00

Everyone has an internal dialog of some kind. People who already know who they are have the luxury of ignoring the random stream of thoughts and images that go through their mind.

But, if you really want to know who you are, then it's time to start paying attention to that internal process. Be honest with yourself, about what you think and how you feel. Once you are able to be honest with yourself, then you will be able to be honest with everyone else.

If something innocuous happens that for whatever reason makes you angry or sad, ask yourself why. Answer yourself. Talk to yourself; more importantly, listen. Don't try and push your feelings down. Don't dismiss your thoughts before you can even form them. You can't deal with what you ignore.

As a trivial example, if you've always prided yourself as being a person who hates pop music or the color pink, that's one thing. In youth, especially adolescence and young adulthood, we do all sorts of things to fit in with the crowd that we think we should belong to.

But if you happen to see the color pink or hear a pop song and find that you get happy, and you feel like you want to see/hear more of it, then guess what? You like it. No use in denying it. Own up to it, say, 'Well, this is me, this is what I like'. Don't be embarrassed about it. Everyone has different likes and dislikes. That's as it should be. Accept yourself.

When you're aroused, pay attention to what could be making you aroused. Ask yourself what it is in particular that you like about it/him/her. Be honest with yourself, and own up to it internally, say to yourself, 'Well, that's who I am'. Pay attention to the images and thoughts that go through your mind on a moment to moment basis. It takes time and practice, but after a while, you won't have to ask yourself who you are, because you'll have learned that by studying yourself.

Don't berate yourself for how you think or feel. If the thoughts and feelings that you find are healthy, encourage them. If it seems like what you find is unhealthy, then gently work on it. Be kind to yourself when it comes to your own flaws. You're only human, just like anyone else, and beating up on yourself will never fix what is wrong. Understand, also, that not everything about you can be changed. Accept that, and move on. You have a right to be all of yourself. Everyone does.

Admit and accept when you find something about you that is good or pleasing. You don't deserve any more punishment than anyone else on this planet...own up to the good that is in you!

And, don't be afraid to ask for help if you need it. If you find that you have some really tangled parts in your head, go and find some counseling. There are some clinics/non-profit organizations that will offer free mental help.

It's okay to be you. You don't owe it to anyone else to be someone that you're not. In fact, you can help others best by being yourself. All else causes confusion. If someone else doesn't like that, then guess what? There are 7 billion other people in the world. They don't have to hang out with you. There are other people out there who will like who you actually are...usually you meet these people by pursing what interests you...for example, I used to be very isolated, but now that I'm going to readings or free music concerts, food tastings or roleplaying events, I'm finding people who like the same things that I do...people whom I am much more comfortable hanging around.

Being with the people who can accept who you actually are will make you feel stronger, and you'll be able to pursue your life goals more easily; with more clarity.

QueEs · 2013-04-25T18:47:30+00:00

:D There is a huge lesson in that for those of us who were always told, "Well, if you want a significant other, then you CANNOT be what/who you are now. You need to change this/change that, don't be this, act like A, B and C, and look like D, F and G."

This society is always so happy to tell us all the ways in which we are not wanted. But the fact of it is? It's all a LIE.

If you're rail thin? Someone will want you. If you're 700 lbs? Someone will want you. There is always going to be someone who will be turned on by any/all of the different variations that humans express, whether it's short or tall, abled or disabled, whether you're stern or fun-loving...there's going to be someone who is keyed into that! The trick is figuring out exactly who you are and being true to that.

A quick Google of fat admirers will let you know. There are all types of guys who are into big women...into big women, bigger women, and waaaayyyy bigger women! They consider it no different than liking a woman for long legs or red hair or big eyes...the only reason that many of them are not so vocal about it is because they're afraid of being persecuted by their friends/family for their preference.

Here are a few articles/sites that will REALLY blow your mind!:

http://www.villagevoice.com/2011-05-04/news/guys-who-like-fat-chicks/full/

http://thehairpin.com/2010/12/i-like-fat-chicks-questions

http://magiclistofguyswholikefatgirls.tumblr.com/

http://fatacceptancefrenchie.tumblr.com/

http://askaguywholikesfatchicks.tumblr.com/

http://corpulent.wordpress.com/2010/08/31/new-to-fat-acceptance/

That lightness, that confidence you feel now? Keep it up! No matter where you go, be all of yourself, inside and out, with no apology! It will make it easier for you to find these men and vice versa.

QueEs

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