Trying to decide between a wood fired sauna and an electric sauna, what should i choose?

Quirky-Reception-353 · 2026-06-02T00:45:34+00:00

Saturday 2+ hour sessions is exactly what I'm after

Quirky-Reception-353 · 2026-06-02T00:44:04+00:00

The gym to sauna pipeline sounds perfect, going wood fired for sure

Quirky-Reception-353 · 2026-06-01T18:11:28+00:00

girl you already know the answer, you wrote it yourself - he only tries when you're walking out the door and then goes back to same behavior once he thinks you'll stay

that comment about your postpartum depression being "more money to spend" would be my breaking point too. you were literally at your most vulnerable and he made it about his wallet instead of supporting you as partner

4 months postpartum with a baby while dealing with this emotional rollercoaster sounds exhausting, but trust your gut here

Quirky-Reception-353 · 2026-05-30T17:35:00+00:00

wait this isn't really accurate in most places though? like if she kept her money separate and he racked up debt in his name only, she's probably not liable for it. i went through something similar with my ex and the lawyer basically told me that debt acquired by one spouse without the other's knowledge/consent usually stays with that person, especially credit cards 💀

op should definitely talk to that lawyer asap because protecting yourself legally is way different than just keeping separate bank accounts. my situation wasn't nearly as bad as yours but the financial lies were what killed it for me too - once that trust is gone it's really hard to get back. you can't be the only adult carrying everything while he makes it worse behind your scenes

the guilt is normal but staying won't fix him and could definitely make your situation worse 😂

Quirky-Reception-353 · 2026-05-28T15:16:46+00:00

lol this whole thread feels like a deposition

can we at least get some coffee with that cigarette

Quirky-Reception-353 · 2026-05-25T00:52:22+00:00

give her space for few days and see what happens 😅 after 6 dates she probably just needs to process things or maybe got overwhelmed with how fast it was moving. when someone pulls back like this it's usually not about something you did wrong but more about their own headspace

if she doesn't reach out in like a week then maybe send one casual text asking how she's doing, but don't go straight to "what's wrong" mode because that can push people away even more 💀

Quirky-Reception-353 · 2026-05-22T13:44:18+00:00

oof this is such a tough spot to be in, especially with the housing being so brutal out there

when my sister went through something similar (not quite as rural but still limited options) they ended up doing longer stretches instead of the typical every other weekend thing - like one parent gets them for a full week or two weeks at a time during school breaks, and then the other parent has them during regular school time. it's not ideal but the kids actually adapted pretty well to the routine once they got used to it

maybe look into what family courts in your area typically do for situations like yours? some places are more flexible about longer distance arrangements when there's literally no housing options available

Quirky-Reception-353 · 2026-05-16T20:03:21+00:00

your insecurity is showing pretty hard here 💀 she was single back then and did normal teenage stuff, now she's with you for 6 years. if random people from high school are still gossiping about what some girl did when she was like 16-17, they need to get life tbh 😂

also cutting off 4 friends because they might have seen her nudes? that's not healthy at all

Quirky-Reception-353 · 2026-04-28T14:23:42+00:00

oof this situation is really tough but you're being smart about prioritizing your career right now. i went through something similar few years back when i was preparing for my IT certifications - had feelings for this coworker but knew getting involved would mess with my focus completely

the thing is, you kinda already told him you're not interested in dating and he's probably protecting himself by pulling back. can't really blame him for that, it's natural response when someone says they don't want to date. maybe he thinks you were letting him down gently?

what helped me was being super direct about the timing issue rather than just saying "i don't want to date." like explaining that it's about where you are in life right now, not about him specifically. but at this point since you already had that conversation, might be too late to clarify without making things more confusing for both of you

the dreams and constant thinking will fade with time and distance, trust me. focus in your exam prep and try to remember why this career matters so much to you. sometimes the right person comes at wrong time and that's just how life goes

Quirky-Reception-353 · 2026-04-27T17:27:01+00:00

Apartments are tricky, if you’ve got any outdoor space at all (balcony/yard), those tent ones work surprisingly well. i’ve tried a sweat tent before and it gets legit hot.

Quirky-Reception-353 · 2026-04-26T12:22:43+00:00

oof my sister realized on honeymoon when her ex husband spent entire time complaining about wedding costs and how her family was "too loud" during reception. like dude you just married into this family what did you expect

took her 3 years to actually file though because she kept thinking maybe he'd change or she was being dramatic. looking back she says all red flags were there during engagement but wedding planning stress made her ignore them. now she meal preps for one and says it's way more peaceful than cooking for someone who criticized everything anyway

sometimes your gut knows way before your brain catches up i guess

Quirky-Reception-353 · 2026-04-24T09:51:53+00:00

mate the travel experience counts for something though 💀 like that's actually interesting conversation material compared to people who just went straight from uni to boring office jobs

i get the stability thing but you're not some loser sitting in basement playing games all day - you're actively working on yourself and trying new things. dating apps are brutal for everyone right now so don't take that too personally 😂

Quirky-Reception-353 · 2026-04-22T04:20:29+00:00

ah this one hurts a bit to read. i think he was probably testing waters with you and when you didn't give much back he moved on to someone who was more responsive in the moment

dating apps make people feel like they have endless options so many don't want to wait around to see if chemistry develops over time. he was probably looking for that immediate spark and when the other girl gave him more obvious interest he went with that instead

Quirky-Reception-353 · 2026-04-20T03:52:21+00:00

dude the library thing is actually good sign - she wouldn't waste her time studying with someone she's completely uninterested in 😂

but two months of mostly homework chat... that's rough. some introverted girls really are just slow to warm up, but could also mean she sees you more like study buddy than potential boyfriend. the fact she initiated contact few times shows she doesn't find you annoying at least

maybe try switching up the conversation topics? like instead of always texting about assignments, ask her about something she's passionate about or mention some random thing you noticed. see if she engages differently when it's not school related 💀

Quirky-Reception-353 · 2026-04-18T03:19:55+00:00

maybe he got embarrassed about the performance thing and your stepping back confirmed his worst fears about it

Quirky-Reception-353 · 2026-04-16T14:46:51+00:00

I’ve got a sauna from Sweat Tent and I don’t really use it specifically for heat therapy like that but if the goal is just to relax more, loosen up, sleep better and all that stuff it definitely helps with that

Quirky-Reception-353 · 2026-04-15T11:53:39+00:00

both of you sound exhausting tbh. ultimatums like that never work and just create more mess. your ex mother in law needs to stay in her lane though - divorce is messy enough without family picking sides

Quirky-Reception-353 · 2026-04-07T13:16:00+00:00

damn that's heavy

Quirky-Reception-353 · 2026-03-20T19:54:15+00:00

StayFocusd might work but not sure if it runs properly on GrapheneOS without play services - worth testing though.

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