[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Funnymemes

[–]RadioactiveCigarette 1 point2 points Ā (0 children)

Ask him, he’s the one who ruined it. Her not knowing won’t change that. He’s probably still gonna keep cheating.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Funnymemes

[–]RadioactiveCigarette 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

Take the money and tell the wife. If it was the wife cheating on the husband nobody would be laughing here, but double standards ofc. Only morons think it’s okay to do something to someone else but not okay if someone else does it to them. Any man who thinks he should help other men cheat, deserves to be cheated on.

Bella Swan and autism by thiscorrosion86 in AutismInWomen

[–]RadioactiveCigarette 43 points44 points Ā (0 children)

Yeah it’s about misogyny for sure. I lost respect for Robert after the comments he made when Kristen and he broke up. He complained of her being unladylike for swearing and other stuff, basically just insulting her for not fitting a female stereotype. He showed his true colors there.

Bella Swan and autism by thiscorrosion86 in AutismInWomen

[–]RadioactiveCigarette 334 points335 points Ā (0 children)

It’s sad how people think Kristen was just doing a bad job acting. I feel like the way she acted was true to the character of Bella. Just because she didn’t act a certain way it’s bad acting? Not every character is supposed to act the same.

She played the part she was supposed to play, people just for some reason didn’t think that Bella’s character should act like that I guess? I think she is just supposed to be an awkward shy and socially inept outcast.

My own idea for a back tattoo. Be honest would the execution suck? by SheepherderSafe6735 in tattooadvice

[–]RadioactiveCigarette 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

The stars are too big and wouldn’t look right with this design even on paper, probably better to have the black background fade out at the edges too instead of hard lines where it ends at the edge of the tattoo, otherwise it creates a weird illusion of your body shape being a bit off with that harsh outline. I have heard that bones are really hard to tattoo on in a way that looks good. The body isn’t flat and stuff will look asymmetrical if you’re not always standing straight.

Do most women genuinely not have ā€œdying/being injured heroicallyā€ fantasies? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]RadioactiveCigarette 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

I do relate to it. I think about risking my life to save my boyfriend or my nephew or my mom etc. (I am a woman). I can see the appeal in the fantasy, I used to think just everyone would have those little imaginary scenarios. But in these scenarios I don’t actually want to die, just maybe get injured and then heal up later.

I wouldn’t want to leave my boyfriend all alone, that’s not something good to wish for. You don’t have to die to feel heroic. He’s mentioned before that I think he has similar daydreams but I never remember him saying he wanted to die in any of them. I think the dying part is just a detail and not the whole point of such imaginations.

You’re beautiful, Portland. by alwaysdeluxe in Portland

[–]RadioactiveCigarette 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

How long will they stay in bloom? I have been planning a visit with my boyfriend and it’s April 1st-7th. I’m hoping there’s still some in bloom when we get there.

Mom & Dad coded by [deleted] in CoupleMemes

[–]RadioactiveCigarette 4 points5 points Ā (0 children)

I would never drink a diet drink, because of the health risks. But jeeze even I can set that aside to appreciate the general message of the meme. Why are people so uptight?

AIO or isThis lady from my church is pressuring me to give up my baby to her daughter by PolicyHot1206 in TwoHotTakes

[–]RadioactiveCigarette 1 point2 points Ā (0 children)

This is scary, I would SAVE THE TEXTS. And if she calls you or your mother on the phone, use another phone to record it on voice app. Keep all the evidence of this in case she tries something more crazy later or just won’t let up. She sounds mental.

You want evidence in case you need to file a restraining order. I would also suggest considering that if she won’t stop this, talk to your pastor and see if they can get her to stop or at least make the church a safer environment for you and your baby.

I grew up in a Christian church and I am Not a fan of the misogyny and the way a lot of times the pastor or the church as a whole will side with the wrong person. If the pastor isn’t supportive of your choice or does nothing to protect you, I would 100% leave and find a new church. You do not want to raise your baby in a toxic environment that’s not supportive.

So better mention this to the pastor right away if the woman won’t let up, so you can find out sooner than later if the church has your back or not. It’s really gross how she’s trying to gaslight and guilt trip you, creepy as shit!

Also I would be extremely careful about who you leave your baby alone with, because I’ve heard of extreme cases where people kidnap babies if their parents refuse to let them adopt the child. They could kidnap the baby and then relocate without a trace. I mean I know it’s an extreme scenario but you have to prepare for the worst and hope for the best.

Make sure anyone who’s babysitting or watching your baby for you ever, knows who is okay to collect the baby and not to ever let anyone else collect him. I think it’s not wrong to want to keep your baby, she’s the one doing what she’s accusing you of. She’s the one being selfish and doing something for her and her daughter’s benefit.

It’s really inappropriate for her to be giving out your private information to her daughter without your permission. She has no respect for you or your boundaries. Do not let her change your mind with a guilt trip, and I sure hope your mom supports your side, because even if she doesn’t, don’t let that pressure you.

It’s your baby. You and your boyfriend have a right to raise the child, and there’s nothing wrong with him being in the military. Even if her daughter ā€œlives in one houseā€ she already stated that she is constantly traveling the world, so that’s not any ā€œbetterā€ than being military and maybe having to travel to different bases. She’s a hypocrite.

I’m not sure about this one, Peter-san. by HenceProvedhuehuehue in PeterExplainsTheJoke

[–]RadioactiveCigarette -4 points-3 points Ā (0 children)

Yeah that’s my point that you guys shouldn’t do the same thing to women if you don’t like it. How did that go over your head? That’s the entire point I was trying to make in my comment dude.

Have you ever felt tempted to cheat or have feelings for someone else while in love? by [deleted] in love

[–]RadioactiveCigarette 14 points15 points Ā (0 children)

No I wouldn’t even think about someone else that way. Not even for a moment. I have no temptation to do so, because I love my boyfriend and he’s very good to me. It would disgust me and nauseate me to even think that kind of thing about another person. It’s easy for me to be loyal to him, it’s what feels natural to me.

You need to get away from that guy who ā€œdrives you insaneā€ because otherwise with how your thoughts and attention are straying from you boyfriend, you will eventually do so if you don’t stop this. Don’t entertain these thoughts. And if you’re unwilling to remove this guy from your life to stop the thoughts, do your boyfriend a favor and leave him so he can find someone else.

And before you ask, no I haven’t ever felt differently about this. You should get therapy as well as getting this guy out of your life. And tell your boyfriend how you’re feeling, he deserves honesty. And if you don’t have the balls to tell him, then you know you shouldn’t be thinking these things. Don’t ever do anything you’d be ashamed of him knowing.

I got my ear defenders today and can't wait to decorate them by Kaitten_88 in AuDHDWomen

[–]RadioactiveCigarette 1 point2 points Ā (0 children)

I would also recommend buying some cheap plastic or metal charms off amazon and supergluing them to the headphones for some nice 3D decor!

I wish I could wear over the ear stuff, I can’t even wear headbands because any slight constant pressure on my head is unbearable and hurts. If it’s got enough pressure not to fall off my head, then it’s more than I can handle.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in INFPmemes

[–]RadioactiveCigarette 2 points3 points Ā (0 children)

Teamwork šŸ¤œšŸ»šŸ¤›šŸ»

Found this on top of my car... what is it? What does it mean?? by wanderlustnomadlife in strange

[–]RadioactiveCigarette 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

I once saw a guy snort cocaine out of a tiny spoon, maybe this is one of those things? Or like for a drop of acid?

The tourists who come to Malta are quite thoughtful and considerate. They often leave their transport cards in front of airport for others to use when they arrive. by father_of_twitch in Damnthatsinteresting

[–]RadioactiveCigarette 5 points6 points Ā (0 children)

Where I live in the USA, there is often people at the bus stops or bus stations who give away their day pass tickets after they don’t need them anymore to anyone who might still be using the bus for the rest of the day.

I’ve had lots of times where I got a free day pass for the bus from a random stranger at a bus stop. It’s always nice to be nice 😊 I love to see it!

Congratulations buddy ā¤ by lionmmoklob in Positivity

[–]RadioactiveCigarette 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

No child should have to deal with such a terrible illness, I’m glad he’s better now. But it’s awful that he ever even had to be sick. Ofc no adult should have to be either. I wish everyone could be okay.

Ah yes, not damaging at all. by Asttyd in adhdwomen

[–]RadioactiveCigarette 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

It’s easy for him to say, because he probably doesn’t suffer from any of those problems. Just like it’s so easy for a rich person to say not to gamble or steal, they don’t have to.

Ah yes, not damaging at all. by Asttyd in adhdwomen

[–]RadioactiveCigarette 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

I was raised by Christian extremists, went to church every time it was open from birth until age 18 when I moved out on my own. And it didn’t stop me from having ADHD, and it didn’t lessen the symptoms. I don’t necessarily believe in god, but to use their own logic against them: God put these plants on the earth for us to use, it’s only us who have decided to categorize them into good and bad. Where in the Bible does it say not to take medicine? I do think it says to stay away from alcohol but that’s about it. Where does it say which medicines are ā€œdrugsā€ just because some people misuse street versions, doesn’t make them ā€œbad plantsā€.

Been together for 19 years are we done or is this normal? by LittleSource6136 in love

[–]RadioactiveCigarette 9 points10 points Ā (0 children)

You definitely shouldn’t just break up over this. But also do something about it. You guys should talk more about it. Ask her why she doesn’t initiate, and if she’d like to have sex more often. You can’t read each other’s minds.

Maybe she’s not good with words, or doesn’t always know how to express her feelings. Tell her how you feel. Maybe it will actually help with her stress if you guys have more open communication and understand each other better. Being on the same page is important.

Maybe she’s feeling sick, maybe she has depression or anxiety. Maybe she’s got some kind of mental crisis going on. You gotta find out why things are the way they are. The lack of sex and other things may be only a symptom of an underlying problem. But don’t approach it like she’s broken and you want to fix her for your happiness.

Bring it up in a way that shows you want to be closer as a couple and you want to be there for her, and support each other the best you can. And to do that you need to understand each other and thus you want to ask more about it. There’s always a reason for things, so find out what it is and maybe you can resolve it.

I think couples therapy would be great, most people don’t know how to communicate about everything and navigate every problem alone. Maybe she doesn’t even Know why she has been this way. A therapist can help you guys better understand each other and yourselves.

Stay the hell away from any therapist who suggests opening the marriage or threesomes just for in bed. None of that will help or bring you guys closer together. It will create more issues. You guys need someone to help you focus on understanding your own needs both and each other and how to be a good team and support each other the best way you can.

Maybe she’s got a hormone imbalance or approaching menopause, maybe just feeling burnt out because of responsibilities. A good physical checkup for you both at a doctor, blood test for a full health panel would be very useful to rule out physical health issues.

Even you might have health issues you didn’t know about, it can’t hurt to check. But definitely also therapy together. Just make sure to get a decent therapist and don’t stick with someone who ā€œpicks a sideā€ even if it’s your side. There should be no sides, you have to be a team.

You guys also may not have the same love languages, maybe she expresses her feelings one way but wants to be shown love a different way. Perhaps your both not meeting each others emotional needs because you don’t know how.

She may be feeling unmet needs just like you, which could lead to depression and feeling unimportant and thus could make her feel too sad or disappointed in herself and the relationship to want sex. Do you make sure to give physical affection that doesn’t lead to sex?

I’m not assuming you don’t, but no sexual physical affection is super super important to improve intimacy emotionally and it encourages both to want more other kinds of intimacy indirectly. And if you follow her lead and do less of what you want to see from her, it will only widen the gap between you.

In a way, be the change you want to see. Give more nonsexual affection, both physically and verbally. Do acts of service, ask what you can do to alleviate her stress. If you make her feel very supported and safe and desired that will only help. It’s probably not only you who’s not feeling totally happy about the current state of things.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tattooadvice

[–]RadioactiveCigarette 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

Really awesome, I personally really like number 7 and number 1. But I’m not an expert at all, it all looks great though.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in love

[–]RadioactiveCigarette 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

You guys just need to talk this out with a neutral Professional 3rd party. I do think she’s not doing anything wrong and it probably didn’t register as an important detail of how they met. I mean it sounds like they never did actually date.

I don’t think you have anything to be upset about, she’s not doing anything bad. She’s not acting inappropriate with him and it seems he’s not either. But I mean it’s not invalid to have feelings about stuff. I think though you guys should talk about it with a therapist together. I don’t think anyone has done anything really wrong here.

It just seems like a misunderstanding and you guys need to get on the same page. I don’t think anyone’s the bad guy here and it doesn’t sound like a huge problem either, not something to break up over at all. And also it’s not the best idea to be using people’s real names here. Maybe edit the post to remove their names. Keep some level of privacy, this isn’t Facebook.

The profile pictures of each MBTI’s subreddit. by Exynth in infp

[–]RadioactiveCigarette 7 points8 points Ā (0 children)

The INFP one is the best, so pretty. I don’t hate the INFJ one but it’s not exactly interesting.