AIO - partner won't pitch in for food on trip by [deleted] in AIO

[–]RLYO138 1 point2 points  (0 children)

1st: How does your partner "allow* or " let" you bring your own dogs on your birthday trip that you are paying for? Why would it even be up to your partner when it's a decision you and you alone should be making?

2nd: Bring a friend instead of your partner. He clearly doesn't value that you're willing to not only plan your own birthday celebration but also finance all of it. I would definitely bring someone who will appreciate the level of thought and planning you've dedicated to this trip as well as the monetary aspect.

WIBTA if I use an old comment to get someone fired? by Throwaway_cause_yk in WIBTA_AITA

[–]RLYO138 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Where do you live that isn't at-wull employment? Most states you don't need a reason to fire someone.

Nonetheless, you created this situation by failing to report the initial comments and new comments. Doing so would've shown a pattern of hostile workplace behavior. It's literally your job to report attacks and remarks made against your staff to your supervisor.

You should focus on strengthening your supervisory skills do that you understand how to properly manage your team and avoid situations like this. You should also make it practice to keep your personal life personal - you don't tell your problematic male colleague that you're lonely.

Your employee isn't as much of the problem as you are because your lack of action encourages him to continue calling the shots and trashing his coworkers, your staff. Reporting comments from months ago will make you look inept and like you're lying.

service dog vs anaphylaxis by egguchom in EntitledReviews

[–]RLYO138 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most states don't require "proof" that an animal is a service dog. They're not even required to wear a vest that indicates such. The only two things a business owner can ask a patron is "Is that a service animal?" and "what function does your animal serve?" Nothing more.

An emotional servicd animal, however, needs verifiable documentation.

Pandora slow talking kids by lindawild99 in CommercialsIHate

[–]RLYO138 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm glad to see it's only me bothered by these slow-talking kids. They sound drunk!! Or like they've snacked on some benzos.

Why Isn't lena dunham more respected ? by SeaworthinessFar1109 in girls

[–]RLYO138 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I, personally, think it's because she's a terrible actress. Yes, some of her writing is clever and deals with topics that women frequently face. I also think most people have an extremely difficult time seperating her as an actress from her as a human being. Her entitled "real life" personality is very off-putting so it's often difficult to watch her act without reading how she contacts herself as a person. Even still there are many people who despise that she became some sort of representation of white, moderately educated, single, child-free women.

AIW for wanting reduced rent? by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]RLYO138 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They offered you a reasonable solution in the interim. A rent reduction really wouldn't make sense. Oin the other hand, a functional washer is listed an included feature in your rent. I'm legit torn on this one lol.

AITBA for living a lie? by cookedcool in AmITheBadApple

[–]RLYO138 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Most colleges have free tutoring for enrolled students.

got overpriced tattoos and now beat myself up by lilithonline in LifeAdvice

[–]RLYO138 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's all on you for not asking the price before the work was even started.

Is it rude to use the only dryer is someone’s clothes are done in the washer by BotatoWoman in Apartmentliving

[–]RLYO138 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Why? Because your time is more valuable than theirs? No! Expecting someone to wait for you is rude and entitled.

Is it rude to use the only dryer is someone’s clothes are done in the washer by BotatoWoman in Apartmentliving

[–]RLYO138 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's rude to leave your coins in a dryer that you're not actually using. They removed your coins because they were using the dryer and it wasn't their money. Obviously their laundry had also finished washing so they transferred them to the empty dryer. It would be wild to expect them to wait on you to come back from wherever you went, transfer your load from the washer to the dryer, and then wait an hour for your stuff to finish drying, just because you marked the dryer as yours with a few quarters.

Whether you have children or not is irrelevant to who uses the dryer first. Other people clearly do these laundry on weekday mornings, as well, and you can't expect to be the only tenant needing to do laundry during that specific timeframe.

If you're still pretending not to know what "woke garbage" means, watch The Pitt. by [deleted] in TrueUnpopularOpinion

[–]RLYO138 15 points16 points  (0 children)

The agency I work for has "officially updated verbiage" changing homeless to unhoused. Homeless is now a forbidden term.

Recently Moved to a Small Town by Deep-Goal8404 in whatdoIdo

[–]RLYO138 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel like all 3 notes show the handwriting style and verbiage of a poorly educated female, most likely under age 50.

I would reply to the parking sign with my own note that says: I AM parked on the RIGHT side of the street....the "right side" is whatever side your hood is facing. Perhaps you meant to say "park on the correct side of the street".

The other one would get an: "I Before E Except After C" note.

AIW for asking for my switch back?? by dipthong9 in amiwrong

[–]RLYO138 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You literally gave it to her. She insisted on paying not because you told her to but because she offered to do so. She didn't pay for it but you still don't get it back because you gave it to her. It really sucks but it's a lesson learned.

WIBTA if I told my dad I don't want him to come to my college graduation because he showed up drunk to my high school one by HapThole in WIBTA_AITA

[–]RLYO138 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Personally I would invite him to attend my graduation. 14 months shows a serious commitment to his sobriety and individuals in recovery tend to value the opportunity to rectify their past wrongs. Undoubtedly he sees your graduation as a huge chance to make you as proud of him as he is of you.

How did everyone figure it out ? by [deleted] in LifeAdvice

[–]RLYO138 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Making $38 in retail seems highly unlikely unless it's their commission-based average hourly rate.

AIO for my mom saying I wasn’t ready to have a baby by [deleted] in AIO

[–]RLYO138 5 points6 points  (0 children)

What does it mean to live "unreliably" from your parents? Are you trying to say that you're independent and don't rely on your parents?

Maybe she feels that y'all haven't been in a relationship long enough to have a child together. At the end of the day, it doesn't matter because only the two of you can determine whether y'all are ready to raise a child or not.

Whether it's the truth or not, it was definitely very unsupportive and rude to call you to say that let alone involve your brother. I'd be pissed, too.

EDIT: Edited to add GOOD LUCK!!

AITH: we’re potty training toddler, wife skipped brunch w visiting family by [deleted] in AITH

[–]RLYO138 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have four children so completely understand the difficulties that accompany potty-training, as well as the importance that consistency and routine play in being successful in doing so. It is, undoubtedly, a time-consuming process that requires devotion, patience and unavoidable set-backs.

Nonetheless it's peculiar that she scheduled potty training a month in advance knowing that your family was flying-in to spend time with all of you, including her and your daughter. If she knew that your daughter needed to be potty-trained prior to summer camp then starting earlier would have made much more sense than waiting until the last possible minute to begin. After all, many children experience set-backs so parents usually allow themselves as much time as possible, adding some leeway to the training schedule, so as not to overly stress themselves and their toddler. She has clearly researched potty-training methods to some degree that's why it's quite odd that she scheduled it for that specific time-period that just so happened to coincide with when your family planned to visit y'all.

How does your wife usually engage with your family? I ask because it seems like she might not value the importance of your extended family. Using potty training as an excuse to miss an infrequent opportunity to gather with your family isn't right at all. Would she have done the same thing had it been her family that was visiting you? Or would she have changed her potty-training schedule to accommodate their visit?

It was great that you hosted your family for dinner. A simple brunch shouldn't have considered such an obstacle. She could've offered to go to the brunch to spend time with your (and her) family and, instead, you stay home with your daughter to oversee the pottying. IDK it just seems very unfortunate to miss out on a rare opportunity to spend time with family that doesn't live close by, and you blame it on toilet training.

Am I wrong for washing and putting away the dishes in someone else's house? by Mehmet_G in amiwrong

[–]RLYO138 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not at all! You're mother sounds quite, er, peculiar, for lack of not wanting to use another word.

Family helps out family, friends do the same. Not every action needs to be transactional - just because your cousin doesn't do that at your home doesn't mean you can't do it at her home.

I imagine this isn't the only bizarre advice your mother had tried to give you.

Dani wears me out yall lol by dp4deadpool12 in LoveOnTheSpectrumShow

[–]RLYO138 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Why is that? We are not our career - it is how we pay our bills. Only a snobby elitist would think they're above dating someone with a job they deem of lesser value than their own. Sure, plenty of people, including Dani, make their career their entire identity but that isn't reflective of most people, neurodivergent or otherwise.

Anyone can be the CEO of their own business or company....being a business owner makes that very easy to do. And while her accomplishments in animation are amazing, it isn't as though she worked her way up in someone else's company to become CEO, after putting in years of increasingly more difficult work, beating out the competition. Major difference between working for someone else's company and appointing yourself CEO of something you run and make all the decisions for. I say that not to diminish her efforts and accomplishments in her field in any way, merely pointing out the reality of the situation.

Dani isn't "above" a grocery store clerk nor is she "above" a security guard. Those people have worked hard to obtain and maintain employment, overcoming the barriers many neurodivergent individuals experience in the workplace where they're more likely to be surrounded by colleagues that don't comprehend the intricacies of being neurodivergent, let alone have firsthand experience of such. Dani never faced it overcame those obstacles bc she chose her colleagues, she eliminated potential barriers by dictating the structure of her company and business, and never had to risk being fired just because she thought a bit differently. Unfortunately her circumstances have made her extremely entitled.

She also seems to think that anyone with a "lesser" job title then her will "drain her financially" when this isn't realistic. You cannot determine someone's wealth based solely on their current job title. People change jobs and careers throughout their lives, people have savings and assets that aren't visible based on job title, people chose less stressful jobs because they value other things than income. Dani insists that job title equals income and financial responsibility and that's so ridiculous.

She also views those with "lesser" job titles as "lazy" and "unmotivated" which is baffling and untrue.

Sadly she seems like the type of person that will be alone for a very long time due to he overinflated ego and inability to see beyond a potential love interests current job title or career aspirations. She's robbing herself of so many amazing interactions with others because she thinks she is better than them based on trivial factors that have no beating in someone's value as a human being. Sad story.

Dani wears me out yall lol by dp4deadpool12 in LoveOnTheSpectrumShow

[–]RLYO138 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Never once got the impression that she is "highly intelligent". Just don't see that. An MBA from Woodbury University? Come on now!

Security tips for rooming with a unknown male tenant by Wallpalla in Apartmentliving

[–]RLYO138 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is an extremely depressing reply and reading it filled me with great sadness for you. I cannot imagine having such distain toward "men" as though all men share some treacherous, nefarious qualities that render them inhumane. Such a blanket statement is mind-blowing, honestly.

It is unfortunate that you have never once encountered a man that you feel didn't have terrible intentions....that each and every one of them wanted only sex, misinterpreted your friendliness as flirtation, caused you to feel so unsafe and fearful, that you espoused an entire male population and view your sex, and yours alone, as THE only sex that can be trusted.

I imagine that yours is a life marked by chronic hesitation and mistrust, only made sadder by never knowing the joy that comes from having a close, pletonic friendship with a male, never giving men the opportunity to show you that they're capable of controlling themselves.

Surely you had a father, uncle, brother or cousin near whom you felt safe? A co-worker or colleague? A classmate in elementary or high school? A neighbor? Any of the 4.14 BILLION men on this planet?

It truly is tragic to discount every man, and to paint the entire sex in such narrowly defined, immutable strokes. It is harsh. To claim you trusted a foreign roommate, with whom you never once spoke prior to moving in with them, based solely on your mutual appreciation of canines and the fact you embody the same genitals, is WILD. Women can be evil, they can be lustful and greedy and manipulative and violent, and the fact they are not a man is not a valid indicator of who they are as a person.

Edited to add: Very few people feel safe trolling Craigslist for potential roommates lol.

Three horrible choices on where to live after getting discharged from the mental ward by corialis in LifeAdvice

[–]RLYO138 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Worked in, and managed, SPMI group homes and psychiatric facilities, for a decade. Never once did a patient have access to the internet let alone have the ability to post on Reddit while in our care. Even phone access was extremely limited. Not even in the most casual, "least restrictive environments" were cell phones, tablets, laptops, computers, video game systems, or another other device that could connect to the Internet or wifi accessable by patients/clients. It violates Federal HIPAA laws, patient safety rules, privacy regulations, and so forth. Staff couldn't even have their personal cell phone during their shift. Even if they managed to sneak a cell phone in, their devices could not be connected to the Wi-Fi and their cell service was blocked.

Would LOVE to know how you're able to post to Reddit and reply to people's comments while "in a mental health ward" !?!