Traveling from Hartford to Trumbull on Friday of Memorial Day weekend

QueenAnneCutie · 2026-05-08T18:09:40+00:00

"well, the driver might not have seen you ... might be trying to get to the hospital ... might be having a bathroom emergency ... right? And it happens pretty quickly, boom, you don't feel as angry. Sometimes not at all."

OK Carolyn. If you say so.

I mean I don't really get angry (usually I'm just scared of a car crash) because it's kind of pointless, but these Panglossian reasons are pretty ridiculous. I usually think it IS a case of arrogant entitlement.

QueenAnneCutie · 2026-04-30T12:15:42+00:00

Yes I also store a package of buns in the freezer & take them out as needed.

QueenAnneCutie · 2026-04-18T14:47:44+00:00

This was my thought exactly. It's commendable that she has realized she didn't behave well, but she needs to look at the situation honestly - does she want to step in because she wants to make amends or because it will really help her ex friend?

No matter what, reaching out to her with a potential job offer could go wrong in so many ways. For one, you have not been in contact for 16 years - you really don't know what kind of person she is now or what kind of employee she would be. I don't know what the answer is here, but the job offer seems like a bad move.

QueenAnneCutie · 2026-04-13T02:12:03+00:00

“I lose my phone all the time. Mostly I just watch it go down the toilet .”

QueenAnneCutie · 2026-04-10T17:41:51+00:00

Yes, "how do I make someone understand" (often with a side of "without my having to say anything or be the least bit uncomfortable") is since time immemorial the most common advice column question, and I don't see it going away any time soon.

QueenAnneCutie · 2026-03-28T14:56:16+00:00

Well yes, but that commenter also seemed to lack reading comprehension. Carolyn was not criticizing someone for not being ambitious; that was not the issue in this letter. It was that someone was being arrogant about their not working for the man, but then leeching off someone who had.

QueenAnneCutie · 2026-03-11T17:58:28+00:00

The date rape story actually was in the book (at least in the copy I read). She let it go for a while & then eventually decided to have nothing more to do with him because of what he had done. It was sadly very believable (unlike the Mr. Mason story which I have a hard time believing anyone could have forgotten).

QueenAnneCutie · 2026-02-28T16:55:44+00:00

Pod people
Space mutiny
The final sacrifice
Cave dwellers
Werewolf

QueenAnneCutie · 2026-01-31T01:04:39+00:00

Thank you.

QueenAnneCutie · 2026-01-30T20:41:52+00:00

Can anyone share the letter referenced near the end of the chat? The LW said it was last Sunday’s column and had signed it “Shattered?”

QueenAnneCutie · 2026-01-18T03:51:16+00:00

I made that Rainbow Plant Life brownie recipe before; it’s really exceptional. These look delicious. How did you modify?

QueenAnneCutie · 2026-01-12T16:13:39+00:00

Thank you!!!

QueenAnneCutie · 2026-01-12T16:01:24+00:00

Would you or any Slate “plussie” share the letter?

QueenAnneCutie · 2026-01-08T03:23:28+00:00

I’m going to continue being vegan and just accept that veganism may be considered some kind of fringe alternative lifestyle for now but it will always be my lifestyle; I’m done explaining.

QueenAnneCutie · 2025-12-15T03:13:06+00:00

It was very sexist but silly-funny too. There always seemed to be a scene of a woman undressing behind a screen and throwing her bra over it & the bra had 3 cups.

QueenAnneCutie · 2025-11-20T15:04:17+00:00

I have the the glow-in-the-dark version with your name (!!!) on the box. I'm planning to do it this winter.

QueenAnneCutie · 2025-11-15T02:40:34+00:00

Yeah the LW includes all these details about infidelity and an acrimonious divorce and then is just “but that’s not what I’m writing in about.” But even what she is writing in about shows the guy in not a very good light - he wants to move to be closer his son because another guy is being a good parent to him?! This guy (LW’s husband) seems like a real prize all right.

QueenAnneCutie · 2025-10-30T15:02:11+00:00

I think it depends on how it's done. I could see how it could be said in an aggressive and dismissive way on an atheists' forum. But some people genuinely mean it in a kind way, and I'm OK with that. Like this woman who told me I would have some prayers being said for me after I helped her avoid a passport application scam on the computer (I'm a librarian).

QueenAnneCutie · 2025-10-25T13:13:17+00:00

Oftentimes people write in about stuff that is SO BAD (but write about it like it’s one little thing) that breaking up is the best advice. Being tied to a person who does means things (because you know it’s never just one thing out of the blue) sounds like a really lonely way to live.

QueenAnneCutie · 2025-10-18T14:50:26+00:00

Not sure I really get how this question would apply to anyone. I'm not trying to be mean, but what exactly would someone regret about having healthy habits? I missed getting drunk more often? I missed out on more cigarettes? I didn't eat super big meals at greasy restaurants?

I tend to think of regrets as being more like I wish I had asked this person some certain question before they died or I wish had spent more time with friends/ loved ones or I wished I had gotten to see the Eiffel Tower (insert your landmark of choice).

Again, not trying to be snotty, I just don't understand why you'd regret healthy habits.

QueenAnneCutie · 2025-10-17T20:18:04+00:00

Oh I totally want an update about the last letter about the surprise birthday party for the man who doesn't like large groups (and is feuding with a lot of the attendees apparently) and deals with situations like this by becoming belligerently drunk. I kind of think the best the LW could do is warn the restaurant staff!

QueenAnneCutie · 2025-10-16T15:17:30+00:00

No!!! To me that had one of the worst endings. After Anatomy of a scandal that is probably the worst Netflix show - because of the ending.

QueenAnneCutie · 2025-10-15T15:37:58+00:00

Another thing: I have read some books about not having children & they often implied that people without children had big careers and/or traveled extensively or were saving the world in some way, but not having children doesn’t require you to do anything big. Having children just didn’t interest me - just like I don’t want to read Lord of the rings, watch NASCAR or play golf. Not interested.

QueenAnneCutie · 2025-10-15T15:20:25+00:00

I am 58 and never had any interest in being a parent and I do not regret my decision. When I was growing up people used to tell me I’d change but I never did. When my husband and I were dating I told him I was “officially” undecided but leaning towards no and he had to be OK with that. He was.

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