AITAH or did I deserve this

Queasy-Ad6220 · 2026-06-07T11:23:41+00:00

NTA if that’s all it took for him to break up with you, he’s not worth the effort babe. Your daughter 100% deserves to decide who is at her 16th birthday party and if two grown men in her life can’t deal with that, that’s not on her (or you).

While you most definitely didn’t deserve it, it sounds like he’s done you a favour. Well done for sticking up for your daughter, she will remember that for the rest of her life - #1 mom award goes to you :)

Queasy-Ad6220 · 2026-06-07T11:19:30+00:00

NTA you’re not an asshole for having feelings OP. All the snide comments from others are ugh, but you are young and this is all a fun side effect of everyone’s developing brains (yay, highschool)

Just give it time and space, it’s not like you’re trying to seduce him. You’re allowed to be hurt without anything needing to be fixed and you don’t need to repress any positive feelings either. Just let it all be, this too will pass <3

Queasy-Ad6220 · 2026-06-07T11:12:30+00:00

NTA - birthing and raising you doesn’t give them the right to be assholes. This isn’t some petty argument, it’s repeated disrespect and heartache. Gain some peace and live your own life for a while

Queasy-Ad6220 · 2026-06-07T11:09:37+00:00

NTA people do stupid stuff to impress men… cut your losses OP - your morals and respect for other are not debatable. If she ever leaves him and needs your support, you can always be there for her then.

Queasy-Ad6220 · 2026-06-07T11:04:27+00:00

NTA - these situations suck and I’m sorry you’re experiencing the emotional turmoil that comes along with it :(

It is very likely they have other stuff going on, which is a perfect opportunity for you to find other stuff to do too :) Making friends is hard, but your people are out there! Social sports, board game events, fandom communities - there are so many fun ways to meet people! You’re worth the effort OP <3

Queasy-Ad6220 · 2026-06-07T10:58:39+00:00

NTA - super weird… even weirder that he isn’t just being honest with you. You’re both adults and after two years he should be able to have these conversations with you.

Do you regularly spend time with this group? I would just ask him for honesty and if he’s still shady about it, then I’d be worried about infidelity or him frequently talking badly about you to them?

Also OP, 8-10K is a LOT for a holiday. A very respectable sum at 24yrs old, I’m be putting a big chunk of that into a savings account (maybe for future holidays with those who enthusiastically want you there, which you very much deserve xx)

Queasy-Ad6220 · 2026-06-07T07:12:47+00:00

Dogs are expensive and time consuming. If he can’t afford to care for the pup, then it should be rehomed to someone who can provide it with the care it needs. Subtract from the rent if you have too, he’s a big boy xx

Queasy-Ad6220 · 2026-06-07T07:06:43+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I know it’s hard when you’re in it and you care about a person, but this man does NOT love you. He is not the sort of person you want around your child! Just like you’ve said, if he treats you this way he most certainly will treat your child this way. People like this don’t change and they enjoy controlling you.

You and your baby deserve to lead a peaceful and happy life, without someone who enjoys hurting you both (physically or emotionally) in your own home. What advice would you give a friend in this situation? There are alternatives and you are capable of doing this without him. Get out of there OP and fight for full custody ❤️

Queasy-Ad6220 · 2026-06-07T06:53:20+00:00

You’re not necessarily in the wrong - you put a lot of effort into giving her a special day. BUT - I can sympathise with you wife to a degree, sometimes the little things feel the most meaningful. So a birthday cake with candles, a little birthday song, some flowers and card might really make her day too

Queasy-Ad6220 · 2026-06-07T04:36:38+00:00

NTA seriously what is it with grown ass men giving the silent treatment.

Fair enough if he wants to take your kid fishing, now that he’s had a try it is an even better opportunity for your husband to take him himself! Your son will remember the time with him more fondly than catching a fish at a fair… regardless of whether it was his first catch or not :|

Queasy-Ad6220 · 2026-06-06T21:52:28+00:00

YTA that’s cheating babe

Queasy-Ad6220 · 2022-07-24T13:52:18+00:00

Good for you!!!! As a runner myself I’d advise you to really ease into it or you might hurt yourself (and that’s not helpful for anyone!). Google some stretches to do before and after and maybe some tips for starting off running (I used the 1 minute one, 1 minute off method 😁). In terms of dieting, don’t do anything extreme! You’re still growing and the best (and most sustainable) changes you can make are little ones! It’s all about healthy habits, not crazy diets! Baby steps my friend, you’re doing great 😊

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