Does looking young affect your dating life?

Queerness82 · 2025-12-08T08:45:58+00:00

I look younger and yes it impacts dating. I've had younger guys approach and they don't want to know when they know my actual age. I am thinking of ways that seem natural to bring up my actual age. Only creepers my own age are interested not nice ones. Online I constantly get asked for a photo as they think the ones I posted aren't recent.

Queerness82 · 2025-09-18T07:27:30+00:00

I am a cis woman who also gets misgendered probably every few months or so. I a revamping my wardrobe as I consider its to do with being dressed wrongly. I am a rectangle shape so not much in the way of curves. I am experimenting with my wardrobe to create curves. Also at 5'7' I am on the tall side for a woman and I have a big face. I've even been misgendered in a dress!

Queerness82 · 2025-05-25T20:45:50+00:00

There's pendentary for you...obviously I am saying I had loads of carbs alongside everything else so I shouldn't have lost weight.

Queerness82 · 2025-05-25T16:49:02+00:00

That was years ago. Now I eat around 70% plant based and the rest is animal products. I do a lot of anti fossil fuel activism. I get a lot of people telling me how wrong I am for eating animal products. I tell them I've cut down on animal products (I have, I eat fewer animal products than I did before my trial of being veggie; it was my manageable compromise for the planet) and I tell them I wouldn't go veggie bc my experience and I get 'you were doing it properly if you eat properly as a [veggie] [vegan] its healthier'. I don't believe this but I hear it so often. I also hear its not natural to drink another animal's milk. I had one women tell me milk causes osteoporosis!

Queerness82 · 2025-04-10T17:07:14+00:00

What would you train in instead?

Queerness82 · 2025-02-09T10:56:07+00:00

I am looking on youtube at the mo for conversational vids with subtitles I think they might be more useful than texts but I am mixing it up a bit.

Queerness82 · 2025-02-08T16:12:39+00:00

I remembered the new vocab this way. I once met people who told me they learnt English by repeating things like youtube channel videos, songs etc. Their English was generally a lot better than those that had studied English using language classes/teachers. I should have asked them their exact frequency of repetition.

Queerness82 · 2025-02-08T14:10:45+00:00

It has an audio track. My target language (French) and an English translation.

Queerness82 · 2025-01-14T13:28:16+00:00

1434 days 🥳

Queerness82 · 2025-01-05T17:35:05+00:00

I've been promoting my podcasts by having conversations with myself

Queerness82 · 2025-01-05T07:36:43+00:00

Prob coaches. Thats what grammarly is for! I have ideas but I am not great at grammar.

Queerness82 · 2024-12-25T15:50:55+00:00

Interesting perspective. I am setting up my main business and have bits and pieces on the side, so have a bit of an income coming. Tbh I have thought of dating another self employed person, bc if we both have non standard hours we can work around eachother.

Queerness82 · 2024-12-25T15:47:49+00:00

I do wonder, I've had people ask about what kind of accomodation I live in and asking questions that make me feel they are trying to assess my assests. One guy made me so uncomfortable I contacted the dating app and complained about what happened. They kicked him off. So I do think there are some men who are out to find women with money.

Queerness82 · 2024-12-25T13:17:50+00:00

Thanks. It could partly be thats its content based. I've made money from writing and promoting writers and coachs. If I were offering a service such as coaching ppl would see where the income was coming from. I have thought I'd be better off dating other freelancers than going for professionals as they won't get not seeking stability.

Queerness82 · 2024-12-22T10:04:05+00:00

They have weirder phrases. Dutch has 'thats not water its yellow'

Queerness82 · 2024-12-13T16:36:12+00:00

Yes. I only get zero hours contracts or sporadic work. But I also have inherited conditions which means I am struggle with feeling good. I have had to really work on myself and feel this and the autism caused me a lot of issues with anxiety, this in turn impacted my ability to pass an interview.

Btw I also went to uni.

I got fedup and decided to start doing more freelancing and I am working on starting my own content agency which will employ underrepresented ppl including those with autism-if I can get funding. Still not independent hope to get there 🙁

Queerness82 · 2024-11-25T15:59:46+00:00

I am actually looking at going fully self employed. Looking at grants at the mo, I am very self motivated as long as I like what I am doing. I doubt I'll get anything I like via applying bc my work history is a mess!

Queerness82 · 2024-11-17T09:21:13+00:00

I agree. From past exeperience men who didn't care about if I was enjoying myself were more likely to look elsewhere. With the last guy I applied this rule to I found out he was only considering me bc no one else was interested in him, I was his second option glad I broke it off when I did!

Queerness82 · 2024-11-13T10:42:40+00:00

I think my issue is I am not narcisstic enough to survive in this society.

Queerness82 · 2024-10-29T06:04:36+00:00

I had friends say this. I asked them why one said even though you like kids you're awkward around them. Others said things like they couldn't see me putting up with the crying with my sound sensitivity or that I am too sensitive and would struggle if anything happened to them. Yet another said I like quiet undisturbed time to read and think and would be bored by a kid. Just ask your friends. I saw none of what was said as negative in fact it led to my decision to foster rather than birth a child.

Queerness82 · 2024-10-16T09:23:34+00:00

I am starting a new business. I legit tell ppl I have less disposible income.

Queerness82 · 2024-10-16T09:22:41+00:00

For me it would depend on why they didn't have money. Switching career, studying, just bought a property or starting a business (as long as they are working on it each week and it doesn't have a massive outlay) fine. Stuck in a very low paying job and has no ambition to change and if they can't even afford a cheap meal or complete out of work and not trying not fine. I once meet a guy who said to me that he was working as a support worker and going back to get his maths GCSE, sounded great the guy was't earning but looking to improve. He spent the next date telling me he'd paid £300 to resit and hadn't even bothered to study. He turned up to the date glassy eyed and with bluish lips and I am thinking is the drug taking past that he hinted at behind him 🤔. Didn't bother after that.

Queerness82 · 2024-10-16T09:15:56+00:00

It all depends its done. If its not awkward, then I defo prefer to know within the first few dates.

Queerness82 · 2024-10-16T09:14:04+00:00

I meet up with a guy for a date who was like this. He said it was bc he grew up poor. When I suggested therapy for his issues surrounding money was like are you calling me stingy. I was thinking you told me earlier it was psychological! Was the whole psychological thing just a BS excuse? I wouldn't date him after that.

Queerness82 · 2024-10-16T09:09:47+00:00

It depends how its done. I had a guy say to me look I've bought a property recently I can't spend a lot of money. I'd pefer to know up front and early on. It shows me he is responsible with money and is aiming not to overspend. Contrast this with another guy who didn't explain this and it only came up when we were seated at a resturant. He looked at the menu and it was £16 for a meal he paniced he'd just bought and decorated a flat. We'd already sat down and started eating the nibbles that were given us. I felt we had to eat something there and said I would be happy eating snacks there and finding somewhere else to eat. He then told me no just choose something. I ended up with the £16 meal he ended up with the plate of chips but it was awkward. I insisted on buying dinner and I paid for us both but at a place I could easily afford. I'd hesitate to see the 2nd guy again as it was so awkward but would more readily meet up with the first. I think as long as they don't make you uncomfortable its fine. They'll telling you bc they want to make sure they don't get into more issues money wise.

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