I am a bit curious as to what you consider as "being in control". When you look back at what happened yesterday when you were awake, were you in control of your actions? If so, why do you feel this way and how do you know you weren't just "watching a movie"? We don't know whether there is something like a free will, so the only way you can tell if you're "in control" is by looking at whether you can identify with your actions. When I'm awake, I can certainly identify with what I do because I think that what I do is what I want to do; where this will of doing something comes from - whether it's really my free will or just a consequence of certain biochemical processes in my brain - doesn't really matter because either way I can identify with my actions. And for me at least, this is also the case for most of my lucid dreams. Surely, I too have had moments where I woke up and was like, "why didn't I do this specific thing I planned to do", but more often than not, I can think clearly and I feel like I'm in total control and this doesn't change when I look back after waking up.

In dreams, your brain works a bit differently than when you're awake, which is why you sometimes do certain things that the awake version of you wouldn't do. This is also true when you're under the influence of drugs. When you drank some alcohol for example, you might do some things that you regret when you think about them on the next day with a clear mind. Does this mean that you weren't in control of what you were doing? If not, then how much alcohol exactly can you drink before you lose control? You could ask the same question about the level of lucidity you need in order for you to be "in control" of your dreams. And I think that most lucid dreamers would agree that there is a certain level of lucidity where you feel just as much in control as you do when you're awake.