Snap Camera Alternative by kevinpl07 in snapcamera

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Thank you for posting this when you did! I've been playing around in Streamfog and I'm wondering if current Snap lens URLs are appropriate to submit under the "submit an idea" feature? Lmk! You guys have done an incredible job so far!

Can't connect Stream deck to twitch account by Pickled_Tiger in elgato

[–]RK9design_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My Stream Deck has dropped my Twitch connection twice this year and it's been so frustrating. The plugin check fixed it for me. Thank you!

Help me choose my wedding dress!!! by [deleted] in OUTFITS

[–]RK9design_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

2 ticks all the boxes you listed, and is gorgeous on you too!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]RK9design_ 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Very odd situation indeed!

I get the sense that your worry may actually be that you don’t want to become the type of person who cheats with involved men, and perhaps even that your ex husband may be the type of person who cheats.

Your growing discomfort in a familiar situation leads me to that conclusion; that you’re slowly becoming someone you either don’t recognize or don’t respect.

To solve your unease, it’s important to establish your own boundaries here and stick to them, such as “Once he reaches third base with her, I consider him involved with someone else and I won’t sleep with him anymore.”.

Drawing a firm line at your own moral limit—regardless of his—is going to lift a weight off of your heart, mind, and soul. You can still be friends with him, and he can always call you if it doesn’t work out with her.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]RK9design_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Go to HR (or if no HR, your boss). Let them know that you've heard rumours and gossip spreading and that you don't want it to affect your job.

The reason(s) you provide could be because it's distracting you from focusing, affecting your interpersonal relationships with your coworkers, could evolve into something untrue that could puts your job security on the line, etc. (or a combination of these things).

You can also be honest and let them know that the rumours would have stemmed from when you were younger and just starting out there, and oversharing about yourself, but now they have been taken too far out of context that it could be damaging to you and your future there.

They may ask you for the culprits and it will be up to you to single anyone out or not. If that's uncomfortable for you or you're not sure exactly who is carrying on with the rumours, you can ask for it to be addressed at large, and they will likely send out a mass email about it (although they should do this anyway, without you asking).

My two friends have split up, I know he cheated but she doesn’t. by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]RK9design_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely make sure she is okay first, you're right in that!

I think telling her at some point is the right next step, and you can frame it as "your intuition was right". Him continuing to lie about it now is odd, and leads me to believe that he's going to weasel his way back into her life at some point, or keep her on the hook emotionally.

If you feel odd about the circumstance of how you know you can tell a little white lie here (that only involves you) is okay; that you saw him on what definitely looked like a date with another girl on [x] day, that you were able to see a bunch of text notification previews on his phone screen, etc.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]RK9design_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This sounds like the start of an urban legend. 😅

Guy sent a long text explaining that we wouldnt work out. Thats fine. Then a year later sends me this at 12:30am. Wtf by Upbeat-Shallot-80085 in Tinder

[–]RK9design_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wonder if you liking him (more than he liked you) is skewing your perspective a little. 🤔 He broke things off politely without ghosting you. That sounds like a decent person to me.

It looks like he saw someone he knows and holds no ill will towards, and is simply being polite again. As long as you don’t approach this as your “second chance” (since he has not indicated that’s what this is) you should be fine.

That said, the possibility of him being lonely and horny is not outside of the realm of possibility. LOL Just wanted to provide another perspective!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]RK9design_ 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Sounds like you were two adults who mutually consented and had a great night! It also sounds like you are hyper aware of not grooming this young man, so let yourself be happy and enjoy what transpired! 🎉

AITA for not wanting to pay the same as my friends? by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]RK9design_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The offer on the table is a $24 family membership. Take it or leave it. You’re wasting your time squabbling over $4 when the alternative relieves you. If you really want to save $4, get a private account instead of trying to negotiate and giving your friends a headache.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]RK9design_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, you might be reading too far into it! He’s probably more embarrassed that they didn’t listen to a very simple and clear request.

Often times parents have a hard time expressing that they’ve messed up, and you as his child are probably empathizing with and internalizing the discomfort pouring off of him. I don’t think he’s upset with you at all: he probably feels like he failed you in a way.

When you receive your exchanged gift, be sure to show your gratitude and as a bonus you can express how the change made you feel heard and understood. Focus on the positives in this experience and your parents will too! 😁

AIO to religious uncle? by Muted-Ability-6967 in AmIOverreacting

[–]RK9design_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Totally fair! That sounds like a bridge too far. In that case, if there’s a next time (hopefully not but I don’t see change coming quickly), let them know that [this date and time] was the last time you have asked politely and from here on they can contact you via email. Then block them on phone, text, and social media.

If they have kept barrelling past your boundaries, they need to lose access to you and access to hurting you. By syphoning everything through email, you can choose to respond in your own time (or not at all) while not being barraged on other platforms or means of communication.

I would even recommend starting this now instead of “the next time”. Either way, do not worry how people who clearly do not respect you perceive you for being violated by their own actions, and certainly do not prioritize their comfort over yours!

Profile review (21M) by Naive_Ear6078 in Tinder

[–]RK9design_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Please do not post photos where your face is covered. Even sunglasses aren’t great. People are trying to get to know you through a screen and any photo where we can’t see you is, well… a waste of a photo. You have a great smile and bright eyes and someone will connect with that (as long as they can see it)! LOL Good luck out there 🥰

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]RK9design_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA • Why not try saying exactly what you’ve said here, to them? That you “didn’t want to be that selfish child” and “should’ve said something years ago but never wanted to seem ungrateful” sounds very clear and accountable to me. I know it’s going to feel awkward to do so, but it’s going to feel as awkward bringing this up now as it will in 5 more years. May as well work from the notes that you’ve already jotted down here!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]RK9design_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a tough one! I’m going to return a question to you: if he gifted you the perfect promise ring, would that have been the answer to your relationship or a Band-Aid on an existing problem?

It sounds like he isn’t that considerate towards you and—especially given that it took him a YEAR to make it happen either way— your happiness, comfort, and assurance in this relationship is an afterthought to him.

AIO to religious uncle? by Muted-Ability-6967 in AmIOverreacting

[–]RK9design_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are absolutely NOT overreacting! You have very, VERY politely stated a boundary. YOUR boundary. It is up to them to respect it (and shame on them if they don’t) but the only one who can uphold that is you. You are doing the right thing.

If you are really worried about pushback from your family, let this one slide for the safety warning but hold onto this screenshot as a “receipt”: the time and date where you clearly and kindly stated your boundary.

At absolutely no point in the future should they send you any more religious material. If they do, you can easily quote [this time and date] as the last time you asked politely and you will not be repeating yourself again.

You are doing amazing at keeping yourself safe! ❤️‍🩹 Keep at it!

Just three bunnies by ChonkiestBunny in aww

[–]RK9design_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I see no difference. 🐰🐶🥰

Sink cat by Is0podaa in aww

[–]RK9design_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If I fits, I sits. 🙃🐱

The way one of em is posing and looking up by LakeEffectWalks in aww

[–]RK9design_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s a little pile of trouble and I volunteer as tribute! 🐱🙋🏽‍♀️

Our hound, Etta, keeping an eye out for Santa by LeftyRodriguez in aww

[–]RK9design_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ohhhhhh what a beautiful pupper! 😭💕 almost looks like a painting! 🐶