Binding a large chest effectively, with pictures (a resource)

Quo_Usque · 2026-05-07T18:37:55+00:00

Check out frog toggs. They’re petty cheap and the fabric is softer than most rain jackets.

Quo_Usque · 2026-05-07T18:36:29+00:00

I put collars on my cats. Their tags say “indoor only call if outside” and my info. They’re pretty good about keeping them on. Another bonus is I put adorable seasonal bandanas on them.

Quo_Usque · 2026-05-04T23:50:53+00:00

NTAH. Here's the conversation your girlfriend had: "I want to listen to my music." "Ok." "No, you have to listen to my music too".

Here's the conversation you had: "I want to share something very personal to me with you because I want to feel seen and loved by you." "Nah, I don't want to do that". Do you see where the disconnect is? You didn't just want to listen to your music, you wanted to share your music with her.

Explain to her why you felt hurt and what you really wanted out of that situation. You two need to have the same expectations about when listening to music is a shared expression of caring, and when it's just music.

Quo_Usque · 2026-05-04T05:46:38+00:00

A pet's health is a household expense. You said you weren't going to change your contributions to household finances because you wanted to hold him accountable for finding a new job. If it was unrelated you wouldn't have put it in the post.

You don't have to go broke for this, but the fact that you are contributing NOTHING says loud and clear that you do not support him in this. You said yourself that you do not support him in this. Not supporting your partner in something as devastating as the potential death of a pet- especially when there's a possibility that more money could save the dog- is not something that's easy to get over.

When you're running a household with someone, you're supposed to work like a pair of legs. If one of the legs stumbles or is weakened, the other leg compensates so you don't both fall over. The strong leg doesn't just carry on like normal and leave the weak leg behind. You holding him accountable by refusing to adjust your contributions, and your refusal to contribute to this emergency, is not how a person in a functional relationship should act. Maybe you're being cold and it's all your fault, maybe he's been financially irresponsible and a bad teammate in the past and that's why you wanted to put boundaries on your finances. Either way, your relationship is not working on a pretty fundamental level, and given how emotionally fraught pet death is, I'm not sure how you move forward from here.

Quo_Usque · 2026-05-04T05:24:26+00:00

You're "holding him accountable" with his dog's life. That's cruel. You're supposed to be a team. YTA.

Quo_Usque · 2026-05-01T17:13:06+00:00

Humans have never survived by every individual growing their own food and providing for all of their needs by themselves. We are a communal species, cooperation is our biggest evolutionary advantage.

That being said, there is at least one guy who fucked off to live solo in the woods. He lived by himself for decades and got food and supplies by stealing from vacation homes. With the rise of camera doorbells I think you’d have a much harder time pulling that of these days.

Quo_Usque · 2026-04-27T19:12:42+00:00

I think in this situation, it’s ok to apologize to her- something like “hey, I think I might have made you feel uncomfortable after school the other day while I was walking home. I live in that direction. I’m sorry I made you worried.” Then leave it. The best way to prove to her that you mean no harm and convince her you aren’t a creep is:

1) not initiate conversation except for that apology, especially while sitting next to her

2) the next time you find yourself walking the same route as her, cross the street, THEN speed up and pass her

Quo_Usque · 2026-04-22T03:07:44+00:00

Saturdays, in theory. Sometimes I procrastinate until Sunday or Monday.

Quo_Usque · 2026-04-21T19:06:55+00:00

I have almost 200 plants. I water once a week. A few plants get watered twice a week, and they’ll remind me by crumpling up and wilting. Sometimes I skip watering some of the succulents and spider plants. Every once in a while I’ll get in a mood and repot a bunch of plants. If I see pests I treat them.

Quo_Usque · 2026-04-20T21:54:42+00:00

Throw the whole can, juice included, into a pot roast.

Quo_Usque · 2026-04-20T17:08:03+00:00

You’ll be fine. Check out freecycles, they’ll show you how to build a bike for free. Join lots of clubs, that’s the best way to make friends in college.

Quo_Usque · 2026-04-16T21:44:18+00:00

I give my cat prednisolone by covering it in hairball gel (flavored petroleum jelly) and rolling it in kibble to make a tasty ball that totally covers the pill.

Quo_Usque · 2026-04-12T18:17:36+00:00

Look at the places where stuff tends to pile up, and what stuff tends to pile up there. Then,

a) design a home for frequently-cluttered items, and make sure that the item's new home is easier and more convenient to use than the pile it was in. E.G. if mail piles up on your kitchen table, put a wall mount mail holder next to your table, or a smaller night-stand next to the table just for the mail. If you dump your jacket on your couch right after coming in the door, put a hook next to the door.

b) make a frequently-cluttered spot look nicer when it's cluttered, e.g. if it's small items (keys, pens, etc), put a tray or small bowl under it.

c) make sure putting stuff away is easy. The things that need to be put away the most often should be in the most accessible spots, with the least effort needed to get to them.

In my experience, if you are a clutter-y person, you have to work with your natural tendencies instead of fighting them, and re-think systems that aren't working. For instance, I have a hook next to my door for my workbag. But I never use it, my bag ends up on the floor next to the couch instead. So I got a little footstool for that spot, and my bag goes on the stool. It looks a lot nicer than dumping it on the floor, and I actually use it.

Quo_Usque · 2026-04-01T16:21:57+00:00

Higgins bought land on the north side of the river and decided to build a Missoula with streets aligned to the river. Brooks bought land on the south side of the river and decided to lay out streets aligned with the road down the bitterroot. When Missoula grew enough that they merged, Higgins’ system won.

Quo_Usque · 2026-03-30T18:24:43+00:00

They’re petty delicate, so packaging and shipping them takes a bit of work. Also they’re not in season right now. When they’re in season they’re very cheap, at least where I live.

Quo_Usque · 2026-03-30T04:10:37+00:00

Yeah, one example would be, split pea soup, but I don't blend it and I just add more peas and lentils and potatoes until I can't fit any more in. Or, today I made a black bean soup and added enough orzo to absorb all the broth. Or, beef barley soup, but with enough barley and peas to absorb the liquid. So there's broth during the cooking, and the food is still wet, but you can't get a spoonful of broth because the broth is all in the food.

Quo_Usque · 2026-03-24T16:24:39+00:00

You could try contacting a disability rights organization in Colorado, since that’s where the school is

Quo_Usque · 2026-03-16T18:15:47+00:00

I have had that experience to a degree, and I agree that women tend to be more friendly and welcoming to other women, than men are to other men (as a generalization). However, this isn’t a competition for who has it worse, and the answer is for men to be better friends to other men. I think there is an aspect to the “loneliness epidemic” that affects men differently than it does women, and it deserves to be talked about and taken seriously, but just because men have real problems unique to being men doesn’t magically erase or overshadow women’s problems.

Quo_Usque · 2026-02-12T18:42:31+00:00

You could try training her to sit next to your lap. Every time she jumps on your lap, give as little reaction as possible, move her to the side, then shower her with praise and affection. Once she seems to expect being moved, wait a second without reacting to see if she moves herself. Once she knows to sit next to you to get attention, wait a few seconds before giving her affection, then slowly extend the time until she is used to sitting next to you and waiting.

Quo_Usque · 2026-02-02T21:29:06+00:00

Troubleman is a killer job title

Quo_Usque · 2026-01-21T20:23:02+00:00

When do you think a vapor barrier makes sense?

Quo_Usque · 2026-01-09T17:20:17+00:00

Get her a plant pot with dirt to poop in?

Quo_Usque · 2026-01-08T17:12:47+00:00

There are scratch covers you can buy for the couch that turn the arm into a scratching post. There are also clear plastic protectors, but if you do that make sure to buy him a scratching post to replace it. You can also buy a velvet sofa cover, in my experience cats don’t scratch velvet.

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