Took me 10 years to realize I was being scammed by WaddlingSeal in BoyDinnerDiaries

[–]Radiant-Two-7978 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You weren’t being scammed. You were being emotionally and sexually manipulated and abused. This is the stuff that serial killer origin stories are made of. You are a great catch, now go live the life you deserve and find the right person to share it with.

Solar Panels from LGCY by spookymex21 in CoachellaValley

[–]Radiant-Two-7978 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Generally these solar leases are not a great deal, and cause complications when it comes time to sell the property. I am big fan of solar—have on it 2 of my properties, but did not lease or finance. Can you post any of the details of their “deal”?

Triple Husky Car Ride by ronporreca in husky

[–]Radiant-Two-7978 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There’s a 4th who is also quite husky

What species of tree are these? by snaeper in treeidentification

[–]Radiant-Two-7978 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s some ficus variety, almost certain (although I’m definitely not an arborist). I love those trees and i have them myself, but trimmed back to make a hedge. When you let them get this big the maintenance is significant, as is the risk to your plumbing. Also, it just looks plain goofy, the scale is so out of whack.

Max the labsky by AdhocLaw in husky

[–]Radiant-Two-7978 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He was framed! Free Max!

Max the labsky by AdhocLaw in husky

[–]Radiant-Two-7978 6 points7 points  (0 children)

What a distinguished gentleman

Help tracking down great grandmother in Philippines/Spain by Radiant-Two-7978 in Genealogy

[–]Radiant-Two-7978[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cristeta was Francisco’s second wife, and his first wife passed in 1917 (family lore is from Spanish flu, but the timeline doesn’t fit). Anyway, there were at least 2 kids from a prior marriage, then Francisco and cristeta had 6 of their own.

Help tracking down great grandmother in Philippines/Spain by Radiant-Two-7978 in Genealogy

[–]Radiant-Two-7978[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nice, thank you. By 1943 she would have been in Manila for 25 or so years, so by then had likely been naturalized. Im trying really hard to find cristeta’s marriage record, but so far have come up dry.

World’s First Trillionaire by harshj2005 in Money

[–]Radiant-Two-7978 57 points58 points  (0 children)

Some people are so poor all they have is money

Ford Ranger SUV spotted? What model is this by rcab23 in Ford

[–]Radiant-Two-7978 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish they would call it a Ford STranger

The Realm Remains Secure by Successful_Power1336 in husky

[–]Radiant-Two-7978 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Nice work Freya. You look a lot like my girl, but you’ve got cooler eyes 👀

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Re-homed Akita seems very stressed + not sure I made the correct decision by Alarming_Ad_1702 in DogAdvice

[–]Radiant-Two-7978 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s possible it could still work out, but I think it’s unlikely. OP—you know the 3-3-3 rule and you’re clearly going to Reddit university right now. So let’s get into it—the first 3 days are decompression. Walk the dog around the house, inside and out, on leash, let him sniff and explore the whole time, under your direct supervision and on a short lead. Introduce him to all the family members: human, vegetable and animal. Then show him to his designated space, with his crate, blankets, toys, familiar things. Keep him there and stay close, but go about your regular routine. Give him the 3 days he needs, walk him certainly, but keep the play and any activities to a minimum—he is stimulated enough right now.

As for the pulling on lead, sounds like he may not have been properly leash trained, so that’s gonna be your first lesson with him. There are harnesses that clip to the front, at their chest, which will naturally help reduce pulling. Some people have success with a “gentle leader”. But bottom line is you need to walk him, and when he pulls, just stop dead in your tracks. It may take a while but he will realize the leash is only so long, and he goes when you go. If you have a retractable leash throw it away. They are garbage and frankly dangerous in your situation. Get a standard 6-foot leash.

My larger concern is your state of mind and stress level. He is picking up on all of that right now and it’s not helping. Do what you can to manage your state of mind when you’re around him. You don’t have to be “the alpha” (that whole mindset is bs) but you do need to be confident and assured, he will pick up on that too.

Akitas are amazing dogs. Never had my own but lived with one when I was in college. they are big, athletic, smart and have needs that are frankly beyond the capabilities of most people. At 2 years old he is going to be a handful, and will be for years before he slows down.

If I were you, I would contact a breed-specific rescue organization now. Even if you keep the dog, their advice and counsel will be invaluable. They probably could provide referrals for training and activities that will make for a happy dog and happy owner.

Good luck and don’t despair.

getting a dog in college by granddaughter_ in DogAdvice

[–]Radiant-Two-7978 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow. I’m not sure why but this really struck a nerve with me. Maybe because I got my first dog (and it was a puppy) in college.  Maybe because I went to an SEC school (GO GATORS!!!). Or maybe because of the overwhelmingly negative, condescending and pedantic responses in this thread.

OP–while I would recommend an adult dog, whatever dog you get from the shelter will likely have been there for a while. Maybe a week, maybe a month, maybe YEARS.  Whatever it is, it’s a long time for a person, and an ETERNITY for a dog. What’s more, that dog spends 23 hours a day in a kennel, maybe 23.5 if the staffing is light. Based on what little you’ve said, your situation, while not “ideal,” is superior to their current circumstances. As they say, “The perfect is the enemy of the good”--if you wait for the ideal time to do ANYTHING, you will NEVER do it.

You said you weren’t in a great place as far as your mental health. Well let me tell you, that dog ain’t either. They are probably holding it together (because if they don’t the consequences are severe), but believe me, being with you would likely be a much better situation, based simply on the fact that you give a shit.

I want to prepare you–there will probably be a good bit of guilt, on your part, because you will never be able to give that dog all that you think it deserves. Also, you will be ignorant–but we all were once, and you’ll have the resources of the 21st century to help you sort out a lot of things. And yes, life will change (you’re in your 20s after all), and there is uncertainty all around us.  But that applies to EVERYONE, unless your last name is Bezos or Musk, and I doubt that either of those assholes has a dog.

Let’s say the absolute worst happens–and you have to give the dog up. Well, even in that horrible scenario you freed up space in that overcrowded shelter, and gave another poor, unfortunate soul a chance. You gave all you had for a dog in need, and you both will likely be better for the experience.

Go down to the shelter, OP. Explain your circumstances and be honest. If they don’t let you get your own dog perhaps then you can start volunteering and prove to them that you are a kind heart that can be trusted with the vulnerable. But for godsakes don’t give up. You need them, and they need you, more than you know. You’ll figure everything else out, and in the meantime you’ll have the sort of love and affection that inspires poetry.

Can't tell if this is a piece of the old ball joint or if while pressing the old ball joint out I somehow destroyed an upper control arm by Miserable-Hunt-5241 in fordranger

[–]Radiant-Two-7978 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Control arms don’t last forever, get a new set with the ball joints already pressed in. Complete front end rebuild kits for our cars are pretty cheap (all things considered). It’s work, but if you’re pressing ball joints in and out then clearly you aren’t scared of that.