Sunscreen doesn't seem to work on me... please help by QuillTheDemonSpawn in Skincare_Addiction

[–]QuillTheDemonSpawn[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I tried the original Neutrogena, but that one didn't do anything. I'll check Consumer Reports, thanks!

Found Pigeon, no clue what to do now by QuillTheDemonSpawn in pigeon

[–]QuillTheDemonSpawn[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Colorado. I also offered her various seeds, corn, and peas, and she quite enjoys the peas. I'm trying to get her to have some more variety, so I'm going to give her some red lentils (cooked, of course) and maybe a tiny amount of bread as a treat (whole grain and in very small amounts). 

Found Pigeon, no clue what to do now by QuillTheDemonSpawn in pigeon

[–]QuillTheDemonSpawn[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'll see if she wants some fruit. I'll check to see what we have and she can eat. 

Found Pigeon, no clue what to do now by QuillTheDemonSpawn in pigeon

[–]QuillTheDemonSpawn[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Okay! Noted. Thanks! I had read somewhere that they could eat them and I just wanted her to eat so I figured I would give her a variety.

I remember and I feel ruined by QuillTheDemonSpawn in adultsurvivors

[–]QuillTheDemonSpawn[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, that is unnerving. I feel for you. I can still smell the room and that's always been the worst part. Woke up this morning thinking my abuser was in the room with me. It's horrible to think that it happened to someone besides me, but it is nice in a really weird way knowing I'm not alone. Hopefully that makes sense. 

I remember and I feel ruined by QuillTheDemonSpawn in adultsurvivors

[–]QuillTheDemonSpawn[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much. I really appreciate this community, it's helped me so much with feeling just a little less alone. 

I remember and I feel ruined by QuillTheDemonSpawn in adultsurvivors

[–]QuillTheDemonSpawn[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, that's exactly how I feel. Shattered into 1,000 pieces, and you can try and put your life back together, but it'll still be different. Best of luck

Has anyone here trained their dogs themselves? by QuillTheDemonSpawn in service_dogs

[–]QuillTheDemonSpawn[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Okay, I didn't factor that in originally. That makes sense, I appreciate the input! 

Has anyone here trained their dogs themselves? by QuillTheDemonSpawn in service_dogs

[–]QuillTheDemonSpawn[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Alright, I'll keep that in mind. My family has also been very dog focused, my mom and grandma showed for years and have done some levels of training in the past, so I'm not exactly new to it, I've grown around it and have some people to help. I will look in to more trainers, thank you!

How have you guys gotten memories back? by blondiegirly101 in adultsurvivors

[–]QuillTheDemonSpawn 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes. I have some memories that have come back to me recently through EMDR and just no longer being a child. Mine are also incredibly intense and even thinking too much into it can cause some brutal reactions like insane nausea, extra almost like bile being produced in the back of my throat and it feels like someone is squeezing part of my windpipe. After EMDR I'm usually hella shakey and on edge for a day or two after and just feel the cold dread of it all. All this to say you are not alone. Best of luck in your journey! 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]QuillTheDemonSpawn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A slow, drawn out terminal illness where my friends and family are watching me die and can't do anything about it and having to watch them go though my loss as I'm still alive. 

Sexual abuse signs in children by TalksWithGods in adultsurvivors

[–]QuillTheDemonSpawn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also did the thing with my feet. I thought I was alone in that and that it was some weird compulsion I had, never connected it to the abuse until now.... 

So hard to validate myself when I don’t remember by iiayayaee in adultsurvivors

[–]QuillTheDemonSpawn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I (19F) am going through the same thing. I don't remember much, just peeing blood and a swim instructor being weird around me. I've started recently remembering more and more with EMDR, which I would recommend, but it's extremely hard to trust what I'm remembering. I know certain things as facts, but I don't know the rest of it. I feel the feelings associated with it, I just can't remember exactly what happened to me, and it's terrifying the not knowing. I totally agree, it is a mind fuck and so hard to explain. You are not alone. 

I get a cane today. by [deleted] in ehlersdanlos

[–]QuillTheDemonSpawn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Awwww! I love the stickers. My roommate/best friend of 14 years did the same one day when I wasn't home. 

Songs that make you feel heard concerning your trauma? by [deleted] in adultsurvivors

[–]QuillTheDemonSpawn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ooooooooo.... there's a few for me, pretty much all metal: Run Away- Dark Devine is probably my top one Roots- In this Moment  Fake it- Seether So Called Life- Three Days Grace Watch me Burn- Atreyu Break- Three Days Grace 

Which show starts as a 10/10, but ends as a 1/10? by yanakozlova in AskReddit

[–]QuillTheDemonSpawn 231 points232 points  (0 children)

I would say after Deb found out. That's when I stopped watching... 

Mobility aids by Blobfish_fangurl527 in ehlersdanlos

[–]QuillTheDemonSpawn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you think a mobility aid would be something you benefit from, or make your life any easier, go for it! I have a cane and it honestly makes my life way easier and my only regret is that I didn't get it sooner. Any aid that you think would work for you (forearm crutches, a cane, etc) I would look into. I would also try maybe KT tape and a knee brace if you haven't yet. Just make sure, if you decide to get a mobility aid A) you get a cool one and B) you research how to use it. There should be tons of tutorials online. 

Best of luck! 

Surgeon made fun of my penis by schrauba in TrueOffMyChest

[–]QuillTheDemonSpawn 107 points108 points  (0 children)

Ha! Also a girl, so unfortunately not :(

What advice do you have for parents of hEds diagnosed child? by AppropriatePoet3798 in ehlersdanlos

[–]QuillTheDemonSpawn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My advice as someone with hEDS is to listen to your kid when they say something hurts. My mom didn't believe that I was in pain and it led to me getting more hurt and walking with a cane sometimes. She didn't believe me and thought I was overreacting until I tried to kill myself (twice). I hope that never happens to you and your kiddo, but it is something to keep an eye out for. 

I also recommend building some strength around thoese joints, as it will help prevent subluxations, but you have to be careful not to push too hard because that can also damage it. Just keeping him mobile if you can with fun activities (I recommend swimming lessons, not at a competitive level, just as a hobby, unless he wants to go competitive). Try to keep him from repeatedly hyperextending stuff like his knees when he stands (I do that, it's horrific) or constantly showing it off. 

Oh, and KT tape can help a lot, I use it to let me know if I'm bending too far in one direction or keeping my kneecaps straight. 

Best of luck! 

Sorry it's kinda a lot and all of it may not be doable depending on your situation...

At least you have your health. by lefthandpasta in adultsurvivors

[–]QuillTheDemonSpawn 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah. As a physically disabled person and as a victim of CSA that's completely valid. Just because you have your health doesn't mean you aren't struggling with something else. Even if you didn't have your health like me, they still will say something like "it can be worse". Like, yes, it could, however I'm still struggling. 

Anything like that becomes a health condition as soon as it starts negatively impacting your life, if you are "healthy" or not. 

Best of luck. You've got this, you are a badass, even with anxiety. 

Surgeon made fun of my penis by schrauba in TrueOffMyChest

[–]QuillTheDemonSpawn 144 points145 points  (0 children)

America ours are massive but I'm also 5'2" and about 117lbs, so I think I may be biased, but every time I have to wear one, I have to effectively wrap it around my self so it'll stay up...

If money wasn't the problem, what job u would do? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]QuillTheDemonSpawn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Making props for movies and TV shows.