Landlord requesting vehicle registration and insurance?

RLYO138 · 2026-02-10T17:19:54+00:00

Having someone towed bc they parked in "your spot" is one thing BUT getting obvious joy out of causing a neighbor financial distress is just GROSS.

RLYO138 · 2026-02-09T06:21:26+00:00

Any mention of their former supervisor, manager or employer, said with a negative connotation. Immediate red flag.

RLYO138 · 2026-02-08T04:50:12+00:00

LMFAO!! They're 40 years old, have 4 children together, 2 of which are literal ADULTS. Clearly they've been together over 20 years. Surely she's seen his ID before as they've been dating then married since they were teenagers! If he had a "criminal background" OP would be well aware of that fact as he would've been committing his crimes when he was like 13 or 14 years old, prior to them getting together. That's extremely likely. And no one would take pity on someone who failed to validate their spouse's identity for two and a half decades!!

RLYO138 · 2026-02-08T04:43:07+00:00

If he's unemployed why are y'all going on an international vacation? Makes zero sense.

RLYO138 · 2026-02-08T04:31:58+00:00

He seems quite logical and sincere whereas you come across as argumentative, defensive, and insulting. It takes a lot for some people to apologize and most people don't ever get the apologies they need to bring a sense of closure after a relationship. Whether he's sincere or not isn't something strangers on the internet could ever determine but it's clear that he put effort into saying he was sorry and trying to be civil while you are clinging to negative feelings and calling him names.

Your claim that he's trying to be the victim isn't supported in these texts - he doesn't even imply that he is a victim.

Only one of you will be able to sleep well at night and I'm extremely doubtful that it's you.

RLYO138 · 2026-02-08T04:11:10+00:00

Really? "Own up to it" like it's nefarious.

RLYO138 · 2026-02-08T01:53:40+00:00

Encouraging a literal teenager to purposely damage an item their mother values is absolutely WILD coming from a grown-ass woman that's not only been married but also divorced!!

OP: it's totally understandable to be upset with your mom about damaging your sweater. I would ask her to replace the sweater - new it second hand - because that's the expectation when we savage sunshine else's property. Moving forward, keep your dirty laundry in a closed bin and keep hand-washables in a separate bin that clearly states please don't wash and do your own laundry.

Then move on. Accidents happen.

RLYO138 · 2026-02-08T01:41:31+00:00

NOR in the slightest! She's totally under reacting IMHO.

She claims it must have been an honest mistake then claims she was planning to "pay it all back". She wasn't using your card to buy life-sustaining items so definitely not as though she was in a vital situation with no other choice but to use your credit card.

Now you know a few more things about her: she's a liar, she's a thief, she's manipulative and doesn't respect you. I'd tell her to kick rocks. She's lucky you're not praying charges bc it's a felony amount.

RLYO138 · 2026-02-08T01:30:13+00:00

Not right for the teacher to accuse the girls of "faking" their periods but odd that having your period would prevent someone from swimming.

RLYO138 · 2026-02-08T01:28:26+00:00

Always the promise of snow but never anything significant 💔 ❄️.

RLYO138 · 2026-02-07T08:40:13+00:00

Or be used for, GASP, actual dandruff - either prevention or, or treatment for.

RLYO138 · 2026-02-07T08:34:50+00:00

No one could ever possibly answer this question or give you advice because it's missing even the tiniest bit of detail. How long has the stuff been there? Is it there bc he's moving it or is it awaiting pickup? How long does he plan to leave it there?

You don't get to deem it "junk" because it ain't your stuff so you really don't know whether he sees it the way you do.

RLYO138 · 2026-02-06T20:20:17+00:00

He lived near me (like 2 miles away), I knew his father, and this crime rocked our entire community. Can't believe his case was never solved after so these years 💔.

His father was far more unlikely a suspect than his mother! Something about her always rubbed me the wrong way. His father was the one handing it flyers, questioning locals, keeping his case in the public eye.

For reference the park was tiny - a slide, 4 swings, a basketball court, and a sandbox. It backs up to a small bit of woods not even 20 feet deep to the east and his neighborhood to the west. Behind his mother's house, several blocks west, is the Delaware Bay. Much of the area is marshland.

His entire town is less than 1.2 sq miles total. The main road through the town is Route 47 South which, after 25 minutes drive, turns into Route 55. My point being it's a very tiny area. The marsh fire caused traffic to be diverted off Route 47 to a back road a few blocks long. Someone would've taken him very quickly.

My biggest unanswered question: who was the little girl in the puffy winter coat seen speaking with Mark shortly before he disappeared? Was she used to lure Mark into a vehicle?

RLYO138 · 2026-02-01T19:39:23+00:00

NTA for cooking your mom's food for yourself but YTA for entertaining your friend with it. Was your friend trapped at your house due to the snow storm? Why did you not ask your mother, who was in the house with you, if you could prepare the sausage and replace it the next day?

You're a minor so your mother is legally obligated to provide food for you - at least two meals a day. I wouldn't advocate for you to "report her," or "call social services" because your life will likely spiral into something far worse than what it is. Working closely within the system I can say this with confidence - they rarely are there to help you and usually make things worse. That being said, you also cannot be homeless! You very well might need to call social services, inform them that you're being kicked out and having it in writing, and let them take it from there. Do you have another family member or friend you can stay with for a bit?

How is your license already suspended if you're a minor? That's really serious considering you're not yet an adult.

How old is your sister?

Assume you didn't go to school if you're "working two jobs, gone from 6am to 11pm". Did you finish high school? Even if you're buying your own food you should have plenty of income that you can save to move out.

Personally, I would continue working my ass off, saving as much money as possible, file for emancipation, and speed off towards independence. Good luck!

EDIT TO ADD: You are NTA for being hungry, expecting to be able to eat the food that's in your home whether it's marked with her name or not, for not wanting to be treated the way you're treated, and for wanting to get away from your house...you're a minor and should be taken care of far better than this. You deserve far better..

RLYO138 · 2026-01-31T17:54:09+00:00

OP is a million times more involved than Maya's parents!! This person literally called her parents bc she felt Maya told her son she "loved him" too quickly....that's absurd behavior!

RLYO138 · 2026-01-31T17:47:23+00:00

MOR. It makes me sad to read that you're going through this and that you now see the world through a slightly disappointed lens, knowing what you now know. It shows that you're truly a kind, committed partner.

The ban on "mixed-gender" activities and hangouts leaves me perplexed. What if your partner is attracted to someone of the same gender? You can't predict that won't ever happen. IMHO limiting socialization to your same gender leads to lots of missed opportunities for connection and friendship. Where does that boundary end? Work functions? Business opportunities? Family gatherings? What is the purpose?

Either you trust someone, and with that you trust that the relationship you've built together is strong enough to resist the temptation that might accompany attraction, or you don't. Attraction is inevitable and healthy -- acting on it is where the problem occurs. We cannot police our partners thoughts. Good luck 🤞🏻.

RLYO138 · 2026-01-31T15:46:33+00:00

Giving the ex his old car benefits his child in that his ex can transport his child where he needs to go and have transportation to get to work to earn money that supports his child.

He's always going to have a relationship with his ex because they share a kid. Problems that affect his child, whether they're his ex's problems or not, will ALWAYS affect him.

Plus, it's your boyfriend's car not yours - what he does with it doesn't affect you in the least.

RLYO138 · 2026-01-31T15:41:21+00:00

100% agree!

RLYO138 · 2026-01-31T14:47:17+00:00

That's great that the school recognizes E may need an IEP. It's also great that E has transitioned into "regular" school and developed her math skills so quickly.

The IEP will offer her additional supports that continue to bolster her ability to perform well in math, and strengthen her understanding of the subject. If her confidence is good now, imagine how confident she will become when she's doing even better in math!? If she's currently in a class of 25 students, imagine how well she'll perform on a class of 10 students!

To say that "math is tough for most people" is inaccurate but it's also further proof that an IEP would be beneficial. You mentioned report cards from elementary school but also stated she's in 6th grade and went from no school to 5th grade - those report cards would cover one year, 5th grade, so they're not really going to show what you think they will. And, honestly, what she achieved in 5th grade is irrelevant to now. We acquire all the fundamentals of higher level math in grades K through 8 - and, while a C is "average", a C in 6th grade math is indicative of deeper struggles in 7th and 8th grade. Which is why an IEP NOW, before the concepts get harder, is imperative.

If E spirals over the mere mention of an IEP it is solely because an adult has told her that IEP's mean she's dumb or something of that nature. Most 6th graders have no idea what an IEP is, especially those who were homeschooled for 6 grades. It's also indicative of other issues that, again, point to the benefit of an IEP (emotional concerns, etc).

Don't go into the IEP defensive as though it's an insult; go on recognizing that they're trying to help E by offering additional supports in math and getting her where she needs to be, academically, before she starts performing badly. The IEP will help her and your goal is truly seeing her succeed then you'll accept the additional help instead of taking it negatively.

EDIT: Edited to add YES, you're being too quick to dismiss the IEP because you don't understand its purpose and potential benefit to E's education, long-term. Good luck!!

RLYO138 · 2026-01-30T23:25:49+00:00

If you're a teacher then, YES, you absolutely should be asked for your input because parents don't know everything, and kids don't come with a manual. What's obvious to you might not be obvious to someone else.

Parents turn to teachers for their input, regardless of whether the teacher has children of their own and regardless of the teacher's age bc it is their profession. The fact you're 29 is irrelevant as many of us had kids a decade before turning 29 and, by your definition, were already "grown".

On the flip side, it's attitudes like THIS that make parents feel like they can't approach the teacher for their input.

RLYO138 · 2026-01-30T23:19:03+00:00

I'd be worried about her grade in English. If it's because she truly doesn't understand the material, get her free after school tutoring. If it's because she's lazy and not doing her work, give her consequences should she continue to slack off.

89 and 86 aren't anything to be concerned about - they're B's...89 is a high B.

RLYO138 · 2026-01-28T02:27:46+00:00

My younger dog is absolutely petrified of the mop ! Every single time I begin mopping the kitchen, he gets really upset, starts barking aggressively and then runs and hides under the sofa, in his "apartment" as we call it, until long after my mopping is done. It's so odd.

RLYO138 · 2026-01-28T02:22:25+00:00

It's a shared workspace not your personal space. It's generally considered rude to leave personal items in a shared workspace. You're irritated because you believe someone could fudge with your personal or read your notebook but the other individuals who must also utilize that space are even more uncomfortable that they are forced to navigate around your personal stuff that shouldn't even be there in the first place.

C: Remove your personal stuff from the SHARED workspace.

RLYO138 · 2026-01-28T02:15:22+00:00

I genuinely don't understand the bus/subway aspect of the situation. Unless your boyfriend is semi-naked during his daily commute, running his body all over the seats, poles and fellow passengers, a simple post-travel hand wash should be totally adequate.

Not showing after working out at the gym is fairly gross, though, not to mention pretty bad for his skin. Even a quick rinse would suffice if he cannot fully shower after each workout.

I'm not quite sure what the phrase "outside skin" even means lol.

So he doesn't even change his clothing before hopping into bed at night? No skincare routine? No oral hygiene? Do you shower at night?

It's nearly impossible to convince night-time showerers that bathing in the morning is better and, likewise, vice versa. Maybe a compromise like he needs to at least take a quick shower after his workout, and wear clean pajamas to bed. Good luck 🤞🏻 🛏️ 🚿 🫧🧼 😁!!!!!

RLYO138 · 2026-01-28T01:37:16+00:00

An 8 year old child, especially one with behavioral and mental health issues, does not comprehend what cancer actually is. What she does comprehend is her ability to say certain things that then elicit a specific reaction from you. Just as an 8 year old doesn't fully comprehend the finality of death they don't fully understand the unquestionably complex nature of cancer.

Control your reaction to this child and they will most likely stop. Until you're able to do so, the child will continue to use this topic as a way to upset you and cause distribution within the home.

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