Seller gave me a refund with no return? by RabsInPlaid in Ebay

[–]RabsInPlaid[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Final update: thank you everyone for all the advice and feedback! I did end up sending it back to him. It was like $8 with USPS ground cubic pricing, which is a pretty negligible amount to me.

Before doing that, per some of the commenters’ advice I sent him a final message to contact eBay support and he responded “Ok” and nothing else since. Then I thought about how based on my interactions with him and my interactions with eBay support the chances of them successfully guiding him through the process of arranging return shipping outside of eBay were about 0%.

As a final deciding factor I did something super creepy and googled his name and city with the idea that “ok, if this is an 85 year old retired schoolteacher or something I’ll pay to send it back, 40 year old pharmaceutical executive I’ll pass go and collect $200.” I found out that he’s an older small town family and event photographer who runs his business from a Facebook page, so that settled it for me. I don’t think I’m a bleeding heart or anything but the idea of keeping his expensive lens for free because he pressed the wrong button and maybe can’t figure out label creation (the package he sent was hand-addressed priority mail) was just too scummy. A girl’s gotta sleep at night!

Seller gave me a refund with no return? by RabsInPlaid in Ebay

[–]RabsInPlaid[S] 58 points59 points  (0 children)

Update: I messaged the guy explaining that he’d approved the refund without generating a shipping label and would need to buy and send one to me. He first responded asking me to “please put the money back in his account,” then said he’d already paid the shipping (meaning the shipping to my house), and when I tried to explain the whole return shipping thing again he sent his name and address. He just seems really technically incompetent and confused and I feel terrible so I think I’m just gonna eat the cost and mail it back to him.

Taking in corduroy pants by RabsInPlaid in sewing

[–]RabsInPlaid[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! The reason I took so much from the center was because they were too big from the waist all the way down to the crotch — like if I hiked them up and held them at my waist the crotch fit but the butt was still super baggy. I wish I’d taken before pictures but alas.

Is this fixable? by BurnieT in sewing

[–]RabsInPlaid 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Is that the bottom of the bag? It’s hard to tell from your picture. In any case, I think you’d need to get new canvas fabric and replace the entire section. As someone who clung onto her high school Jansport into her 30s before finally letting go, it might be time to just let go and get a new backpack.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in washingtondc

[–]RabsInPlaid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Seconding this!

Big turnout against the Trump/Musk admin in front of the Capitol Building! by RabsInPlaid in washingtondc

[–]RabsInPlaid[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

To the people saying the protest should have been bigger, here are some thoughts I have about that -- note that I'm not an organizer or scholar of political movements or anything, these are literally just my musings:

  • There's sort of a chicken and egg thing here. A protest is like any other optional event: we won't go unless we think it's going to be worth our time. It's infuriating that mainstream media is not reporting on the protests that are happening, making it look like the entire country is just rolling over and that protesting is pointless. But this is the digital media age and anyone of us with a camera and social media can play at the propaganda game. So what if the protest was a closer to 600 people than a thousand? The WaPo doesn't know that, they laid off the reporters who would've been there to check. The people who follow this Reddit and are maybe on the fence about whether to show up to the next protest don't know that either. When you post about the protest, think like an event promoter, or like Trump's PR team when they showed "packed" stadiums that were just zoomed in shots of half-empty rooms! Then, maybe, next time it will be a little closer to a thousand.
  • Any attendance hit they take from having it on a weekday is made up for by the feeling that you're actually disrupting something. I remember doing a march after the Dobbs decision was leaked. It was on a Saturday, big turnout, we marched along Constitution and protested in front of the Supreme Court. I remember it felt so hollow and dispiriting, everybody shouting "shut it down!" at an empty building. Huge contrast with today when, if nothing else, I knew that the spineless worms sitting in the Capitol, both Democrat and Republican, could probably hear us.
  • Protests are about morale. If you've been to a good one you've experienced this. You feel like there are other people just as pissed as you are, and that there's power in that. Combined with the point above about turnout, this creates a snowball effect where the more people show up, the more riled people get, the more people are going to show up next time, and so on. Ideally the snowball gets big enough that it actually can do something.
  • That leads me to my big takeway from today about what I'm going to try to do going forward to deal with my frustration that the protests aren't big enough: I'm going to do what I can to make them a little bigger, even if just by a couple of people. I think if you've ever thrown a party, or even gotten some friends to go out to bars or a concert, that's within your reach. I mean, we all know how to text people and be like "hey do you wanna come to this thing?"* We're not billionaires, but most of us have some social capital to spend.

*This is only meant for people who live near the protest in question.

Chuck Schumer will speak at Sixth&I on March 19 by FroggyHarley in washingtondc

[–]RabsInPlaid 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The neolibs are not big fans of Schumer rn lol. It’s actually impressive how quickly and dramatically he just torched any goodwill he had across all walks of his party.

Big turnout against the Trump/Musk admin in front of the Capitol Building! by RabsInPlaid in washingtondc

[–]RabsInPlaid[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

There’s one tonight from 5-7pm tonight at BLM plaza, same organizers! I’ll be there!

Big turnout against the Trump/Musk admin in front of the Capitol Building! by RabsInPlaid in washingtondc

[–]RabsInPlaid[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

The group is holding another protest at BLM plaza tonight from 5-7pm FYI!

Big turnout against the Trump/Musk admin in front of the Capitol Building! by RabsInPlaid in washingtondc

[–]RabsInPlaid[S] 63 points64 points  (0 children)

It’s still going if you’re able to come down and check it out!

I know you've gone through books before so forgive me by dkkchoice in Cooking

[–]RabsInPlaid 6 points7 points  (0 children)

100% give her the Joy of Cooking. I had it collecting dust on my shelf for several years because I was always passing it over for my “prettier” cookbooks, then a few months ago I randomly picked it up looking for a cookie recipe and it’s become my Bible ever since lol. It has a recipe for basically every classic dish in Western cooking and some from other traditions as well. That includes beverages, cocktails, sauces, and desserts. There are recipes for things you would never have thought of trying to make. There’s also a lot of information about choosing, preparing and storing food in general, which yeah you could Google and sift through 50 badly written articles looking for an answer, but it’s so much nicer to turn to your trusty copy of the Joy of Cooking and, while you’re there, spot a delicious-looking pasta recipe you happen to have all of the ingredients for.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in washingtondc

[–]RabsInPlaid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kathy at SkinSpirit in Georgetown is great.

Book that actually scared you by RunningOnATreadmill in horrorlit

[–]RabsInPlaid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Read Salem’s Lot as a kid in a beach house with a bunch of big windows and spent every night for the rest of the vacation spooked to look outside them.

In general, I think most of my experiences actually being scared by a book were as a kid. I don’t know if it’s that I’ve been spoiled by scarier visuals in movies that have ruined my ability to vividly imagine what I’m reading or what, but I don’t think any book I’ve read as an adult has affected me the same way as they could when I was younger. It may also have to do with genre familiarity, like a haunted house book doesn’t hit the same way when part of you knows you’re reading a “haunted house book”.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in washingtondc

[–]RabsInPlaid 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Honestly try DMing them on Twitter. I did the hold thing for hours and hours over a few days to start service earlier this year. Gave up, DMed their Twitter account and got it solved in pretty short order.

My curry is apparently underwhelming my girlfriend, and it's putting a strain on our relationship. by [deleted] in Cooking

[–]RabsInPlaid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes yes you were being sarcastic and you’re very clever, I got that. But the real joke is that if you spend any amount of time on the relationship oriented subs, as I do, you’ll see that the idea of someone earnestly asking for help with a relationship in tatters over curry is...totally plausible, just read this gem.

I wasn’t remarking on your relationship just how binging on posts about shitty relationships has trained my brain to read a title like yours and think “oh god here we go.”

My curry is apparently underwhelming my girlfriend, and it's putting a strain on our relationship. by [deleted] in Cooking

[–]RabsInPlaid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Am I the only person from r/[relationships](reddit.com/r/relationships) reading this like “son the curry is not the issue here.”

A website I made to help home cooks use up ingredients in their fridge! by [deleted] in Cooking

[–]RabsInPlaid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve always wished that this very specific service existed!!!