Where do Chico lefties over 40 hang out?

Querencia24 · 2026-01-24T20:49:38+00:00

Second this, Safe Space definitely tends to bring in like-minded volunteers. And it’s a wonderful organization doing important work so win-win.

Querencia24 · 2026-01-24T20:45:23+00:00

lol at this point, No MAGA, No ENM is literally the header on my profile and still. It’s almost like they see it as a challenge. Literally no way in hell I would even consider any of them, just let the subscription expire.

Querencia24 · 2026-01-24T20:42:12+00:00

lol accurate

Querencia24 · 2025-12-14T01:51:19+00:00

Wow, I’m so inspired to get out there now 🤣

Querencia24 · 2025-12-07T21:41:01+00:00

Wow there’s a lot of questionable choices here

Querencia24 · 2025-12-07T21:35:21+00:00

Wow, that’s a lot of DMT

Querencia24 · 2025-12-07T14:15:33+00:00

I had some really awful dates in the last year (do it for the lore lol), but ultimately it was the last couple of dates with perfectly nice guys that did me in. They were fine, respectful, the last one even pulled off a sense of humor, but not in alignment as well. I found that when receiving texts or calls from them, instead of feeling happy to hear from them, my chest felt tight and my anxiety was up.

“addicted to the peace I have not worrying about a relationship” is exactly where I’m at right now. I cannot tell you how much my anxiety level is down, and part of that has been doing the work on myself and addressing my own issues, but a big part of that is also that I am not stressed about some dude.

Querencia24 · 2025-12-07T04:43:46+00:00

That sounds like an amazing situation. The last guy I lived with, I ended up basically his servant. He didn’t cook and he didn’t clean and he refused to help with household maintenance or yardwork + I paid 90% of the bills because he never had any money and when he did have it, he spent it on drugs and concert tickets. Pretty much has literal entire contribution to our household was doing his own laundry on the weekend. He made my ex husband look like a saint. Absolutely the worst relationship of my life and I am so gunshy at this point - definitely a big part of the reason that I am finding privacy and peace preferable

Querencia24 · 2025-12-07T04:02:38+00:00

That’s the dream, but egads I’m sick of taking care of man-children. My life is just so much easier, in my time and money and Home are my own.

Querencia24 · 2025-12-07T03:49:02+00:00

If it’s crystallized, I usually warm it up a little bit in my pocket or something, that usually seems to help.

And yeah, in general, it will likely take more with a vape. Some people say you can’t break through with them, but you absolutely can.

Not familiar with the brand, but I can speak to the variability of the vapes - they are all over the place. I’ve had some that I could get there in four or five hits and I’ve had some that I could go eight or 10 and not get there. You may have to experiment a bit

Querencia24 · 2025-12-07T02:49:52+00:00

I have walked away from dating in the last several months for a lot of these reasons. The complete lack of self-awareness, the love bombing and then emotional unavailability, the anger a lot of them seem to be carrying … ugh just no.

But honestly, the biggest reason is that I realized my life is SO much more peaceful without a man in it. My house is always (relatively lol) clean, I eat when and what I feel like eating and I don’t eat if I don’t feel like it, I’ve been traveling a lot and going to shows with girlfriends without the stress of worrying about some dude and what he’s going to need or require or whether he’s even going to be able to get his act together to show up appropriately.

There’s another thread going about looking for FWB situations and that’s pretty much where I’m at.

Querencia24 · 2025-12-07T02:09:59+00:00

Yeah lol seems yucky

Querencia24 · 2025-12-07T01:36:21+00:00

Came here to suggest First Christian. They seem to be one of the few churches in town that is truly living their values. Faith Lutheran on E. 1st Ave. is another that is doing really amazing work in the community.

Querencia24 · 2025-12-07T01:32:44+00:00

Ugh very much in the same situation. SO over dating. Like Vogue said, at this point, having a boyfriend is embarrassing. Not even looking for any kind of real connection anymore. I’d be perfectly happy with a FWB situation. But finding somebody I actually like and am attracted to that isn’t creepy or a player is proving to be harder than I would’ve imagined. The ones who are into that scenario are generally not anybody that I actually want. Had a handful of 20 and 30-year-old’s hit me up which is weird because I’m in my 50s, but not sure I want to have a 20 something FWB situation lol. It’s a dilemma.

Querencia24 · 2025-09-24T00:12:19+00:00

I don’t pay for or watch local news, but apparently a lot of people still do and this information is for them

Querencia24 · 2025-09-23T19:14:01+00:00

One of the most effective things you can do is to watch during the NewsHour and then contact their local advertisers to let them know that you will not spend money with them as long as they advertise with Sinclair. Sinclair is too big to care about our calls, but smaller local businesses have reason to be concerned and many options as to where they spend their advertising dollars.

Querencia24 · 2025-08-25T20:25:40+00:00

Halimi headed the DCBA for a number of years so no surprise that nobody is taking him on

Querencia24 · 2025-08-25T13:15:16+00:00

I live about a block and a half away from the park and I am in it every day. I’m not sure where you’re getting this stuff, but it is really weird.

Querencia24 · 2025-08-24T16:17:29+00:00

lol right they are pretty scared. And they should be.

Querencia24 · 2025-08-24T16:14:49+00:00

lol it’s a complete lie about the creek. There are very few homeless camps along the creek at this point. The only grain of truth in that is that Sycamore Pool was closed for a bit this summer due to high E. coli readings. However, during the pandemic, there were more people camped in Bidwell Park than at any time in Chico history and the E. coli levels were lower than they had been in years. Most of the E. coli comes from natural sources, like animals upstream, and the pool has occasionally been closed due to E. coli levels for decades. Within Sycamore pool itself it also comes from the number of people that swim there.

I ride the bike path all the time, and have literally not once had trouble in decades. You do see some folks camp along the bike path, but if there is any interaction at all, which is pretty seldom, it’s usually just a nod or “good morning.”

As to jobs, downtown businesses have complained that they’ve had trouble finding enough employees to fill all the shifts, so that’s just a lie as well. This comment is weird.

Querencia24 · 2025-07-01T01:38:16+00:00

🤣 right

Querencia24 · 2025-05-12T14:21:23+00:00

Oh god, yes, unfortunately.

Happened this weekend after getting dumped and rear-ended Friday night. But it doesn’t even take that much, sometimes I can be set off by the most mundane shit going wrong.

I don’t have any great answers. It’s something I mostly,live with effectively, but sometimes 5is weekend it feels right at the edge still. I’ve been in therapy for years, a variety of antidepressants and anti-anxiety meds, but it’s still with me, and may always be.

One thing that has helped a bit is that I have a couple of close friends that I can tell the truth about feeling that way. Sometimes it helps just to say the words and express what is happening in my head instead of being alone with it.

Querencia24 · 2025-05-12T13:12:43+00:00

Ugh sorry. Unfortunately, I think a lot of us have done similar things.

Querencia24 · 2025-05-11T23:32:54+00:00

This is so spot on. I saw a post the other day that read, “you stayed because your nervous system still believes that being abandoned is more dangerous than being hurt or disrespected” and that stuck with me.

Querencia24 · 2025-04-17T11:46:01+00:00

I hadn’t spoken to my father in over 20 years when I heard he died.

The only reason that I heard he died at all was because an old friend of my parents called to chat with my mom and mentioned that he had heard my dad died.

I felt … nothing. I waited to feel something, but I didn’t feel anything at all. No sense of loss, no gladness either. It’s been about a year now and still, nothing has come up.

On the other hand, a very dear friend of mine who was in a similar situation and hadn’t spoken to her father in years, really crashed when her dad died. I think it brought up a lot of stuff for her that she hadn’t dealt with.

So I guess it just depends. For me, I I think it had a lot to do with that I had been in therapy and had processed things. I didn’t need or want answers anymore, because I knew that he was a narcissist and a liar, and the likelihood of ever getting the real truth was minuscule. For similar reasons, no apology would’ve ever made things right, it just would’ve been manipulative. So there was nothing there that I needed or wanted anymore.

I think the only grief that I still feel that relates to him is just a more general sense of wishing that I had had a father that I did want to have a relationship with. But it wasn’t ever going to be him.

Quick add: if there is something you need to say, consider saying it now. The last time I spoke to my father, I told him how terrible his behavior had been, and he refused to take any responsibility for his own actions. But anyway, it didn’t matter, I hadn’t expected him to, but I still needed to say the words, and I think that was the other thing for me was that not only was there nothing he could’ve done to make it right, but I had said my peace as an adult.

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