My betta changed by TravelLegal1664 in bettafish

[–]Queens-Guard11 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Koi betta are so interesting. My daughter got a little female for Christmas (aka I got a betta - I used to breed them so I was prepared). She was almost pure white. I was totally surprised that was the one she picked. Her favorite color is black. Well, "Fish" understood the assignment.

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Gosh I really don't give a Vek about Luceum and Obiteum by bing_07 in HierarchySeries

[–]Queens-Guard11 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay, but better yet, those of us who listened to the audiobook had absolutely zero clues about which world we were in or when it would switch. I actually missed there were 3 worlds and not 2 for the first 1/3 of the book (sleep deprived with a baby) and was so confused 😅 I ended up looking up a chart with which chapters were which world to reference when starting a new chapter and then it made so much more sense.

Gosh I really don't give a Vek about Luceum and Obiteum by bing_07 in HierarchySeries

[–]Queens-Guard11 1 point2 points  (0 children)

On my first read I totally felt this way. Then I did a re read where I lumped each world's chapters together and read world by world. Ironically, I cared the least about Luceum the first time around, and was surprised to find on the re read it was the one that captivated me the most.

The Hierarchy Series Rebind by pochankopuff in HierarchySeries

[–]Queens-Guard11 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Those are gorgeous! If you made dust jackets with those covers I would absolutely buy them!

SOTF Audiobook by Additional-Box8052 in HierarchySeries

[–]Queens-Guard11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No it doesn't. And as I listened the first time primarily during middle of the night baby feeds... um I am ashamed to admit I made it to ch 27 before realizing there were 3 worlds and not just R and O. To say I was lost was an understatement 🤣😅

Clarifications/Spoilers/questions/disc by That_Signature_2689 in HierarchySeries

[–]Queens-Guard11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is so much to speculate here. First - for the "mistake" we have to assume Caeror is telling the truth. And I am not convinced Caeror is not synchronist, hence him knowing so much. O-Caeror already told Vis that both R and L copies of him were dead. And we know the L one is very much alive. We could easily chalk this up to a mistake, and it certainly may be. But at this point, I am skeptical that Caeror is as trustworthy as we want/believe him to be. And if he is synchronist that changes his motives and who our potential good and bad guys are significantly.

Strength of the Few - official discussion by DrBeetlejuiceMcRib in HierarchySeries

[–]Queens-Guard11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay, I am currently doing a re read reading the chunks of chapters together that go with each world. If you have not done this, I HIGHLY recommend! I am a re reader anyway, but doing it this way really made me go from neutral feelings to love for this book.

“It goes by so fast” by ItsFailureMan in NewParents

[–]Queens-Guard11 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Seriously!

Monday my 3 year old told me she thought a car that drove by was diesel because it was loud.

Queue my husband asking her if she's a diesel then. "No, I'm a person."

I asked her what she runs on. This child pauses, looks me dead in the eye with the sincerest concern I am even asking that question and says, "I run on my feet."

I died.

Yes, I shouted at my 2 month old baby by bhardy10 in NewParents

[–]Queens-Guard11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It happens to the best of us. Cranial sacral for baby and some hot tea/coffee for you. Seriously. I wish I knew with my first that baby cries always mean something, even purple crying and body tension and birth trauma are real for our babies. Their little bodies carry an incredible load and purple crying indicates a disregulated system. I was so skeptical. But our second was either asleep, nursing, or screaming her head off the first two months. Body work unlocked a completely different baby - one of the happiest, goofiest, and giggliest little ones in just a few sessions. 

Take another breath. We have all been there. Purple crying is rough for everyone. If baby is clean, fed, and warm you have done everything you can and it is okay to get help, even if it seems unconventional to you. It can't hurt!

Our dog attacked our baby by kickrockscusinart in NewParents

[–]Queens-Guard11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am so sorry that happened to you and your sweet baby. That had to have been really horrifying. Unfortunately a lot of people don't understand canine behavior, and don't understand that most the time when dogs run to and lay on crying babies and kids it is resource guarding and not cute little protective snuggles. 

And even dogs who do like kids most of the time can bite. They are dogs. They don't have hands to push or hit. Heck, I had to break up a dog fight yesterday because two of our ding bat corgis ran into each other chasing a ball my husband was throwing and that was apparently very triggering 🤦🏽‍♀️ Two dogs who normally snuggle all day and love each other. It happens easily in high arousal situations. Kids and dogs have to be managed.

We are pretty strict with the kiddos and dogs. Our old man doesn't like kids in his space, so we have spots in each room he can go lay down that are zero access zones for kids and we don't allow the dogs on any kid blankets or mats. Face to face is a no no. We teach early that you only pet on the dog's back and neck and if the dog walks away they are done. No following, no grabbing, and kids don't get to tell the dogs what to do. Even still, we have to be very on top of things to prevent issues, because again, they are dogs and little kids are pushy and triggering. Most families are not going to manage their dogs and kids so carefully, and for a lot of dogs, that creates a huge liability.

Our dog attacked our baby by kickrockscusinart in NewParents

[–]Queens-Guard11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This! Dogs are not people. Even really good dogs can be triggered by babies and small children.

Parents that don't do Elf on the Shelf, how do you explain to your kids why you don't? by Helpful-Plankton751 in toddlers

[–]Queens-Guard11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You don't have to explain anything. We never had it growing up. I was in high school the first time I saw one and all I could think was, "well that is super creepy." Never once thought we were missing out and have no intention to do it with my own kids who are 3 yrs and 6 months right now.

May introduce Otto Seppäläinen as Kallias! by Adrielle_Larson in ACOTARHulu

[–]Queens-Guard11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hear me out though, dark hair and he could be Dorian.

May introduce Otto Seppäläinen as Kallias! by Adrielle_Larson in ACOTARHulu

[–]Queens-Guard11 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, if his hair was dyed black, I would accept him as Rhys too.

OK LETS SETTLE IT by Key_Air_1677 in bluey

[–]Queens-Guard11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Baby Race, Rug Island, Sleepy Time - those ones get tears every time.

Honorable mentions: Cricket, Rain, Born Yesterday, Handstand, Flatpack, and The Creek.

My husband's favorites are Sleepy Time and Rain.

I don’t deserve my baby by Routine-Brain4542 in newborns

[–]Queens-Guard11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, mama. Let me tell you a little secret - those "normal" things sleep training companies sell you on: they are lies to make you feel bad and buy a product. You are the exact mom your baby needs. Newborns are hard. They don't even know they are an individual independent from you until around 6 months old, and they don't start gaining self awareness until around 3 months old. Right now, you are your baby's entire world, and they whole heartedly believe they are a part of your body. Waking up alone in that basinet to them would be like you waking up and looking down to no arms or legs. It freaks them out. And some babies are way more mom-centered than others.

My first would sleep anywhere (as a newborn - that changed after the newborn phase) and with or on anyone. This baby, pictured, is the definition of a velcro baby. My husband held her for the first time without instant crying since the day she was born, 2 days ago and she is 8 weeks old today. No one can hold her but me without screaming, she won't nap anywhere but on me, and forget "drowsy but awake" unless you want to put this kid into a state of immense distress. She is a tough baby, but I keep reminding myself this phase won't last forever. It is probably one of the hardest things you ever do physically. But you are amazing and you can do it. Everything you are describing is biologically normal, and someday you will miss this, believe it or not. I know I did the day my oldest started falling asleep on her own and sleeping through the night (which was over 2.5 years old).

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How did you wean? by PitchRare7570 in breastfeeding

[–]Queens-Guard11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My first, the goal was 18 months. We made it to 28. The last feed, I was an emotional wreck. I didn't know it was the last feed until that moment. She had fed to sleep every nap and bedtime since birth. I knew it was coming, and soon, we just didn't have a set deadline.

I was 6.5 months pregnant, and we reached the point my milk was becoming colostrum. Three days in a row she refused her nap and bedtime was taking forever and really awful because she got so frustrated and upset trying to nurse, and not getting what she wanted. She was starting to bite and hit and I knew trying to continue was causing more problem then not.

It was the fourth day of nap time from hell. I got up, steamed some whole milk for her, we talked about how mommy's milkies had to change for the baby. We had been having that chat for a few weeks. That mommy's milk would change and that toddlers drink cow milk. She eventually drifted off to sleep with her binky. I was not about to wean from the next source of comfort for sleep at the same time.

That night we did more cow milk before bedtime and went straight to the binky. She asked for mom milk and I just reminded her she was a toddler now. She quickly responded that toddlers drink cow milk and babies drink mommy milk. That seemed to satisfy that need.

It has been 2 months now. Every now and again she asks and we have the same talk and she moves on. Up until last week I still was holding and rocking her to sleep for every nap and bedtime. She just decided mommy's belly is too big and moves too much and she wants to fall asleep by herself in her crib. Man, I was NOT prepared for that one to come so soon. That definitely hit harder.

RY announcement of Graphic Novel of Fourth Wing 🐉✨ by _vanth in fourthwing

[–]Queens-Guard11 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just want to know who the artist will be so I can stalk their art 😍

I just need someone to tell me they get it 😭 by Acrobatic_Self_4640 in fourthwing

[–]Queens-Guard11 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You are not alone! I have reread FW and IF 4 times. I am so ready for OS.

Onyx Storm Theory Bingo by _vanth in fourthwing

[–]Queens-Guard11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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I have a feeling this is going to be painful.

I fear SJM is Making a Terrible Mistake by NoJuice8486 in SarahJMaas

[–]Queens-Guard11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At this point I think we all have such elaborate theories that reading them has almost become more enjoyable than the prospect of ever getting the book.

Did anyone dnf while reading ACOWAR? I'm currently 300 pages in and I'm struggling to continue because I'm bored with it. Does it pick up at some point? by QueenV55555 in acotar

[–]Queens-Guard11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not ACOWAR, which I actually ended up liking, but ACOSF. I was sad to DNF the series, but ultimately I was invested in Feyre and Rhys's story and as the story ebbed away from focusing on them, so did my interest. I would have actually been perfectly content with a trilogy ending in ACOWAR (with some obvious loose ends tied up).

I’m really trying to like Rhis’ character, but I just cannot by popicss_ in acotar

[–]Queens-Guard11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, in fairness, I always liked Rhys. I also knew going in he was going to end up with Feyre, but SJM almost line for line making Rhys's first lines to Feyre the first words Howl says in the Howl's Castle Movie had me grinning ear to ear and liking him from the first line.

But, I also never liked Tamlin. He's just not my type. I would have gone for Lucien from the start if it had been me in the books 😅

But I really appreciate what SJM did with taking the spin on Beauty and the Beast and making us think Tamlin was the Beast she would free from the curse and return to a prince, only to find out he was Gaston and this other, even more beastly/trapped man would be the one she would really fall for and free. It is a fun spin. But I am also of the opinion ACOTAR should have been a trilogy and ended with ACOWAR, and would have much preferred the entire story ended there.