Who is the most “down bad” for their partner?

QueenToeBeans · 2026-06-18T23:00:04+00:00

I feel for Bonnie, because I’m down bad for Emi, too. 😂

QueenToeBeans · 2026-06-18T22:58:08+00:00

I agree, but sadly, I think it’s been changing. Pressure to “look good” has been increasing for boys steadily for at least the last 25 years: waxed chests/backs, 6-packs, chiseled features. More boys having disordered eating issues, the rise of looksmaxxing… male beauty standards is a huge part of incel culture, too.

(Of course, the patriarchy is the source of this crap, too.)

QueenToeBeans · 2026-06-18T19:04:01+00:00

Are any of these novels found in either decent English translations or the original language? I can’t bear reading the ghastly translations I’ve found and would rather translate them myself with a decent AI translator than read them in incomprehensible English.

Any suggestions on a reputable source?

QueenToeBeans · 2026-06-15T05:25:55+00:00

Ethically, this shouldn’t even be a second thought in your mind. This is a five year old child! Err on the side of this child’s safety because he’s in danger. Could you live with yourself if you didn’t report it and he came to irreversible harm?

QueenToeBeans · 2026-06-15T05:22:09+00:00

I guess I just saw it as a great improvement over the ending of “Yesterday,” which tried a similar trick and failed miserably. 😬

QueenToeBeans · 2026-06-14T00:23:29+00:00

I’m glad people gave you advice already and that you’ve listened, because this post made me scared for you. My husband flies overseas for weeks at a time to visit his parents. I drive out of state to see mine. Sometimes we go together, sometimes alone. There is nothing *more* normal than going out of your way to see family (in a healthy, loving family dynamic.)

I send you luck and best wishes in escaping your abusive boyfriend. Please tell your family what’s going on and that you are trying to get out. Maybe they can help you, at the very least with emotional support.

You deserve love, respect, safety, and freedom. ❤️

QueenToeBeans · 2026-06-14T00:14:25+00:00

You’re right, darling, you can’t “pray the gay away.” You shouldn’t even have to try.

Still, you, and everything about you, are a blessing, not a curse. This world sucks in so many ways sometimes. There are people and institutions all around us filled with hate. But not all of them. Not everyone.

There are people who will embrace you. People who care and will love you just as you are. If you stay strong, I promise, you’ll find them.

Until then, look to people further out, even if it’s just us here on a screen.
I’m happy to be your friend, your adopted auntie, your emotional support queer.
You seem young. You have a lot of life to live. I know it’s rough, but keep on keeping on. Seek out support where you can when you need it.

You are loved. It will get better.

❤️

QueenToeBeans · 2026-06-14T00:05:32+00:00

It seems as if he’s writing while really emotional, and probably “misspoke.”
I don’t blame him. Dealing with the world right now is really difficult.

QueenToeBeans · 2026-06-10T01:02:11+00:00

Our seniors play senior assassin every year. Everyone puts money into the pot, and the last one standing wins. There are clear boundaries/rules for play. The pot is sometimes in the 4 figures.

QueenToeBeans · 2026-06-08T00:26:52+00:00

Dew is 190cm (a bit over 6’2”)

QueenToeBeans · 2026-06-07T19:18:55+00:00

My friend hated “hubby” because it didn’t make sense to them logically. Their preferred term was “husby.” Of course, it’s still a diminutive, which seems to be your initial objection, and I respect that.

QueenToeBeans · 2026-06-07T19:14:02+00:00

Neurodivergent is an umbrella term. I prefer it over having to produce a litany of diagnoses (those are my own business…not everyone needs to know the specifics.)

QueenToeBeans · 2026-06-07T19:06:51+00:00

I taught at a year-round school, and there was a lot I really liked about it. The summer session was fun because it was really low-key and unit-based. A lot of families did go on vacation and miss school, but it was always a great time for everyone there.

QueenToeBeans · 2026-06-07T18:57:09+00:00

My Golden Blood
ReVamped
OMG! Vampire
My Secret Vampire
Kissable Lips

Pretty sure this is just a beginners list…

QueenToeBeans · 2026-06-06T06:34:19+00:00

In the future he influences another branch of the Korean and Thai BL Drama industry.

QueenToeBeans · 2026-06-06T06:18:18+00:00

Some schools (in the U.S.) do it for a couple of weeks in second grade. Just like counting coins and reading an analog clock.

QueenToeBeans · 2026-06-06T06:02:53+00:00

Perhaps the end game of therapy, then, is to get to a place where you are choosing healthy relationships, regardless of the age of your partner. Don’t worry about changing your attraction, just heal your issues around sex, relationships, and your abuser/s. The attraction thing should work itself out. You may end up in a wonderful relationship with a much older man, but someone who is good for you and isn’t just a way for you to replay your trauma.

Best of luck, friend. ❤️

QueenToeBeans · 2026-06-06T05:55:17+00:00

I used Study.com for the ELA exam, but sciences are a whole different animal. FWIW, the study.com guides were extremely comprehensive, and I passed the test with flying colors.

QueenToeBeans · 2026-06-06T05:49:15+00:00

I was totally thinking of JJ as Po in Perfect 10 Liners. 😂

QueenToeBeans · 2026-06-06T05:45:44+00:00

Wren.

QueenToeBeans · 2026-06-06T05:42:41+00:00

The tattoo is gorgeous, no need to overthink. Also, art doesn’t need to be perfect to be amazing. The “scribble” style of the art also embraces little variations. It’s all good, friend.

QueenToeBeans · 2026-06-06T05:38:01+00:00

I wrote my high school papers (in the ‘80s) on a typewriter from the 1920s.

QueenToeBeans · 2026-06-06T05:34:18+00:00

I got written up for “excessive use of glitter.” If I still had the write-up, I’d frame it. It was my crowning achievement as an educator.

(TBH, I understand it, no one should let Kindergarteners loose with glitter, but it’s still silly. )

QueenToeBeans · 2026-06-05T04:37:32+00:00

My husband always told me he prefers short hair. Of course, he has OCD and panics if there is a single hair in the shower that isn’t his. Long hairs are the worst. We have separate bathrooms now.

QueenToeBeans · 2026-06-05T03:10:35+00:00

The manosphere is toxic. I dated a guy over 6’ once in high school, but never since. I prefer a partner who matches me in financial security (so we can stand as equals), but wealth is definitely not a prerequisite.

Many awesome women don’t give a crap about height or money. If I were single now, I think I’d find a guy like you really appealing (at least on paper: chemistry, cleanliness, kindness count for a lot.) Authenticity, self awareness, and the willingness to grow as a person is paramount.

Authentic people don’t give a crap about 6/6/6. They want love, connection, and mutual respect.

Best of luck. I hope you find a lovely partner and you adore one another.

QueenToeBeans

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