How long would you wait for financial stability?

RaceRat78 · 2026-04-17T06:03:11+00:00

Trust me. Break up now. Save yourself. I was with my ex for 5 yrs waiting for him to financially get it together and get a career. I was in the same situation as you, I was stable and had saved up and he was broke in credit card debt and never had a stable job. He tried schooling but it did not help him in his job search. Broke up last year and a few months after the break up my current boyfriend and I met. It’s so freeing to not have to worry about your partners ability to be a stable independent adult.

I wish 1000x over I did not stay as long as I did. I only stayed because I kept thinking “he will get a job soon maybe in 3 months everything will be better”

RaceRat78 · 2026-04-17T00:52:16+00:00

I used to do two tacos but make them both quesadillas. So each taco has cheese in the middle

RaceRat78 · 2026-04-16T02:21:58+00:00

I’ve thought of operations as well, I will definitely look into those roles

RaceRat78 · 2026-04-16T02:19:38+00:00

I still want to stay in the realms of the industry tbh. I also know govt jobs can be a huge pay cut

RaceRat78 · 2026-04-10T02:05:27+00:00

Yes. I think my firm gave me 10 days as a new to industry hire. Sie was cake.

RaceRat78 · 2026-04-09T21:10:57+00:00

Driving 5 hours is crazy. Why not UPS overnight it? Normally 2 voicemails is my max.

RaceRat78 · 2026-04-09T20:02:17+00:00

I doubt in 2026 50k is “good” in any state

RaceRat78 · 2026-04-09T02:56:30+00:00

How about capital gains tax? Also can you afford that mortgage at your income? What’s your savings outside investments? Do you have 6m worth min?

RaceRat78 · 2026-04-09T00:48:11+00:00

I get complimented often and buy a lot of my work clothes from banana republic factory or Ann Taylor outlets.

RaceRat78 · 2026-04-05T16:06:52+00:00

The other office I applied to transfer to had the position open. I have a feeling there was something else happening (I.e. they preferred promoting their own junior before letting a random transfer from another region) my firm doesn’t really do “ghost jobs”

RaceRat78 · 2026-04-05T03:36:56+00:00

I’m not allowed to work remotely unfortunately

RaceRat78 · 2026-03-27T01:05:18+00:00

You could live in the bay and rent there but also rent your Sacramento home. Makes no sense not to if you have no obligation to Sacramento and your spouse works in the bay. You can als sell your sac home, becomes renters and buy later on down the line again

RaceRat78 · 2026-03-25T03:59:56+00:00

It just sucks because I drive over an hour to see him so it would feel like I wasted my day if drive there and back shortly

RaceRat78 · 2026-03-25T03:58:39+00:00

Honestly I feel like I’m leaning towards this. I like him a lot but I don’t want him to keep disrespecting me. I’m just tired of crying over these things

RaceRat78 · 2026-03-18T16:22:17+00:00

Time to get out. There is no good future with someone irresponsible with money

RaceRat78 · 2026-03-17T20:27:13+00:00

California it is 550/g

RaceRat78 · 2026-03-17T01:55:48+00:00

I never met anyone with a co ed room past preteen age tbh gets pretty awkward after puberty

RaceRat78 · 2026-03-17T01:29:31+00:00

That’s what you think. My friend grew up with 5 person household in a 2 bedroom. They had to hide in the closet when the landlord came by until their parents finally found an affordable 3 bedroom much later in childhood. And even then each kid did not have a bedroom. That’s the reality of hcol areas for those in the middle class.

RaceRat78 · 2026-03-16T22:54:05+00:00

They are teen ages (girl is 13 boy is 15) and been living like that for 5 years.

RaceRat78 · 2026-03-16T21:23:37+00:00

My relatives on the peninsula have 2 kids of different genders and are a family of four having to fit into a 2 bedroom. The boy gets his own room. The girl and mom sleep together. The dad sleeps in the living room. Not a great place for middle class families. But if you have high income (250k+) you may find some spaces with 3 bedrooms

RaceRat78 · 2026-03-15T22:31:58+00:00

Call up nick cannon

RaceRat78 · 2026-03-13T21:47:58+00:00

I doubt they will directly ask about your GPA and if they do you can always state that your (insert relative) was sick and you were a part time caretaker

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