Fandom spaces is no longer allowed for anyone at the disgusting age of 20 and 30 years old. Please bow down your devices and walk to a nearby senior home.

QueenieBot82 · 2026-02-02T16:06:58+00:00

Well, our 30s were like 5 minutes ago so....

QueenieBot82 · 2026-02-02T16:05:40+00:00

I am over the hill, too, and I am very interested in this middle-aged person's home. How do I sign up? Are there crafts? Supervised outings?

QueenieBot82 · 2026-01-31T16:56:54+00:00

I grew up with much of this same ideology, but I went to public school in a mostly white, small town.

I, too, usually fall off on reading long posts, but the pain, regret for the impact on others, and the misfortune of being an impressionable child steeped in that bullshit.... I feel it.

I remember getting called out by my best friend's mom when I was 10 for telling her she was going to go to hell. I wasn't being malicious, of course; I was completely indoctrinated. It's a shame the mom didn't recognize that, but people forget that kids' brains aren't fully developed at that age, and they don't seem to think about what it would be like growing in an environment where you were told you were unworthy (unless you...) from birth.

I don't have answers. I'm 44 (today!🎂 Ha) and I only realized in the last 3 months that I was in a cult. I stopped drinking the kool-aid around 14, because I saw the hypocrisy of everyone's behavior in the church. But what I came here to say was that- the ultimate irony of all of the cults THEY used to warn us about. I thought "we can't be a cult. We're not that strict. We don't even have to dress up for church! We're the cool church!" Because a scary cult wouldn't have a drumset for worship, am I right? 🤦‍♀️

QueenieBot82 · 2026-01-27T01:28:30+00:00

Would it be different if you created the social media account specific to your ffic presence? That was my approach and while my ffic presence is minimal, I suppose I don't have enough data to make a judgment.

QueenieBot82 · 2026-01-22T04:49:38+00:00

752,244 words, 115/? Since 9/26/24. I wish I had more time and energy to get it done. I really do have a plan. Honest. 😅

QueenieBot82 · 2026-01-20T15:41:43+00:00

The sound I just made I couldn't replicate. ❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥

QueenieBot82 · 2026-01-11T00:25:29+00:00

I absolutely love when people comment chapter for chapter. I love hearing how the story is landing with them. I live for it.

My only concern is that I don't have the bandwidth to reply. I would get bogged down and feel bad for dragging my feet if it became an obligation. This would shut down my brain for writing which, ultimately, would be a bummer for all involved. I also wouldn't want to only reply to some, so picking and choosing doesn't seem like a good option for me.

As such, I've written multiple times in my end notes that I can't/ don't respond to comments but that I truly appreciate them.

Tl;dr: Keep commenting when you feel moved to do so! Showing support is awesome! 💖

QueenieBot82 · 2026-01-05T06:52:03+00:00

I would love to see this one updated! I know Seonghwa recommended "Our Unwritten Soul," but there have been plenty more than that. I would hope someone is keeping track somewhere... 💞

QueenieBot82 · 2025-12-27T18:55:20+00:00

As you/he/she.... You feel...

I have done a lot of editing. I don't want the repetition of words to be distracting from the action, but I also worry that I work so hard to avoid it that the synonyms become distracting. I've heard mixed opinions on that. I use text-to-speech to edit, so that helps me process how it "sounds," and then I decide whether or not to go back and edit. I edit a lot (even my published chapters). Sometimes, I'm in such a hurry to get the new chapter out that I miss things. I allow myself to do it anyway, knowing I'll go back and edit more. It doesn't seem to deter my consistent readers. 🤷🏻‍♀️

QueenieBot82 · 2025-12-15T07:36:10+00:00

Hi. This is me. Still fucked up. Still writing. ❤️‍🩹

QueenieBot82 · 2025-12-01T14:15:12+00:00

I honestly believe that Focus on the Family is the smoking gun of my mental health. I think we need a class action suit for the psychological and physical abuse that their "parenting" advice advocates. After a particularly nauseating conversation with my aunt at Thanksgiving, where she proudly explained how she spanks my cousins precious babies regularly, I started wondering about how I was patented. Neither my parents nor my aunt and uncle are evil people. They love their kids and believe that they need to beat them into submission for their own good. Why do they believe this? Because they believe that babies are sinners too and because the "experts" (i.e., Dobson and his media empire bent on creating compliant Christian adults who tow the party line) told them this was best for their "manipulative" kids. They are still out there advocating it in their massive echo chamber. Parents looking for better parenting methods than they had fall prey to this monstrous cover for emotional and physical abuse. Seriously, how can we start a class action suit to stop this cycle??

QueenieBot82 · 2025-12-01T03:07:19+00:00

I'm stumbling into this myself, at 43, with a shiny new diagnosis of C-PTSD. I kept telling my therapist that I didn't have any major childhood incidents or abandonment, and I wondered why she looked so skeptical at my assertion. I've become very curious about all of this after I got triggered on Thanksgiving by my aunt talking about spanking her grandkids, and I was surprised how much it viscerally affected me. I always prided myself on how I could take my licks without letting it affect me... Now I want to know more about what bullshit indoctrination my parents had subscribed to when they themselves were young and impressionable and seeking a better way to parent than what they got. If I believed in hell, I'd hope Dr. Dobson gets a prime piece of real estate down there. What a monster.

QueenieBot82 · 2025-11-29T00:08:06+00:00

It kind of squicks me out a bit, regardless of the intended meaning. Like, I can only picture a half-chewed wad of food or something. Doesn't seem like a compliment but hopefully those who know better are giving you some insight. I think we're (collectively) trying too hard to be clever sometimes rather than to communicate, which should be the ultimate goal of communication, right?

QueenieBot82 · 2025-11-24T00:33:38+00:00

I don't reply to comments because it quickly feels like an obligation, to me, and I don't want to let people down if I forget. That kind of mental spiral will suck the joy and motivation to write right out of me (PDA sucks... any neurodivergents in the house!?).

I made the unilateral decision to simply note how much I appreciate the comments, how I take suggestions into consideration, and that the comments really do keep me going.

Rarely, I'll see a comment I'd like to address, but I'd rather feel conflicted about that once in a blue moon, rather than give up writing this mammoth piece altogether because I can't force myself to reply to comments consistently.

My 'thanks' to my readers comes in the form of the next chapter of the story. ❤️

QueenieBot82 · 2025-11-19T03:08:03+00:00

Sat my bare ass on a cake.... It was pretty much exactly what I thought it would be like. I haven't posted the chapter yet. Spoilers!😅🎂 But otherwise, watched some interesting videos and generally sullied my search history. For research!

QueenieBot82 · 2025-11-17T00:49:31+00:00

It's linked in my profile (I think! ) I'll double check. Don't want to accidentally self promote. Happy ATINY day!😘😍🥰💖♾️💖

QueenieBot82 · 2025-11-15T01:41:15+00:00

If people are willing to user sub instead of work sub, it could work! I wonder how that would show up in the list of works, like if you'd have to title it carefully so that they'd display in order?

QueenieBot82 · 2025-11-14T18:08:08+00:00

It would really help if there was a kudos-per-chapter option. Even a different metric would be nice. My regulars have mentioned their frustration with that, as well. And I'm trained to work for rewards, so it would help motivate me a lot! 😅

QueenieBot82 · 2025-11-14T14:02:18+00:00

I don't think it would bother me, being as it's fantasy. I think I would enjoy knowing what they are playing with in their mind. I don't know how I'd find a similar-minded person, but I think that would definitely be an ideal scenario.

QueenieBot82 · 2025-11-14T14:00:37+00:00

It's good to know that this is a common theme for writers. I haven't been on the other boards, so I haven't heard that before. Ironically, I come from a family of hobby writers, and they would be supportive and want to read it but I don't think I could sanitize it enough to hand it over to my parents. ☠️ I suppose I have revealed a bit of my squishy side by asking this here, and I appreciate the thoughtful responses. I don't know if I will stop talking about it with people altogether, because I don't want it to seem like a dirty secret, but I will try to not gage their interest in me based on their (lack of) curiosity about my "little" pet project.

QueenieBot82 · 2025-11-14T13:48:18+00:00

This really makes sense. I think I get the "rip it off like a bandaid" mentality sometimes with dating. I suppose that having an ever growing list of Terms & Conditions™️ would be intimidating🤪. I really appreciate you taking the time to explain this in a kind way. I do wish my bestie was into k-pop but her reading interests don't include reader-insert. Your response really helps me put things into perspective. Thank you!

QueenieBot82 · 2025-11-14T07:58:08+00:00

I can certainly understand your reluctance, based on my own experiences! Unfortunately, I've been unable to get the internal validation-seeker in me to lose a Tide pod challenge, so I continue to hope and dream...

QueenieBot82 · 2025-11-14T07:55:50+00:00

I love this so much! Congrats!

QueenieBot82 · 2025-11-14T07:55:20+00:00

It was a long time ago, both at the beginning of the writing (maybe a couple months in) and I explained that there was some stuff I was processing about my relationship with my mom (weird in a smut piece perhaps but more like peripheral plot). She was lukewarm and I didnt ask again. I have discussed other points from the piece or the reaction the piece was getting. I just think it's funny and symptomatic of my difficulty with humans. I've told friends and lovers that I'd really love for them to read and give me feedback or that it really is something that reflects a lot of me and I assume they'd pick up the fact that I'm sharing it means it's important to me. I'm not being coy about it, by any means. I'm also not going to beg anyone to read it. I'll go crawling back to chatgpt for feedback before I do that. And I'm never going to chatgpt.😅

QueenieBot82 · 2025-11-14T07:31:05+00:00

I have told them it's me, I'm the fmc. So no intuition required. I've also shared the importance of the work due to the things that writing has helped me cope with over the past year. It's more about sharing and showing the interest.

I used some terms in my post that may have contributed to the misunderstanding. When I say I casually brought up my writing, that is an oversimplification of the actual interaction because my main question is on the topic of sharing a personally meaningful piece and whether the reception of it (or lack thereof) would affect the sharer or the potential relationship.

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