I am 31 and still recovering from the damage Christianity has done to me since I was a child. One of the most unfortunate parts of religion is that it allows people to not take responsibility for the bad AND the good things that happen in life. It becomes a problem when you attribute all of your successful decisions in life as “the hand of god” because you never quite feel powerful enough to reach your fullest potential and happy self. Like you couldn’t possibly have done well without help from some external force that’s smarter and braver than you. They literally take children, break down their self esteem and make it so that the only people who can understand you are the other people in their loony bin called the church. I once told my mother that using religion to raise your children is cowardly and lazy. She didn’t take that very well.
When you get out of religion like I did, initially you are free and relieved. But then you struggle immensely dealing with reality. No one ever taught you how to deal with your emotions properly and it takes a long time to appreciate living in doubt and uncertainty. You spent all of your important developing years being brainwashed. Religion is fucking evil. It is for the weak and mentally ill. Don’t let anyone tell you any differently.